Help! I'm being eaten alive by the what-ifs!

Like 'what if it doesn't work' and 'what if I'm miserable for the rest of my life' and 'what if I'm always nauseated' and 'what if I can't eat solid food' and what if, what if, what if...

Ugh. And my surgery is still a week away. I gotta calm down and I can't.

Help!

Every single one of you rock my socks. I'd be up sh*t creek if it wasn't for you folks. All the support makes me kind of sniffly, in a good way.

Thank you all so much. You have helped immensely.

Bryn, I just finished my lovely drink to cleanse before my 8:30 am arrival and 10:30 am surgery tomorrow and I am freaking out..What if is so there...I smiled when I read your post as I am right there with you.

I picked up my meds at the pharmacy and I am mentally prepared for the post op, and the get up and go after surgery but my mind has gone to that dark place that I think is totally normal.

Thank you for sharing all your questions and your feelings I really needed that!!

Carrie

You know I don't even have my date yet, I haven't actually even seen my surgeon yet ( Appointment is on the 15th) And I already have those what if's. But you know what other what if's I have?

What if I don't get this surgery, and I die of heart disease

What if I don't get the surgery, and by the time I actually die I'm so heavy, I can't have a regular funeral?

What is I don't get the surgery, and for the rest of my life I hate myself for backing out of the once chance I had to REALLY help myself.

What if my kids grow up unhealthy because they see how unhealthy Mom is?

Your what if's are so valid! I know it's scary! This is a major surgery, even if it's just " Laproscopic" It's a real major surgery. Your Fears are valid. I understand them.

But what is also real is that either way you go, whether you get the surgery or not, you are risking something. I think you should risk the surgery, and come out healthier on the other side. There are all sorts of medications for nausea! And as long as you follow the diet your Doctor gives you, you WILL lose the weight. It's a matter of following simple instructions now, and you can do it!

Be courageous Bryn, take this bull by the horns and CONQUER it! You are going to be in the Loser's club soon! Soon after that you will be in ONEDERLAND!!! you can do it! I'm so proud of you!

If you'd like me to be your personal cheer leader, just PM me, I will be that for you, because above all else, I beleive that this is the right decision for people like us, who have tried so many things and just need help!

*Hugs and comfort!*

~Sarah~

My therapist told me to do this:

Visualize all the things you will be able to do that your weight has prevented you!

Mine were:

1--walking by a mirror and feeling comfortable

2--walking into the regular section of a store and picking clothes out

3--bike riding and not getting out of breath

4--walking into a room and feeling confident.

Positive words pack a lot of power!!!! Good Luck