I am not sure if there is a part of the forum for this but please forgive for being a bit negative. So I have from the very beginning been very open about my decision to have weight loss surgery. Imagine my surprise when today at work when one of my co-workers who is significantly larger than I attempted to make me feel bad about my decision. She stated, " You can do it on your own, you just have to be committed". I told her and I had done it before but had not been successful (i.e sustained WL) and hoped this tool would help me reach my goal. She said I shouldn't be saying I can't do it without this tool. I told her I needed some help and I was not above getting it for my health. She then told me I would never eat normal again. I was super annoyed at this point and went on about my business. She seriously was looking at me like I had three heads. I think I better keep my business to myself. Didn't know people who also struggled with weight issues could be so judgemental. END VENT.

rggg people like that boil my butt. just know that yes she is most certainly jealous and quiet possibly even afraid because you will be successful. dont be too surprised if she turns hypocritical a few months from now when she sees how great youve done and goes and gets surgery her self..

It's completely unreal that people feel justified giving out advice, whether they are fat/skinny/somewhere-in-between.

This individual clearly has not common sense, tact or empathy.

I had a somewhat similar experience: Pre-op I went to a small Vitamin shop near my house to buy liquid multis and liquid Calcium citrate. I told the salesperson on the floor that I was having bariatric surgery so I needed a very high quality liquid multi. She immediately proceeded to tell me "well first, you should make sure that the procedure is reversible". I told her it isn't, and then she started telling me I should really make sure I want to do it, because having the surgery will make me look older than my age in 10 years. (HUH?!) I told her that it's possible people with malabsorption procedures may have that issue, but I'm very comfortable/confident with my decision.

I came away from the store absolutely livid. I don't have an insecurity about the surgery, but what if I did?! She isn't my doctor, my friend or even a close acquaintance!

In the end.... insensitive people just aren't worth my time. Odds are their karma will find them someday... hopefully they learn!!

I had a somewhat similar experience: Pre-op I went to a small Vitamin shop near my house to buy liquid multis and liquid calcium citrate. I told the salesperson on the floor that I was having bariatric surgery so I needed a very high quality liquid multi. She immediately proceeded to tell me "well first, you should make sure that the procedure is reversible". I told her it isn't, and then she started telling me I should really make sure I want to do it, because having the surgery will make me look older than my age in 10 years. (HUH?!) I told her that it's possible people with malabsorption procedures may have that issue, but I'm very comfortable/confident with my decision.

I came away from the store absolutely livid. I don't have an insecurity about the surgery, but what if I did?! She isn't my doctor, my friend or even a close acquaintance!

Cretins who work at health food stores drive me insane. Most of these people have nothing but a high school diploma, but think they know EVERYTHING.

Lesson learned, not everyone will suport you or agree with your decision. I agree that you should be selective who you tell because there are lots of haters out there. Good Luck to you.

I went back and forth about whether to tell also, finally I decided that I know some will judge me for this but they're probably already judging me for being overweight so - let the judging begin! but its a very personal decision.