You know, I came here looking for some help, info and support. Whenever I have posted I have gotten private messages as well as a few posts that weren't too suportive. I didn't come here to beg money off people or try to scam anyone. I am just a very, very sick fairly young (29) woman who needs help and is desperate to get this life saving surgery.

For those who have sent messages...

I have worked since I was 13 yrs old, and yes I could prove this in a court of law for all of those who are suspect of everyone. I have put in my taxes every year just like everyone else. I have never been one to ask for anything from anyone let alone a handout. However, when you are very ill and unable to work your whole life changes. Being 29 and basically living like someone 4 or 5 times my age is a horrible way to live.

All of that aside...I have found another board where people are actually very nice, and not suspect of everyone who comes along.

It seems that so many on here are caught up in being suspicious of others and their motives they don't really take the time to acutally try and help, maybe they just don't really care about much other than their own surgery and what is going on with them. Whatever.

To those few who have been nice and written suportive things....THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart.

Dahlia

I have to say that I don't understand why people make threads stating that they are leaving, and then never fail to show up later in the thread. It comes across as very "goodbye cruel world!" to me. It really shows that the entire thread was nothing more than a cry for attention, which is probably mimicking the same behavior that originally got her "flamed" (or so she says; we have no evidence beyond her claim that she got nasty PMs).

Threads like this one really are pointless. You can PM or email the people you like and let them know you are leaving. The rest of the people on the board don't matter. If they don't like you, they aren't really going to care that you're leaving.

Like I said earlier, this board will provide support if you really want it. That support isn't necessarily going to come in the "Yes, Dear. Anything you say, Dear." variety, though. People will tell you if they think what you are doing or saying is dangerous to yourself or if they think you are throwing a pity party for yourself. No matter what you are going through, I am sure that there are people here that have also been through it. They CAN help you, you just have to ask for it.

Wow, I haven't been here for a while and come back to major controversy. First off, shouldn't this thread be in the Rants and Raves section? Secondly, I have been on this board for about a year now. Everyone here helped me during the decision process, the surgery, my port flipping and continue to help. I have found nothing but wonderful support and people here. Sure, there are occassionally some less than helpful people, but you are going to find that anywhere you go. Some people just like to stir the pot. As for leaving, if you are not happy, then just leave. Starting a thread just to announce you are unhappy and leaving is being dramatic, in my opinion.

And I for one missed you Susan!!! And missed your opinions! Glad to see you again...how's the back?

Kat

Thanks for all the support goodbye

Thanks for all the support goodbye

Maybe NOW the thread can be killed? It was a three day 'good bye'.

No, honestly this thread should be stickied.

As a testament to how NOT to leave Lapbandtalk.com!!! LOL.

No, honestly this thread should be stickied.

As a testament to how NOT to leave Lapbandtalk.com!!! LOL.

No kidding. At other boards I used to be at, we would laugh about the "goodbye cruel world!" posts, because invariably the poster would be back. A lot of the time, they came back as "sock puppets" under another screen name and pretended to be completely different people.

Welcome back, Susan!

OK Now guys, I am going to vent on this! There are many of you that I am not so happy with. But I will address you as a whole and you will know if I mean you!

Yes, maybe she needed some attention, but do you think being RUDE and MEAN is the answer? There are a few that I once respected that have lost it.

When someone does this, they are crying out for help basically. You don't ahve to provide support at that point if you don't want to, but why verbally stone someone? If this is frustrating to you when someone does this I have a simple answer...don't respond! Being rude or mean is just pointless and adding to the fact that some people do not think this is a supportive place!

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Thanks for all the support everyone...or not.

Goodbye

Removing my former message, because I don't want to be accused of being "unsupportive". But really, this is getting funny.

Bye Dahlia, good luck with your band, and good luck finding a support group you feel at home with. Take Care.

Kat

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ummm enough?

AMEN, DonnaMarie!

Maybe NOW the thread can be killed? It was a three day 'good bye'.

I stand corrected. Now it's SIX days...and I'm sure we'll make it to 7, 8, 9...

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