1. I have along with the other moderators been watching all the threads that have "bashing" in them.

2. Moderators do not play favorites as was implied.

3. We take each incidence and see just where the problems lie based on the rules and guidelines we ALL agreed to when we joined.

4. After careful review of reported threads if there is not a specific person's name mentioned or singled out for attack then we can only offer a gentle reminder of the rules and guidelines. IF you can show a specific person's name mentioned where they were attacked to the moderators then we will in fact deal with it.

5. The fact we are having to use our moderator skills so much lately saddens me greatly. It means that some cannot let things just die on their own and therefore moderators must step in an do our jobs.

6. Here is a gentle reminder of the rules and guidelines we all agreed to when we all became members.

LAST, All topics of bashing, mob mentality, cliques, etc should NOT be discussed in my humble opinion in a public forum. Those discussions should be taken to the PRIVATE MESSAGES which is just that PRIVATE.

I hope this has helped allay some of your concerns about how moderators handle things.

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I too agree though that the rebuke ought to be public so that everybody knows that person has been addressed. Even a statement such as "this matter has been dealth with privately".

In any other forum I have ever been a part of, neanderthal behaviour such as that would mean the person was banned from the site. End of story.

It must be such a hard job and you've come under some unfair fire over the past week or two, I'd like to say that I appreciate that you're giving of your time and are doing the best you can.

All three threads being discussed here have been deleted. Can we stop talking about it now?

And Dody, the moderators are constrained by rules just like everyone else. It takes TWO mods to decide a thread should be deleted. Any individual mod is not empowered to just delete a thread. Leaving one there does not mean a decision has been made to leave it, just that we haven't had a chance to discuss it yet.

Please don't accuse us of playing favorites. That simply is not what is going on.

BRAVO! Responsible action has the last word

AMEN! Let peace reign!

Can we still use "foul language" if we want? (as long as it's not attacking another peson?)

I'm only asking because though I rarely use it in a post I've read one or two really funny ones that just wouldn't be the same with fake cus words (Example: StewartS's PB post was just great)

Adult language isn't against the rules, per se, but do try to keep it rare. We try to be family-friendly. :biggrin1: