Well my surgery is set - has been for over a month now - I have gone through a serious of emotions from nervous to excited. Now I feel apathetic about the entire processes. My surgery is still a month away. I am doing all the expected things. Making sure I have all my duckes in a row. But, still nothing. What's wrong with me. I want this, I need this! Why am I not feeling more about it. Will the excitment come back as I get closer? Will the apathey continue to the surgery date? Is this good or bad?

Not a lot ruffles my feathers, so maybe this is the norm for me.

Any way, I would be interested if anyone else has felt this way in their journey. Thanks

absolutley you are feeling what all of us have felt. I forgot about the apathetic phase. Youll get the excitement back and the butterflies then the thoughts of am I nuts!

I can tell you I am 10 months out almost to the day, and I am so thrilled I can't stand it. The changes in your life are going to be just wonderful. Weather your a fast loser or a slow loser the fact that you are taking your life in your hand, your health in your hands is a wonderful thing which NO ONE can take away.

Congratulations on making a life changing desision.

I am with you on the feelings. My surgery is set for the 28th of August and I am very nervous, as well as apathetic. My prayers are with you.

I can't tell you when the apathy ends, because I'm still there too. My date is set for Aug. 4. I'm stocking up on clear & full liquids, picking out a comfy outfit to wear home, finding mushy foods, etc. But I'm still just kinda "ehh" about the whole thing. :rolleyes

I'm hoping to get excited soon, and I hope you do too. Good Luck.:confused:

Apathetic, aprehensive, anxious, annoyed...I could go on and on. I am almost 8 weeks and I still have some of those feels. The thing that gets me through is that I tell 'me' that I deserve to look better, feel better and to be a better person. We all have baggage that makes us feel afraid of the unknown. Food was my comfort and my 'armour' from unwanted attention. Since the procedure I feel and acknowledge that I can be beautiful & sexy (did I say that?) while being myself and the best self I can be. So Yes, you will feel better and you will be a better person for taking control and starting to live the life that you always wanted.

Thank You all for the replies - I will sleep a little better tonight. It is nice to know that I am not alone out here in what I am going through. I look forward to hearing from you and being inspired by you all.

Hi there -- Just wanted to let you know that I'm there too! I thought it was just me, so I'm thrilled you posted this ... at least as thrilled as an apathetic woman can be . I'm so relieved to see others have felt that way too. I think part of my apathy is the feeling that I've been down similar roads before with no success, you know? Every diet or program I tried got me all excited that 'This is it!!', and then I failed. Maybe I'm just tired of getting all excited, and am trying to protect myself. Not sure. But I'm looking forward to being on the other side, that's for sure.

I'm pre-band and it's good to know that the mental roller coaster ride is normal.

I think it's perfectly normal... I know I even played the game of "maybe I could go on a diet and do it myself". I really played head games with myself the week before my surgery so get set for a little of that! Just hang in there!!!

Normal, normal, normal! You'll go through many feelings before you get it done. Good Luck, and keep us posted.