Whew, I just had to duck into here for awhile and talk fishing or arm wrestle someone or just do alot of cussing. Too much estrogen in those other rooms.......

I still have a long way to go till surgery and my Doc has a support group that meets monthly, so I figured I check it out. Ya know.....to check on everyone's progress, see what foods they eat and talk some recoveries with guys that don't include bursting into tears every five seconds....... Boy was I wrong........I walked in and there were 17 women and me. After I huddled there quietly listening and watching a bunch of lame bungee stretching exercises, as the meeting concluded several of the women felt the need to nuture me about the process. I gotta admit it was very supportive on their part, but it just reinforced the differences between men and women attitudes and mannerisms. If it were't for this Man Room, the gender specific support would be all but non existent.

Well that's enough completely unimportant rambling........as you were gentlemen......!

Tell me about it........I think they were more there for the social gathering rather than any gastric surgery support. Every now and then one would walk up to me cautiously, like I was an alien and ask me if I was alright.......as if I was lost or something........I won't be going back either.

I know right? It's weird, some of them acted like I was not supposed to be there. Or they would huddle around a table and I sat by myself. It was really just weird. I tried to start a conversation, and they were friendly enough, but they seemed to only want to talk about anything but the surgery or wl or the reason that we were there. I pulled out my phone and started reading emails etc. Until it was time to go.

For what it is worth, I would recommend going to the support group even if you are the only guy. I thinking my Saturday support group there are 2-3 guys and the rest women. Ok with me. I enjoy getting their perspective. We are on the same journey even though the room is filled with banders, sleevers and RNYers. There is a lot of good information shared by other WLS folks and, in my case, by the NUT and guest speakers. Sometimes to make a friend in this group setting dominated by women you have to be a friend. Take the first step...

Fiddleman the original thread killer!

Yep

Fiddleman the original thread killer!

You guys ganging up on me? I am going to go sit in the corner and pout.

Reading this thread was hilarious! You all made my morning!!!! VST and Support Groups do seem to be ran by the women....although having a lot of women around is NEVER a bad thing....LOL.....When you think about it.....it may be because a lot of times men don't want to admit that they need support....eh hem....of course not us men on VST though. =) LOL

Reading this thread was hilarious! You all made my morning!!!! VST and Support Groups do seem to be ran by the women....although having a lot of women around is NEVER a bad thing....LOL.....When you think about it.....it may be because a lot of times men don't want to admit that they need support....eh hem....of course not us men on VST though. =) LOL

Lol agree made my morning

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As a woman, I AGREE about the support groups! The ones I attended were crazy and useless. This lady was whining because her cat wanted a treat, and why should the cat have a treat and not her. Are you kidding me?

As a woman' date=' I AGREE about the support groups! The ones I attended were crazy and useless. This lady was whining because her cat wanted a treat, and why should the cat have a treat and not her. Are you kidding me?[/quote']

Did she end up eating the cat? Or the cat treats?

I ran away as fast as I could....will never know how the story ends and got a lil cardio in ha!

Sorry guys, you are stuck with some of us poking around in here. The 'man cave' is just more entertaining.

Sorry guys, you are stuck with some of us poking around in here. The 'man cave' is just more entertaining.

In every aspect of every mans life, the more women around the merrier.

Support groups...ah support groups. I understand people have complications and issues, but I've never been one to sit down and listen to them and not be able to speak my mind. I was a peer mediator and later on a school counselor and I figured I'd get booted from that position real quick, but instead everyone wanted to come to me because they always got it straight, no BS instead of someone just saying "I see, how does that make you feel?" (sadface) I do want to at least give one a shot, and I'm positive I will soon, just trying to prepare myself mentally, and prepare my tongue for the teeth marks I may leave.

My doctor's support group is 95 percent woman, and a lot of the time I am the only

guy. While at first I found this intimidating it has been an extremely positive experience. It has changed me for the better, I have learned to talk about things I never thought I could, or even things I didn't understand or have awareness of.

I spent my first 50 years not talking to anybody about anything and that got me to 511 pounds.

The doctor worked on the physical part, the head and heart need similar work.

I didn't get to 511 lbs. buy just physical things (like I like the taste potato chips)

My whole life needs surgery not just my stomach.

Well, my doc's support group has another meeting next Thursday and I'm not gonna miss it. I heard they are gonna be selling a.... very cute little white chiffon blouse number....... Oh my! .. can you believe it.......Everyone knows you can't wear white after Labor Day!!.......But I just have to see it! Toodles.....

Well' date=' my doc's support group has another meeting next Thursday and I'm not gonna miss it. I heard they are gonna be selling a.... very cute little white chiffon blouse number....... Oh my! .. can you believe it.......Everyone knows you can't wear white after Labor Day!!.......But I just have to see it! Toodles.....[/quote']

Ha!

When you put it that way, I wouldn't want to go either!

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I'm baaaaccck. Seems I ticked off another thinned skinned estrogen factory in one of those eggshell rooms. I think as a society we are missing the boat on quality sports entertainment. We need to put more women in the ring and in full contact events. They are vicious. Of course there would have to be time outs for all the crying and tears. ROFL.

Yeah, yeah I know.....can't live with 'em and can't live without 'em and can't kill 'em. Be careful though.......cause they'd probably do us in, in a heartbeat.