A woman I knew for so many years. I was friends with her and at the time of my surgery she was on the same floor and had some procedure done. I was a prisoner in my bed as most of you know as I could not walk. Her friends and family visited her in the hospital and for several days. They came in and out of the area I was in.

Not one of her family member came to see me or even peeked their heads in to say how are you or nothing.

Later when I was home under nurses care, they pulled into my driveway and her husband went to the garage where my husband was working on a hobby of his and told him that he never knew I was at the hospital and that I had been so sick...

My husband thanked him for coming but knew that he was lying right to his face. They knew I was there because another friend of mine kept him and his family in the loop about me being so ill.

He was shocked when he saw me before this in the hospital. I had to see plastics. He worked in that area. He looked at me but did not know it was me until my hubby stood behind my wheel chair and he literally gasped. ( I think then it really dawned on him that I had almost died ) The next week is when they came to our driveway and this wife was there because she wanted to take a peek at me and see for herself if it was all true. I did not go outside as I still could not manage the steps.

The reason I am recounting this story is because I saw her at the hospital last Friday and she and I were not 5 feet away from each other. I smiled at her because I am that kind of person. It is natural for me to just do that. She gave me the once over and furrowed her brows. i know she must have been in pain. But she could have smiled.

As we walked past each other our shoulders were less then a foot apart and she just kept right on going.

Years ago she depended on me to take her diabetic mother back and forth to the hospital. Once her mother even had a heart attack in the back seat of my car. Other things I was there for her too...but things changed with everyone I know once I had a nervous break down and went into a deep depression. Everyone stopped see me or talking to me...

I believe that she did not have a clue who I was. As I walked past her I smiled to myself and you know why? Because I don't care anymore about any of my former friends. It is a new beginning for me and since I don't look anything like the former me I don't have to fake it and be all nice and friendly when I know they don't give a Damn...

I am growing up folks. I am going forward and am realizing that not only have I changed on the outside but the changes on the inside are happening as well....

Just thought I would share!

Urrgh.. I really detest people like that.

Head up, shoulders back and carry on, darlin'.

These people are just leaves off a fall tree, blowing away in the breeze.

You, will be left basking in the sunshine, my sweet x

RJ, I want you to write a book--your life story. I love your posts! It is strange how relationships change over time. I have lost 3 people that I supported for years too. I don't always recognize selfishness until it is too late. I have learned to get over it, I guess. But I too will listen to Revs, "Head up, shoulders back and carry on, darlin'"

RJ, real friends don't ignore you in your darkest hour. They hold you and cry with you. With your new life, you need supportive positive people surrounding you, and "them ain't it". I think with new life we should emerge with a new purpose. My thinking is with Teachamy. You should put your posts together as a collection, and see if a book grows out of that. We love you here on the forum, and appreciate your hard earned wisdom that you so selflessly share with us.

Urrgh.. I really detest people like that.

Head up, shoulders back and carry on, darlin'.

These people are just leaves off a fall tree, blowing away in the breeze.

You, will be left basking in the sunshine, my sweet x

Thanks Rev's, your always a doll!

RJ, I want you to write a book--your life story. I love your posts! It is strange how relationships change over time. I have lost 3 people that I supported for years too. I don't always recognize selfishness until it is too late. I have learned to get over it, I guess. But I too will listen to Revs, "Head up, shoulders back and carry on, darlin'"

RJ, real friends don't ignore you in your darkest hour. They hold you and cry with you. With your new life, you need supportive positive people surrounding you, and "them ain't it". I think with new life we should emerge with a new purpose. My thinking is with Teachamy. You should put your posts together as a collection, and see if a book grows out of that. We love you here on the forum, and appreciate your hard earned wisdom that you so selflessly share with us.

Don't be too kind you'll make me cry!

RJ, you need to write your Butterfly book. You write so vividly and with passion. Your story inspires all of us. It would be an honor to be your friend in the real world. With shedding the pounds, we she'd other stuff too. It stings a bit but it's in the rear view. Keep it in drive because THAT kind of person does not deserve your friendship.

With Love! Jen from JensNewJourneys ( changed my name to CrazyJaney - long story, has to do with a Springsteen song - I know, I'm weird).

RJ, you need to write your Butterfly book. You write so vividly and with passion. Your story inspires all of us. It would be an honor to be your friend in the real world. With shedding the pounds, we she'd other stuff too. It stings a bit but it's in the rear view. Keep it in drive because THAT kind of person does not deserve your friendship.

With Love! Jen from JensNewJourneys ( changed my name to CrazyJaney - long story, has to do with a Springsteen song - I know, I'm weird).

I'm looking for quality friends.... You seem very nice! Thank you!

Edited March 21, 201412 yr by RJ'S/beginning