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how do others treat you??

Hello and congrads to everyone who have met their goal weight and congrads to those of you who are getting there! I wanna know how do people treat you now that you've lost the weight?? For those who are single?? How is your dating life?? For those who are married?? Do you notice any changes in how your spouse treats you??

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    People treat me VERY differently since losing over 220 pounds. When I was over 400 pounds, store clerks ignored me. Restaurant staff looked at me with disdain. Random strangers would giggle at me.

  • I met my goal very recently. My husband had seen me up and down many times. Married 32 yrs this Sept. never complained. But I have to say he is acting 18 now. Im exhausted if you know what I mean. Lo

  • PS to my above post..... When it comes to people treating other people unkind, simply because they are heavy (as mentioned in Missy's post), THAT I don't get, period! To treat someone like they are

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My hubby and I met 26 yrs ago, I was 125 lbs. When I had lap band 19 months ago I was 225 lbs, he wasn't happy but never said anything. We have ALWAYS been very supportive of each other. Now im 65 lbs lighter and he's still very supportive but is MUCH happier with how I look AND feel. I looked, dressed( size 18 old lady frumpy clothes) and felt older than I was ( Im 55 years young),now I look younger than 55, I run ,I swim, I dress in cute clothes (size 10-8 !!!) I want to travel and go places and DO things that I had no energy for before ! Yes, people treat me better. Hardly a day goes by that I don't get a compliment on how I look, or an admiring look or funny flirting from a man. I'll take it ! Ive worked hard to get to this point, so I appreciate it that someone thinks I look attractive. But I don't forget that others, large and small deserve to be treated nicely too !! "THERE BEFORE THE GRACE OF GOD GO I !" Im VERY grateful that the Lap band was available for me !

I'm struggling with all of it...the good and the bad!

Last time I lost close to 100 pounds, I'd walk by Lane Bryant in my size 6 jeans, and actually mourn the loss of the old me. I didn't miss it, but I was very confused by the change.

Years ago, one of the many shrinks I saw, told me that being/staying fat serves us in some way. For some, it's a sense of protection; like a wall that keeps danger away (whatever form that comes in). There are many dynamics that go along with obesity, but to some degree, it rang true. I used to think (and still do sometimes), what will I do without "it". I can't quite define in words what I mean, but it almost feels like I'll be completely exposed. Weird. SO much psychology with body image!!!

My hubby and I met 26 yrs ago, I was 125 lbs. When I had lap band 19 months ago I was 225 lbs, he wasn't happy but never said anything. We have ALWAYS been very supportive of each other. Now im 65 lbs lighter and he's still very supportive but is MUCH happier with how I look AND feel. I looked, dressed( size 18 old lady frumpy clothes) and felt older than I was ( Im 55 years young),now I look younger than 55, I run ,I swim, I dress in cute clothes (size 10-8 !!!) I want to travel and go places and DO things that I had no energy for before ! Yes, people treat me better. Hardly a day goes by that I don't get a compliment on how I look, or an admiring look or funny flirting from a man. I'll take it ! Ive worked hard to get to this point, so I appreciate it that someone thinks I look attractive. But I don't forget that others, large and small deserve to be treated nicely too !! "THERE BEFORE THE GRACE OF GOD GO I !" Im VERY grateful that the Lap band was available for me !

I think that when we are happy with ourselves, we glow. That's what we project in the world, and that's what comes back. I've seen this dynamic numerous times with myself; fat OR thin. If I'm in a dark place, people respond negatively. If I'm happy go lucky, they respond to that.

Hello and congrads to everyone who have met their goal weight and congrads to those of you who are getting there! I wanna know how do people treat you now that you've lost the weight?? For those who are single?? How is your dating life?? For those who are married?? Do you notice any changes in how your spouse treats you??

Tamirn - thank you for this post. I think it strikes a chord with so many of us, as we deal with such a tremendous life change.

no matter what all of my band buddies yall are beautiful ppl that have an amazing strive for the sucess all of yall have had amazing posts for all the hard work god bless best of luck always ;-) <3

Its good to have a support system. I only told a few ( boyfriend which we had only been together for 3 months) he took me to upper GI and lapband surgery.without his help I would not have had the surgery. My mom , sister, and a couple of aunts were told and I don't recall none of them saying you look good. They may crack jokes and say" you look like you losing your butt". I often ignore them b/c none of them are in shape. W/o my bf support I would feel really lonely throughout this. One day hevsaid " why are your tiddy's hanging so low" and he knew it bothered me and he apolgized because said he b didn't mean any harm to me.

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