I am typing this for my husband, so please be patient while I try to explain his concerns.

He was sleeved on 8/23. His pre-op weight was 530 and lost 13 pounds prior to surgery. He is now down a total of 60.8 pounds. He has only lost a pound or two in the last week. He weighs daily which I think is a huge mistake. I am trying to convince him to stop doing that.

When he decided that he was going to go through with the surgery one of the benefits was supposed to be that the "thing" that causes him to get hungry would be removed. It doesn't seem that that has happened. He is hungry all the time, and when he does eat his stomach rolls and grumbles and he is in pain. He is very frustrated at this point. Also, he is very frustrated because he is in ketosis and doesn't seem to be moving the scale. I realize that 61 pounds is a lot of weight to lose but because he has so much to lose the 61 pounds isn't really showing on him at this point. He wants people to notice, but they don't.

Also, how do you handle telling people about your progress when it really doesn't show? When he tells people what he has lost, they said "well, how much did you freaking weigh to begin with?" He really isn't in a position of wanting to tell his starting weight.

Anyway, any help or advice would be much appreciated.

Thanks in advance.

Cheryl

For me, one of the best things about the sleeve is the enforced period of abstinence from solid foods... I want to provide support and really felt for your hubby, but that he would ignore the rules that are there to stop him getting a leak in the first five weeks just made my stomach churn! Also the brat diet seems highly laden in carbs... Bananas are great but the other three are useless if he wants to curb hunger and keep his hair!!!!

I really recommend he goes to a nutritionist, you too, boot camp the house because if this goes on he may end up going in for the bypass too!!!

Sorry to be harsh, this thread is just scary!!!

Sorry, posted twice!

this might not be the answer your looking for but. go see your over get labs drawn he might be reading more because his body is craving something. a vitamin difitioncy ( spelling.). most of the time with my personal experience, not sleeved, if im craving streak my iron is low. milk calcium and so forth. at nine months its good timing to get labs done too adjust vitamins any ways

We are both well aware of the carb effect on his body. He always feels better when he is low carbing even prior to surgery. It's like he is allergic to sugar. We are keeping refined sugar to a minimum. But basically if he eats any solid meat (I am assuming this is what you mean by dense protein) he experiences pain. He is still getting his protein in via supplements. I too believe that he is experiencing some acid reflux and indigestion and just doesn't know it. Also, head hunger as well. I am going to make sure that he takes an antacid to keep that at bay. I really believe that his "hunger" problem is attributed to those two things. He is doing much better. Eating cottage cheese, peanut butter, beans, tuna, etc to keep the hunger/cravings away and to help get his protein in. Thank you all for your help and concern. He has a very long road ahead of him and any and all advice and suggestions are welcomed. We don't take offense to strong comments or hard advice. Thanks Again...Cheryl

Oh and he takes liquid vitamins every day, which is more than he has ever done in his life.

I had GERD prior to surgery and it was 10,000xs worse after surgery...omperazole was like taking a sugar placebo pill. I had my medication adjusted and feel much better. Perhaps it is time to talk with his surgical team, RD and GI doc to plan a course of action for him! I hope he gets to feeling better.

There is a great cookbook called Eating Well After Weight Loss Surgery that I can't recommend highly enough. My parents came to help when I had my surgery in late August, and my dad made several of the recipes for me. He can have meat, it just needs to be soft. We made a chicken and mushroom Soup, another chicken dish, beef stroganoff, and potroast. Since I was nearing the puree phase, we pureed everything and froze it into ice cube trays. This gave me 1 oz portions. Even though I have just started the soft phase, those little cubes are like gold! I take them to work along with greek yogurt and a shake. Does he eat fish? Can he try dark meat chicken (as it is more tender)?

Also, getting on a decent ppi regimen is crucial. Thank goodness for protonix.

Can't say what is going on with your husband, but I can tell you that I am physically hungry a lot. It is not head hunger, it is physical hunger. I was always hungry pre-op, and still pretty hungry post-op. One of my adult sons is the same way - always hungry, but he works out like a maniac and is of normal weight.

Yes, I have tried all the meds, Prilosec, Zantac, etc. They help a little, not much. I get 100 grams or more of Protein every day. I drink as much as I can hold.

I will say the hunger is not over-powering like it used to be, but it's still there. I deal with it by eating small amounts of food and/or drinking Protein Drinks throughout the day, about 10 times per day.

