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Hi y'all...congrats to all the losers on the bench with me! I was sleeved July 3rd and was supposed to have my mom go this journey with me. She passed away unexpectedly in March and left just me and my dad. While he has been supportive of my surgery, he does not visit with me very much/often or check on me like I know my mom would. I have had a few friends offer to come by but in the "I really don't mean it, I'm just saying it" kind of way. Even my boss didn't check on me after surgery and has yet to! I"m feeling really alone on this journey and don't have anyone I can talk to.

Anybody got a soft shoulder I can lean on?

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I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. There is a huge group of people here more than willing to support your on your journey. Just reach out like you have and do it when ever you feel the need.

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Im so sorry to hear about your mom. I understand you live your dad, but it's just not the same. I haven't had surgery yet, so no advice to give. But I have a shoulder! I feel like I'm loosing my mom a little everyday. She hasn't been officially diagnosed with Alzheimer's, because she won't return for more tests. The dr gave her the rx for Alzheimer's patients, but she refuses to take it. So, I still have a mom, and cherish every moment.

Not to get off track, but again I truly am sorry to hear about your mom. You can do this! She is there cheering you on, I am sure of it!!

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Hi. I am very sorry that you lost your mother and that you are feeling all alone! The people here can be very supportive but it doesn't always make up for real time support. You might want to make a post in the part of the board where you can meet someone in your local area. There may be someone in your area that you could connect with in real time as well as the support you can get here too.

Best of luck to you in your journey!

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I AM SO SORRY i know it doesn't help but idk what i would do without my mom shes the one mainly helping me on all of this! i instantly started to tear up when i read your forum! i can't imagine how hard this must be for you this site is so awesome im sure you will get so much support on here including myself! just keep moving forward have faith and live life to the fullest!!

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I am sorry to hear of your loss. I'm not sure where you are from but check with your doctors office or call around to the hospitals in your area to see if there are any support groups available for WLS patients. In my area there are three offered spread out over the month. If you can find one of those, I am sure someone would be happy to be your support buddy. Keeping you in my prayers an good luck on your journey

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