What do you do when things have changed ?

I've been married 9 months now 6 months ago I had my surgery. I've lost almost 90lbs I've changed and my wife has changed. Now she's 2 months pregnant. Were currently livin with her parents and I'm going out of my mind I feel trapped !!!

Maybe you should stop thinking of this as an unwanted pregnancy and start thinking of your unborn child. This is a baby you are going to raise and hopefully this child will be a part of your life, for the rest of your life.

Perhaps you should take everyone's advice and get some counseling to help you accept the fact that you are going to be a father, and couple's counseling to teach you and your wife communication skills.

The grass isn't Always greener on the other side. It's green where you Water it.

•Highest Weight - 240 •Surgery Weight 8/3 -230 •Current Weight 8/31 -203

It is difficult to talk to a pregnant woman..if you haven't had a baby, you can't possibly relate to the insecurities, emotional roller coasters, and fierce need to protect your baby along with not wanting to be touched sexually or even wanting to be touched all the time....they are crazy ..I was one of them.. My suggestion would be get into couple's counseling because obviously talking to her on your own isn't working. To have the counselor there to diffuse any situation in a calm manner would be beneficial to you and your wife so that important decisions that will potentially effect the rest of your life can be on the table. Even if you got divorced, you have a child coming that you will be responsible for the next 18 years, so that is something to take into consideration..good luck!

We had both agreed on not having a child till we owned our own home...but someone didn't take her pill for over a week. .

I am not trying to offend you, but remember the only birth control that is 100% effective is abstinence.