My coworkers are pretty supportive about gastric bypass surgery and most of them know someone who has had it done.

However I am seeing a reoccurring theme around happiness and I would like some feedback from the forum.

Several people have told me that the people that have had gastric bypass surgery are having problems being happy with what they cannot eat at office functions. My coworkers say their friends concentrate on what they cannot have and their outlook has changed.

My wife is concerned that I will not be the positive person that I am now after surgery.

Any opinions?

You're as positive as you make yourself. I, myself, work in an office with 13 other women. Only one has to watch her weight. All use any excuse to have a pot luck plus weekly staff meetings where they order lunch. Here's how it goes: It's Wednesday, at 10 they start deciding on where to order from, by 11 they have what they want and call it in, at 11:30 someone leaves to pick it up, then mass consumption at 12 to 12:30.

Every birthday, every holiday...it's a potluck. I'm going to bring my lunch, I'm going to snack on my Snacks and I'm not going to dwell on the fact that, hey--not everyone is created equal.

I work next to a girl that weighs a buck and a quarter and she eats ALL DAY LONG. First off, she eats two waffles with Peanut Butter between them like a sandwich. Then she moves to the poptarts. It's messed up.

I'm just going to ignore what I can and have fun losing.

I kind of understand what you are saying/asking. Im only 3 weeks out so I'm not sure what it will be like in the future. I'm a trained chef and LOVE food. Since surgery I've bad no appetite and could care less about food. I used to find happiness in food, trying new things, going out to eat but now I'm more like "meh" to food.

And to add to that.... I am still a happy person like before. Just because I don't like food anymore doesn't mean I don't like all the other great things in my life.

I am struggling with this myself. I too amd 3 weeks out and find myself often thinking about how I used to eat and how food controlled my life. I still love to cook, but I find myself craving healthier things. I am also a happy person and am just starting to get the old me back. Food doesn't define who you are, and for the first times in our lives, we are going to be able to live a life free of cravings and being overweight.