Hiya all, just a quick message, I got banded April '06 and my life has changed so much, no more binges , I have learned to love myself again and lost a good amount of weight, so dcided i was ready to go back into dating so went speed-dating expecting to meet a lot of frogs that I would have to kiss to meet my dream man, met someone straight off, but unexpectedly got dumped last nite,, as was told I was in too good a place!

Has anyone had a similar experience, i am tearful today trying to hang onto my pride, but don't go on a date with someone lightly, is it me just being too sensitive!?

XX Any advice appreciated!

Sounds like someone who wants to wallow in their misery and can't stand to see others happy because of how ugly they feel. At least this dude was considerate enough to not bring you down with him. You didn't need that kind of sh*t around you anyway.

I agree, don't sweat it . He's not for you. Just be yourself and you'll attract someone who will appreciate who you are.

My Grandma always used to say to "quit lookin'.....when you're lookin' they ain't!" At 24 I took her adivice, kept busy volunteering for the Optimist clubs haunted house fundraiser (I wasn't even a member!!) and guess what?....met my husband of almost 15 years!

I meant to reply to you sooner about this. That totally sucks that someone would tell you that you are just in "too good a place" to date. What does he want, someone who is totally depressed and not sure of what they want????

Hang in there, the right one will come along when you least expect it. That's usually how it works for me. I'm currently corresponding with someone from eHarmony. I have no idea what he looks like and he hasn't seen my picture either, but we did discuss our relative health just recently. I went ahead and told him that I had bariatric surgery and that it was lapband. Today I went in for another fill and told him about that as well. So far he hasn't made any comments but I have no idea what is going through his mind. But he is still communicating, so that's a good sign for now.

So, smile and put this guy behind you. He's not worthy of someone who's in "too good a place."

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Hiya all, just a quick message, I got banded April '06 and my life has changed so much, no more binges , I have learned to love myself again and lost a good amount of weight, so dcided i was ready to go back into dating so went speed-dating expecting to meet a lot of frogs that I would have to kiss to meet my dream man, met someone straight off, but unexpectedly got dumped last nite,, as was told I was in too good a place!

Has anyone had a similar experience, i am tearful today trying to hang onto my pride, but don't go on a date with someone lightly, is it me just being too sensitive!?

XX Any advice appreciated!

Sweetheart.....N-E-X-T!!! Too many people who ARE in 'a good place' themselves, and will want to be happy WITH you.

Blessing in disguise!! Hey...at least he loved you enough to know he didn't love you enough. Maybe he was intimidated by all the greatness your bringing about. We can go on and on about the maybe's , but ultimately it was HIS problem and had nothing to do with you....so don't beat yourself up.

Girl, there are so many fish in the pond, you will find someone, and if you do and don't like them, move on!!! I wish I could follow my own advice. I was in the 5 year relationship and the last 2 years was full of cheating, emotional and even physical abuse. I think it hurt my self-confidence, but I'm waiting to get the confidence to do one of those speed-dating things, so good for you!!!!!!!