I know that's not what the rules say, but it works for me and I am almost at goal in six months. We each have to find what fits us.

Best of luck to your hubby!!

He decided that "the rules" didn't apply to him, so he went directly into eating normal food. He still ate very small amounts and tried to chew everything well but it just didn't settle very well on his stomach. Since we went to the BRAT diet, bananas, rice, applesauce, and toast with added cottage cheese, he is having a much easier time with his stomach.

Wow, when I read this, I said to myself, "He is playing with fire, here."

One month out and eating regular foods, he is risking a leak. It is no wonder he has pain when eating. His arrogance will be the death of him. Seriously. Not something to be triffled with.

If he is going to venture out on his own path, then all I can say is God Bless him and good luck. I know of an easier path, compliance, but just don't be upset when he starts crying about how his weight loss has stalled and he doesn't know why. I know why ...

Ahhh... that's a man for ya.

Yeah, women have NO control or food issues, do they?

Please don't bash men in The Man Room forum.

This was the case we me also. It was heartburn not hunger.

Me too

Yeah' date=' women have NO control or food issues, do they?

Please don't bash men in The Man Room forum.[/quote']

No man bashing here. And no mention of anything to do with food. I was referring to the "rules don't apply" comment. Women have stereotypes that are very true about them (such as giving into men even when it's not in their best interest - not talking about OP... I have done this). A man stereotype that is often true (I am admitting there are exceptions) is that rules don't apply and the very similar case where they don't need instructions. My dad is getting ready to have the sleeve and I know that rules will not be enough for him if my mom isn't strict about the foods she keeps at home... not just because of temptation but because he thinks that if he feels better, he must be better. So I am educating both of them on the rules and monitoring what is being bought and prepared until they get the hang of it.

I was a woman asking another woman a question be it in the men's or purple people eater's room.

And the "rules don't apply" is in reference too ... uh ... food, so ... perpetuating a stereotype like this is, IMO, man bashing. Just because men in your life or all the TV shows portray men in a certain light doesn't really mean even 51% of the men behave that way. Or even 25% for that matter.

It may be 100% true ... all I'm saying is it just gets old always seeing men portrayed or referenced as the bumbling idiot when it comes to children, wives, jobs, cleaning, health ,,, blah, blah, blah. I would just think a Men's forum at a support site would be a safe haven.

BTW, if those reading this find the majority of men around them are the bumbling idiot types I mention above, perhaps it is time to analyze the company y'all keep.

I understand a few members on this site seem to only want to insult others and bring them down. I'm sorry if you felt I was joining that crowd. I don't look at what room I'm going in to when checking my "current" tab but I'll be sure to leave the mans room alone in the future.

BTW I never referred to anyone as a bumbling idiot and never spoke of kids, house work, etc. but I'll accept the stereotype you lumped ME with.

I understand a few members on this site seem to only want to insult others and bring them down. I'm sorry if you felt I was joining that crowd. I don't look at what room I'm going in to when checking my "current" tab but I'll be sure to leave the mans room alone in the future.

BTW I never referred to anyone as a bumbling idiot and never spoke of kids' date=' house work, etc. but I'll accept the stereotype you lumped ME with.[/quote']

HUH?

Do you have any idea of how stereotypes are formed? What, then, is the basis of the stereotypes about men were you referring to?

And what stereotype did I lump YOU into? The one who has stereotypes about men? Well, uh ... I think you put yourself in that one from your first and second post ... Right?

HUH?

Do you have any idea of how stereotypes are formed? What' date=' then, is the basis of the stereotypes about men were you referring to?

And what stereotype did I lump YOU into? The one who has stereotypes about men? Well, uh ... I think you put yourself in that one from your first and second post ... Right?[/quote']

I sayed men don't like following instructions (example... my husband will try to put something together by himself first, when he gets stuck THEN he gets out the instructions) This doesn't make him an idiot nor worth getting rid of. Stubborn maybe but laughable. You lumped me into a group that you say refers to men as bumbling idiots in the matter of childcare, house work, and other such things. You are the one who brought all this up as if you had already been mad about it from somewhere else. If I had said "well that's the problem, he's a man and is too stupid to know better" I would stone myself with you. But I meant no such thing. But I think none of this helps the OP so start a post about the "man basher" and have at it. All I have tried to say is that I never said or inferred that men were idiots. And if anyone took it that way I'm sorry.