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"so How Much Weight Have You Lost?" Rant

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I never had issues revealing that I underwent WLS to people I know. I'm almost 3 weeks post-op and am getting out more, resuming my regular life and the one question that's starting to burn me is, "so how much weight have you lost?" with this wide eyed expression. When I say 20 or so, they almost get this disappointed look. Did you think I was going to lose 100lbs in 2.5 weeks?! WLS is a tool not a magic pill. It takes months and years and WORK to pull down those types of numbers.

I had to get that off my chest! Have a happy Saturday!

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  • karenb4729
    karenb4729

    LOL - that was one of the reasons I didn't want to tell anyone - didn't want that kind of pressure. Now, people see me losing weight and probably think my cancer has come back because they look at me

  • ProudGrammy
    ProudGrammy

    JD716 my mom was coming for a visit about one month post WLS. When she called, she said "I can't wait to see my skinny daughter" I laughed and said, sorry mom i'm losing weight, but after one mon

  • thinoneday
    thinoneday

    Wow is really all I can say here. . .you really didn't expect to lose everything all at once did you? This surgery takes time, over 1 year if not more to lose the weight. You probably gained 10 lbs

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I feel that it is all that matters around here. I just posted that I hit onederland. I have been on this site for about a year now. I feel like I didn't lose it fast enough to get a congratulations for hitting onederland. Out of 160 people that looked, two bothered to comment. I worked my butt off. So what, it is coming off a little slower. Anyway, this isn't about me, the point I am trying to make is that It isn't just with people you personally know. It is going to happen everywhere. As soon as people find out you have surgery, they look disappointed that you haven't whittled away to nothing by the end of a couple of months. Just keep in mind, we all lose differently, it may fall off quickly at first and then hit a stall for weeks. It may be steady, it may go really quickly. You just don't know what your body will do until it does it. Its a journey and the only feedback you need is from how you feel about yourself. Don't depend on ANYONE to validate your success. Congrats on making a life changing decision for your health.

I feel that it is all that matters once people know you had surgery. I just posted that I hit onederland. I have been on this site for about a year now. I feel like I didn't lose it fast enough to get a congratulations for hitting onederland. Out of 160 people that looked, two bothered to comment. I worked my butt off. So what, it is coming off a little slower. Anyway, this isn't about me, the point I am trying to make is that It isn't just with people you personally know. It is going to happen everywhere. As soon as people find out you have surgery, they look disappointed that you haven't whittled away to nothing by the end of a couple of months. Just keep in mind, we all lose differently, it may fall off quickly at first and then hit a stall for weeks. It may be steady, it may go really quickly. You just don't know what your body will do until it does it. Its a journey and the only feedback you need is from how you feel about yourself. Don't depend on ANYONE to validate your success. Congrats on making a life changing decision for your health.

You know what is interesting - no one close to me has asked at all about how much weight I have lost or want to lose or really anything. I told family and friends and my brother saw how slim I am getting and he wanted to know how I did it. I had to remind him I had WLS....hmmm

The only person who grilled me is more of a casual aquaintance and I basically just ignored her persistant snooping as she is a skinny minnie and really has no idea.

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LadyIvy

this post/reply is for you

sorry you didn't get many congratulatory comments on your great weightloss - people don't respond to all posts, but don't take it personally - I still luv ya!!

120 lbs down

WooHoo

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