Let me first say I dont think of myself as a mean person. But, maybe I should rethink that.

We have a lady at work that I have always been friendly with. She hasnt been someone I would hang out with after work, but at work, when I used to smoke we would go out together, talk about our kids, etc..

She has always acted like the "perfect" 1950's sitcom mom. Even though she smokes like a stevadore, drinks like a fish, has a really bad dye job and a REALLY deep voice. Its been a contrast I struggled with. I felt she was fake.

I became really sick, gall bladder, 16 months ago. One morning I decided smoking tasted bad and made me sick. I threw away the pack and that was it. No craving, no withdrawl. I figure my body was too sick to bother. That seem to bother her. It was always the little comments, but I let them go.

When I first decided to see my doc about VSG, I was lucky to have a friend (real one) who was in the process. We discovered we both were thinking about it when we started walking at lunch.. She actually was just a month away from surgery. Again, this seem to bother this lady. After I was sleeved, the comments became about her being the "fat" friend. Why didnt we tell her sooner,how she was going to talk to her doc and get a sleeve.

I explained she probably wouldnt qualify, at 5'9" and about 175. Boy was she upset. The comments got thicker and she has acted more and more the martyr. UGH!!!

About 3 months ago I noticed she was putting on alot of weight. Probably about 50 lbs so far.

It was then I was done.

I cant even have a conversation with her anymore. She plays the "poor little me" and I just want to ***ch slap her.

I did this for my health. I had uncontrolled high BP, I will need knees replaced due to genetics and have to be ubder 200, borderline diabetic and neropathy in my feet and legs. I cant fathom putting on 75 lbs so you can be like "insert any name".

I just dont gave patience anymore for these games. I want to be active, be around active and happy people.

Has anyone else moved on from former friends due to lack of patience?

Well, I haven't moved on from friends for the exact reasons you did but I did move on from a friend who was just such a Debbie Downer that I just finally gave up! I think that's the reason you gave up on this one, not because she smoked or was overweight but because she had a way of bringing you down & we just don't need people like that in our lives ~ ever. I felt so free once I stopped communicating with that one friend. I felt bad too at times because I know she had problems but sometimes I felt she brought on her own problems. I do still think of her at times, even tho I moved 2000 miles away about 17 years ago & I do wish her well, but I also can't be happier about her not being in my life anymore!

Move on sweetie, & never look back!

With all due respect, this person was not and is not your friend. Depending on your respective jobs, you can maintain a professional workplace. Life is short, don't waste your time on Ms. Petty Me's problems

BayshoreBuddy,

Ok, how did my cat get into your picture?

I suspected Tigger was moonlighting as a model.

Riley is my third ginger cat and my stand-in on blogs.

Sometimes people come into our lives for a period of time and then you grow apart or move on. This lady sounds a lot more like an acquaintance than a friend. It sounds like she is one of those people with her own pity party. You have grown away and she is resentful.

Glad you were able to make another connection with a coworker who is also under going the surgery.