Hey Everyone-

It is hard for me to talk about this but I need to know if anyone else has experienced this.....I assumed losing weight would increase my self esteem and then in turn increase my sex drive. I have found quite the opposite....I have lost quite a bit of interest in realtionships all together and sex is the furthest thing from my mind. I know I am suffering some post-op depression....but has anyone else experienced this?

was your spouse supportive of your decision?

I think you are suffering from post surgery depression....and it's common. Since surgery and my weight loss I experience a very very high sex drive. It's almost crazy how much I want sex these days....I would tell you to go on an anti depressant but that would probably decrease your sex drive even more. I suggest more excercise. the excercise will increase your endorphine levels making the depression decrease and hopefully your sex drive increase.....I hope that helps.

I see by looking at your profile you are young - 31. If you have been heavy for your most of your adult life (the last 10 years) you may be suffering from insecurity based on your rapidly changing body. At 31, you may be used to defining your "self" a lot based on your physical body. If you are insecure, certainly you would not be interested in relationships, much less a sexual relationship. I would recommend you focus on finding out who "you" are, maximizing the wonderful person you are, and falling in love with yourself. Once you are secure and happy with "you", you will find it much easier to relate to other people.

Have you ever considered volunteering for an organization you believe in? Go build houses with habitat for humanity, serve meals at a Soup kitchen, volunteer at a food pantry, be a docent at a museum, etc. That is a pretty easy way to ease into being with people, and it will make you feel better.

Good Luck,

Sharon

_{I have a wonderful sex life and I hope it only gets better with my weight loss. Some words of advice to pass on. I do take antidepressents and I may be faced with increasing my dosage after the surgery due to post op depression. However, I willn't let it effect my sex drive. I was on a few medicines that I couldn't achieve an orgasm . Please share all of this with you doctor. I expressed the importance of my sexual activity and my doctor found a medication that works well for depression and enhances my sex drive. It is important you take care of needs including your sexual ones. Good luck}

I see by looking at your profile you are young - 31. If you have been heavy for your most of your adult life (the last 10 years) you may be suffering from insecurity based on your rapidly changing body. At 31, you may be used to defining your "self" a lot based on your physical body. If you are insecure, certainly you would not be interested in relationships, much less a sexual relationship. I would recommend you focus on finding out who "you" are, maximizing the wonderful person you are, and falling in love with yourself. Once you are secure and happy with "you", you will find it much easier to relate to other people.

Have you ever considered volunteering for an organization you believe in? Go build houses with habitat for humanity, serve meals at a soup kitchen, volunteer at a food pantry, be a docent at a museum, etc. That is a pretty easy way to ease into being with people, and it will make you feel better.

Good Luck,

Sharon

Thank you for this comment. I've been struggling with this issue as someone who has always been overweight as an adult. I fit your description to a T. And your answer is totally correct. I need to work on falling in love with me. Thank you!