I feel like I'm going crazy!

I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and when we first got together I was a complete mess. I had serious depression, my life was pretty much falling apart and he immediately started looking after me, like he sort of rescued me.

Then I had surgery in January this year. My life completely changed! I now exercise every day, I am so happy, I'm healthy and I feel alive again. It seems like my boyfriend doesn't really like the changes he sees. I think he likes to play the 'rescuer' role and now that I don't need that anymore I get very annoyed at him constantly looking over my shoulder, monitoring my every move.

He also hasn't made much of an effort to try to change with me, I want to go out and exercise, he wants to sit on the couch and eat pizza. I feel like he is holding me back from achieving more, he gets upset if I stay at the gym too late or if I mention I want to take an extra class etc.

He also doesn't contribute financially at all, which didn't used to bother me but why does it bother me now? I own my house and he doesn't pay me any rent, doesn't help with bills and he wastes his whole pay check every week.

I feel really terrible because he loves me so much and would do anything for me but I don't feel like I am in love anymore??

I read about the high number of break ups after the sleeve but I never thought it would happen to me.

Has anyone else gone through this/ going through this now?

Why was this relationship good for 2 years and you were ok with him not working or doing anything but now that you have changed you want him to leave' date=' I don't get that part. I usually see this when men get married and the wife wants a divorce. The wife didn't work the entire marriage nor contribute financially but now they are divorcing. Oh well if your not happy you should never settle but it seems like you both were using each other, you supported this guy because he came to your rescue. Now you say you don't need rescuing anymore.

You have to do whatever makes you happy but there may be some other issues that need to be addressed.[/quote']

I was in the shower and I couldn't stop thinking about what you said. Trying to find a reason as to why this is.

I think maybe it's because I had such low self esteem before that I didn't care if someone was taking advantage of me because in exchange I got affection and attention that I felt I couldn't get from anyone else.

Now that I am starting to love myself I think I deserve more, whereas before I could never say that. I thought I didn't deserve anything because I was worthless.

I wish you didn't make me explore these deeper issues!!!