Yesterday at work a woman pointed out that she noticed I had lost some weight. I thanked her and was glad people were starting to notice. Then she said... Well, why are you trying to loose weight??! Ummm.. Really! I said well. I'm fat aren't I? Lol. She laughed and moved on. Seriously, why?

Some people feel safer asking if you are trying to loose weight when they are secretly wondering if you are sick (cancer, etc...).

Yep, this. My grandpa lost a chunk of weight a couple of years back. Everyone commented on it and told him how great he looked. Turns out he had stage 4 lung cancer and was dying. Ever since then I refuse to bring up someone's weight loss unless they initiate the conversation because you just never know what's going on.

I second that, supbanana...I recall at work one time sort of teasing a very thin younger woman in my department...I felt bad a couple of years later when I found out she struggled with bulimia

jc2008, it could be that at her high weight, you don't look "that" big too her. People lose perspective sometimes, when their own weight is very high. Just a thought.