I don't know why I keep going to ObesityHelp.com. It is seriously RNY-centered over there. Every time someone posts a question about Lap-bands in the main forum, they get sent off like a leper to the Lap-band forum. It's like they give bandsters their own little corner of OH and then expect them to stay there and never come out. On April 1st, one of the guys from the band board went and posted on the main board. It was meant to be both an April Fools joke and a poke at the RNYers that act like their surgery is the best surgery to have. Of course, it started all sorts of crap. People were flaming each other and the thread got locked. Now the lap-band forum has a stickied post at the top, reminding all who post there that the whole point of OH is acceptance, yadda, yadda, yadda. Of course, there isn't a post like that in the RNY forum or in the main forum. Only the Lap-Band forum deserved to be scolded as a whole, apparently. Pisses me off to no end, especially since a some of the RNY folks who post in the main forum like to make outright mean and misinforming posts about the lap-band and the people who have that surgery.

We aren't the only ones who found her distasteful. I remember that she "moderated" my surgeons board "at his request"...

Right about the time she told me I needed to schedule a flight because I had a leak, I gave up on my surgeons support board.

Wow. That was the third board she was banned from? Geeze, if I were her, I'd be reevaluating my behavior.

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/showthread.php?t=6847&highlight=sandyrn

We aren't the only ones who found her distasteful. I remember that she "moderated" my surgeons board "at his request"...

Right about the time she told me I needed to schedule a flight because I had a leak, I gave up on my surgeons support board.

Well! THAT sure was an INTERESTING LINK! :omg:

Wow. That was the third board she was banned from? Geeze, if I were her, I'd be reevaluating my behavior.

That would require a recognition of flawed behavior.

Hi,

Excuse me is this the LAP BAND PRACTITIONER’S UNIVERSITY ?

I am lost and cannot find my class…Lap Band practice 101.

Well I have not been here in a while; I came back because I was feeling blue.:cry :cry

Yesterday a friend told me that a group of “Friends” went out to eat together and had a conversation in my honor:tired

“Sure, she lost a lot of weight, but she took the easy way, she got that band crap” “Like that anybody can do it, how come she didn’t diet and exercised like everyone else” ”She is just f… lazy!!! (The biotch who said this is a size 16)

What the @##&*^&%$^%$ !!!!! Damn if you are fat, you are a pig and if you lose weight, you are a lazy biotch that took the easy road.

Like having the band doen’t take discipline and exercising!!! Oh I’m soooo angry!!!

Rolling on the floor...... :heh:

http://www.lapbandtalk.com/showthread.php?t=6847&highlight=sandyrn

We aren't the only ones who found her distasteful. I remember that she "moderated" my surgeons board "at his request"...

Right about the time she told me I needed to schedule a flight because I had a leak, I gave up on my surgeons support board.

All I can say is "Wow". There are a lot of people out there very frustrated. And rightfully so.

That would require a recognition of flawed behavior.

Unfortunately, I've run into many people like that. Everything that happens to them and every time they get punished for something, it is always someone else's fault. They can't take responsibility for their own actions, and they seem to not be able to associate their own behavior with what's happening to them.

Wow. That was the third board she was banned from? Geeze, if I were her, I'd be reevaluating my behavior.

Honestly, that will never happen. It's always everyone else.

Hey I was proud of myself when I got to be a 16 (used to be a 20).

Why is it that sometimes as women we cannot support other women? I cannot imagine a group of guys saying. Hey Jhonny looks good, for sure he is wearing some spandex under his slacks. Or for sure he got a pecks lift or some %$^%$ like that .....

Hey I was proud of myself when I got to be a 16 (used to be a 20).

Why is it that sometimes as women we cannot support other women? I cannot imagine a group of guys saying. Hey Jhonny looks good, for sure he is wearing some spandex under his slacks. Or for sure he got a pecks lift or some %$^%$ like that .....

Because our society has basically forced us to become bitches and compete with each other. That's why we wear make-up, high heels, jewelry, etc. We've been programmed to believe that we, as the female of the species, must be attractive to males at all times, and that we are in direct competition with other females. What I would give for us to be like many animal species, where the male has to do all the work of attracting a mate and competing with other males.

Because our society has basically forced us to become bitches and compete with each other. That's why we wear make-up, high heels, jewelry, etc. We've been programmed to believe that we, as the female of the species, must be attractive to males at all times, and that we are in direct competition with other females. What I would give for us to be like many animal species, where the male has to do all the work of attracting a mate and competing with other males.

When I was thin I enjoyed looking good. I loved the spiked heels, hose with the seam up the back, black dress... the works. Even if I was programmed that way, I still enjoyed it. It wasn't to attract males, I have one. I just enjoyed looking good in that little itty bitty black dress.

Laurend: You are right!!!

Maybe is not society the one imposing certain standards on us, maybe is us as women. We feel that we have to impress other women, not exactly our own man or other man, but OTHER women.

I have three brothers. My brother was saying: Where you girls see a big butt, we see beautiful curves. Where you see a "fat" girl we see a voluptuous woman."You girls think that you know exactly what man like, and the reality is that is you women the ones that are so freaking hard on each other".

So are we bad to each other or what?? I have tons of acquintances but only one best friend. Growing up my best friend was a guy.

When I was thin I enjoyed looking good. I loved the spiked heels, hose with the seam up the back, black dress... the works. Even if I was programmed that way, I still enjoyed it. It wasn't to attract males, I have one. I just enjoyed looking good in that little itty bitty black dress.

I've never been thin, so I've always thought it was more work and downright pain (in the case of heels) than it was worth.

I've never been thin, so I've always thought it was more work and downright pain (in the case of heels) than it was worth.

Oh, there was a time when I did fall off my shoes. But I still like looking good. I want to go back to that, and I will. 45 more pounds and I'm there! Well, I'll be close anyway. That's the goal I think will get me there.

I'm tired of seeing my reflection and thinking, "Big fat cow." I want to be proud of myself again.

It isn't for anyone else, it's for me.

It isn't for anyone else, it's for me.

Perfect. We all should be "doing it for me". Really, it won't work any other way.

Good Luck!

Laurend: You are right!!!

Maybe is not society the one imposing certain standards on us, maybe is us as women. We feel that we have to impress other women, not exactly our own man or other man, but OTHER women.

I have three brothers. My brother was saying: Where you girls see a big butt, we see beautiful curves. Where you see a "fat" girl we see a voluptuous woman."You girls think that you know exactly what man like, and the reality is that is you women the ones that are so freaking hard on each other".

So are we bad to each other or what?? I have tons of acquintances but only one best friend. Growing up my best friend was a guy.

Your brother has it right.

Not many guys I know like STICKS. :biggrin1: