My wife and I went out to eat last night for our anniversary, and we had a long talk about food, eating out, eating in, etc. I think she may have a more difficult time adjusting than I will to all of the changes in our lives... Does anyone know of a forum for spouses that I can maybe have her look at?

My wife and I went out to eat last night for our anniversary' date=' and we had a long talk about food, eating out, eating in, etc. I think she may have a more difficult time adjusting than I will to all of the changes in our lives... Does anyone know of a forum for spouses that I can maybe have her look at?[/quote']

Hmmm I don't know sorry but that's a valid point! Mine would like that too! Hope someone knows!

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OH has one, but it isn't very active (as in one post from early April that hasn't been answered, and the next most recent is from last December.) The next best thing (or maybe better,) is meeting other spouses at your local WLS support group. I've been on both sides of this equation as my wife had her WLS around eight years ago, and I'm two years out on mine. Between the two surgeries (and subsequent reconstruction surgeries) and the research/insurance battle phases before, we've been involved in the
WLS and support group game for about ten years. Once past the initial healing/acclimation diet phase (which with our doc was not very long as we never had any extensive liquids-only stage,) our diets were very similar other than for volume. I've done most of our cooking through this time, and we typically had the same things for dinner, though she would have half as much as I did (and now we are pretty evenly split on portions.) Neither of us did any extreme fad dieting pre-op, post-op or in maintenance, but have concentrated on healthy long term eating that's fairly adaptable to either maintaining good health or weight loss. Breakfast, lunch and snacks weekdays are pretty much on our own due to work schedules, so our main shared meals are dinners and weekends. Eating out has never been a big problem as it is fairly infrequent (maybe once a week,) so the problem of the typically higher calorie restaurant fare is limited; my wife became disappointed if she was not able to stretch a restaurant meal into two or three meals with the normal leftovers, and I am now in that same boat, but the surgery has not had a big impact on any restaurant socializing; indeed, our local support group meeting are held at a restaurant, so we can all compare notes on our meals!

You are right, however, that this is a change in our lives, and one that we all need to adjust to - both patients and spouses - but this is par for the course as we all progress in our lives and face the different challenges that life presents us over time.

I've added a new forum called: "Fan Forum: for WLS Family and Friends!" Not sure I'm in love with the forum name. I'm open to other suggestions.

This new forum is specifically for spouses, other family members, and close friends of weight loss surgery patients. Unconditional love and support get WLS patients through their journeys, and close family and friends are the main sources for many WLS patients.