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Relationships and Dating after surgery


CocoM

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It's Valentine's day and love is in the air......all this love has me thinking:

How are your relationships after surgery? Has your relationship gotten better or suffered?

For those dating, how is your love life, better, worse or the same?

What about loose skin, how does that impact your relationship, if at all?

Thanks!

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Weird I was just thinking about this,.... I have always been the kind of person with the attitude either you like me or you dont. Before surgery I dated quite often but nothing serious the men always seemed to be looking for non commital type relationships. In the coming months before surgery I decided to focus my attention on my self and self improvement and the surgery..... I haven't dated in over 15 months and just started to date again after loosing almost 90 lbs ... I have met two men that have have told me they are working toward a committed relationship with me in the last few weeks. the weird thing is at my fattest I had no problem stripping off my clothes or being in the buff / shorts/ bathing suit and I was very comfortable in my own skin , being thinner now I feel ackward for some reason.. I dont have any loose skin except on my belly but not too much.... I still feel fat but I am more concerned now than before about the way I look if that makes since... I am dreading the day one of them will want to take this relationship to a more personal level.... I dont look the way I want to yet and then I have to make a choice which one I want to date more seriously....

anyhow its valentines day and I have one date today and another tomorrow so life is good !!!

Happy Valentines day

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I am married, and right before I had my sleeve (last march) my husband and I got into a huge fight and it pretty much came down to the fact that he took me for granted and never showed any affection. Well one year later and -96 lbs he is all about showing me how important I am. He has definitely stepped up his game. I'm not sure if its because of the disagreement we had or because of the weight loss, it is prob a little of both. I really dont care why, I'll take it however I can get it.

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Weird I was just thinking about this,.... I have always been the kind of person with the attitude either you like me or you dont. Before surgery I dated quite often but nothing serious the men always seemed to be looking for non commital type relationships. In the coming months before surgery I decided to focus my attention on my self and self improvement and the surgery..... I haven't dated in over 15 months and just started to date again after loosing almost 90 lbs ... I have met two men that have have told me they are working toward a committed relationship with me in the last few weeks. the weird thing is at my fattest I had no problem stripping off my clothes or being in the buff / shorts/ bathing suit and I was very comfortable in my own skin , being thinner now I feel ackward for some reason.. I dont have any loose skin except on my belly but not too much.... I still feel fat but I am more concerned now than before about the way I look if that makes since... I am dreading the day one of them will want to take this relationship to a more personal level.... I dont look the way I want to yet and then I have to make a choice which one I want to date more seriously....

anyhow its valentines day and I have one date today and another tomorrow so life is good !!!

Happy Valentines day

You go girl!!! How were your dates?

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I am married, and right before I had my sleeve (last march) my husband and I got into a huge fight and it pretty much came down to the fact that he took me for granted and never showed any affection. Well one year later and -96 lbs he is all about showing me how important I am. He has definitely stepped up his game. I'm not sure if its because of the disagreement we had or because of the weight loss, it is prob a little of both. I really dont care why, I'll take it however I can get it.

Good for you, I'm glad that things worked out for you.

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