My surgery is Friday and of course I am nervous, etc. My boyfriend has asked me several times not to have the surgery. 'NOT' Then he started asking me about my living will, life insurance, etc. Today my ex-husband calls and starts telling me he doesn't want to raise our son by himself, it would be to hard for him (that is why the boy lives with me), do I have life insurance and if so who is the beneficiary. Ok, do they know something I should be aware of "Am I going to die" Now I am freaking out and doubting my decision.

If they are that worried about you living or dying- they should be that much more supportive of this decision you have made!

You could die from any surgery. Making sure your will and advance directive is up to date is just being responsible.

Your personal wishes should be in order at all times - whether having surgery or not. You're more likely to get hit by a bus today than die during surgery, but its always a possibility. It sounds like either they don't want you to succeed or they are just uninformed and scared. If YOU feel you're doing the right thing, that's all that matters. My fear is that your boyfriend not being supportive is going to create resentment toward him later when you are successful. Might be something to bring up to him.

You are going to be fine! I was a nervous wreck before surgery. I prayed all the time, cried a lot, and worried even more. My doctor told me I have more of a chance of getting hit by a bus on the way home from surgery than I did dying while in surgery. That made me laugh. I'm guessing your surgery is/was today. So get right back on here when you can and let us know you were worried for nothing.

You're going to do great!!!