Here we go my "steadies." Post away.

I have to add that we always welcome anyone who wants to join in. And when Boo gets that book finished we're all going on Oprah! Right ladies?

That's right, all my ladies will be there with me!

Confession 4…

I was fat, but not lazy or stupid or just plain ignorant, despite popular opinion…

If I had a quarter for every time I had been treated rude, gotten “The Look”, or just ignored because of my past appearance I would be rich. But the saddest part is, I don’t think at the time I realized just how bad it really was to be fat in the eyes of others. While some people are blatantly rude, the ones that are the worst are the ones that you can’t tell that they are being truly condescending until you meet them on the other side of life. Now I am amazed by the smiles on the streets, the doors not shut on my face, and the cordiality of people. It has been such a stark contrast to the past!

It becomes something that you try to get used to, being treated bad for just being fat. But saying just fat, is like someone else saying they are just black, or purple. You can’t hide it, everyone sees it. Being fat is another way to be judged or looked down upon before you even open your mouth. In a society all about being beautiful, being fat just doesn’t fit in, and most people have no problem telling others, that fat people are disgusting.

There were many times that I knew I had to be able to justify myself more than anyone else because of my weight. My ideas, no matter how good they were, were preceded by the fact that I was thought of as fat or lazy. My knowledge and merit alone never stood as it should have in any situation. I always tried to not let it stop me, but the fact it, when you know all eyes are on you and you get the feeling you are being judged you can’t help but judge yourself as well.

BOO.....I'm hooked! I love what I've read so far...can't wait to see more!

love it! I'm with VA can't wait to read more!

Isabelle - no tricks here - just eating right and exercise. I, unfortunately, unlike you, am not grossed out by french fries. I know they don't like me and so when I'm having a craving I might eat one or two of someone elses - thats all I need and the craving is gone. I wish that stuff grossed me out.

Just heard from Nat - she said to tell you all she'll be back soon and she got the PUNK message

Hey ladies sorry been out of pocket again got a fill on tuesday

hip hip need that

anyways how long does it take a fill to kick in mine seem to get tighter in about a wk just wondering about yall

brandy happy 1 band day go gurl

will do personals later love yall

hi girls

well just to let you know how it all turned out ,on closer inspection of the chatting i was cracking up about ,he had not filled out profile ,didnt have any friends and had only visited site once (i think he just into photos )still shit but certainly think i was maybe running ahead of myself with suspecting the worst ,he is embarassed though feels like a idiot(he was ) i do believe he thought it same as looking in porn mag nottttttt !!!!! people on net can interact i catch him again i cut it off. i have to add because it was said in one of posts it not good for kids to see parents unhappy(we are not unhappy )we dont fight ,we argue but not alot and never in any kind of serious way although once i hit him with door (accidently)lol i was doing dramatic door slam and he walked back towards me.i really dont believe he has ever cheated on me i do think however when down in dumps he withdraws away from me and that one i need to figure out (him too ).

what i am about to say will make you all think first part of this is turned around because of this its not ITS TRUTH

i found out yeaterday im pregnant !!!!!!!!!

unplanned number 5 and after a really good cry im now excited

although i dont want unfill i want to take pg vitamins and eat good food and have regular scans to check baby doing ok but unfill does not make me feel happy i can eat small meals not just a few spoons ,i actual thought i could eat too much but weight shifting so i am happy with restriction but i know clinic recommend unfill but it early days in pregnancy and i figure i can wait to let them know ,i know my body and wouldnt put baby at risk if i cant eat i will take some out asap.

i must add after reading last message this baby unplanned,other 4 were all planned

Ladies - Regardless of the "true meaning" of "steady losers", I have found more support, good information, and caring on this thread than any other.

I am more positive about this band than ever before and I needed to hear that exercise is the key. I knew that, I had just hoped that it wasn't true - dang it! So.... I am heading out the door for a walk.

Congratulations NIkki! Our first "band baby" on this thread!!! AAWWWW!

Im so glad you've been able to work through things honey! Wish you nothing but happiess. Pregnant mommy bellly!!! I LOVE it!

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Kuebel -- exercise is KEY!! number 1 MOST important. Get in the habit early! Trust me even if you are a rock star about it in the beginning it is SOOO easy to slow down and stop moving (I KNOW from experience). So, just find something you LOVE to do. Biking!! that is a good one! and do what you LOVE to do. Dont make yourself do something or you will eventually get bored and tired of it.

Walking is perfect!!

Congradulations Nikki!!! Yippee a bandee baby!!! And even if you do need to get unfilled during preganacy after the babes born you can get refilled and start again.

Kuebel - wtg on the walking!!! I know exercise is the key and when I stopped walking thats when I stopped losing. I know there are plenty of mornings when I lay in bed and think "do I really want to get up and walk?" but then I say hell no but you really do want to lose some of this fat! Keep it up and we're here for you. I hope you find something you love, I loved cross country skiing last winter and look forward to it again, but I honestly can't say I love walking. I'm doing it bc I know I need to. I sit at a desk all day and get no exercise so I really NEED to walk.

Ton of work to do today, have a great weekend ladies! I'm going school clothes shopping for the last time tomorrow. :Banane21: My baby is a senior.

OK girls did I make a mistake??? I had a slight unfill Monday. I can eat more but I am not eating a ton. I do not get stuck and PB on everything. I am exercising and I have gained 3-4 pounds since Monday!!!!!!!! I am so depressed I think I am going to have to get it put back in! I was very happy with my meals. Today I ate

1/2 of sm omelet with cheese, tomotoe and a little sausage. THen for lunch a small salad about 1 cup or so with the lettece for lunch, and I was at work and the cafeteria closed the only think they had left was tator tots -- yuck so I ate 4 tots. Yesterday was the same except instead of the tater tots I ate 2-3 oz of turkey for dinner. Am I over eating??/ I am well aware the tator tot was a bad choice, it is not a habit. What do you think it cost me $75.00 for my unfill and now I wish I hadnt. Jill

I will try to post soon, but i am off for my week and 1/2 long vacation :-) will try to get online as much as I can and let you know what I am up to!

I plan on having a wild and crazy week! love you all!!

hi girls

found other women having bandster babies on here and others who have done it and it wasnt a disaster with their weight ..yeah my weight shifting quickly this past month or so after a long go slow ,i think when i was able to get more in my body realised it wasnt starving...lol

but scared that they will unfill me and gain quickly :phanvan .

bman...have a wonderful time ..we will miss you :kiss

jillrn...if you been excercising you probably just gained muscle, too early to say if unfill good or bad it will take at least week for your body to adjust..hang in there it might start dropping down again soon (fingers crossed for you )

i will let you know what clinic advises (though i want to wait awhile to share news)i will be in here to chat with all you lovely steadies dispite fact my steady loss probably soon to be go slowthen into reverse..

i was down again today

only 7 pound to onederland:faint: