Hi,

My surgery is just over two weeks away now (Nov 6th) and up until this weekend I didn't have too many nerves about this, just the usual sensible concerns, but now I'm starting to doubt my decision and I was wondering if this is just a normal phase?

There is no doubt that I need to lose weight at 270 pounds, 5' 5'' and aged 49 I am really concerened about my health and mobility, especially in the future. I've been getting extra scared over the past year or so as my dad has type 2 diabeties and his health has really gone down in the past couple of years - he is now virtually housebound and extremly overweight and I can see myself going this way unless I do something about it.

I have dieted on and off all my life since I was about 14 years old - sometimes I've lost a lot of weight but I've always put it back on - and more!! But this operation is such a big thing to do and a little part of me wonders if I try to diet one more time maybe I'll get it right and not have to do this.... the other part of me says, don't be silly just how many times do you need to try and fail before you get the message that you need extra help!! silly I know but I just wondered if any of you have been through the same mixture of emotions and how you dealt with it.

I've been reading through so many bypass stories, good and bad, and the good really do seem to outnumber the bad so I can't really see any real reason not to go through with it - most days I'm just looking forward to getting the operation out of they way and starting on my brand new lifestyle, I'm lucky as my husband and daughter are right behind me with this decision, so hopefully this is just last minute nerves - sorry to have gone on so much.....

Remember that millions of people who have had bypasses since the 1970s are out living their lives and being happy, not posting on forums. The posts you see here are a small subset. It's good to read and learn from their experiences, but you have to keep them in perspective. You'll be fine, just follow your program and take good care of yourself!

Thank you for your very wise words, I'm hoping that I'll be one of the people who say that this was the best thing they've done :-)

My surgery is November 5. I'm having similar feelings. I think it is just "last minute jitters" - knowing that we still have time to back out! But, I've worked hard over the last year to get to this point. I jumped through all the hoops the insurance company required and all the steps my surgeon required. I've educated myself to the best of my ability so that I'll be prepared as possible for the post-op lifestyle and achieve a positive long-term outcome. So, I'm trying to celebrate the goal I'm about to reach that seemed so unattainable a year ago!

My surgery is November 5. I'm having similar feelings. I think it is just "last minute jitters" - knowing that we still have time to back out! But' date=' I've worked hard over the last year to get to this point. I jumped through all the hoops the insurance company required and all the steps my surgeon required. I've educated myself to the best of my ability so that I'll be prepared as possible for the post-op lifestyle and achieve a positive long-term outcome. So, I'm trying to celebrate the goal I'm about to reach that seemed so unattainable a year ago![/quote']

I'm very grateful for this site and to all of you here who help me realize that I'm not the only one with these thoughts. My surgery is Monday and I'm having a couple of little panic moments. Maybe, this pre-op diet helps make me a little emotional also.

Good luck to all of you guys. I keep thinking of you UK Molly, remembering yours is on the 6th :-)

Good luck to all of you guys. I keep thinking of you UK Molly' date=' remembering yours is on the 6th :-)[/quote']

Thank's that's so kind. Not long now and getting excited/nervous.... Hope you're recovering well :-)

Like you Molly, I was so afraid before getting the band that I backed out and cancelled about 4 times. I was more afraid of RNY but that is what I should have had. I was finally banded and needless to say, I made the wrong decision. Now I am 30 lbs lighter than I was before b/c I lost 45 lbs with the band and regained 15 lbs back. I weigh 215 now and have now started the RNY process. I have diabetes too and I've come to realize that it's nothing to play with. Yes, If I had your weight there would be no question about having RNY. I'm hoping it is a normal feeling b/c I am still terrified, But I cant afford to talk myself out of it this time and I am nearly 10 years older than you....WE NEED ALL PRAYERS!!