Hello everyone,

I went to my 2nd month appt today with my husband and we meet my surgeon. He was very nice and knowledgable about what he does and what surgery he thought was best for me. He suggested a bypass due to my diabetes. But I told him " that is to drastic and I prefer the banding", so now we are all on the same page as far as surgery. My husband was also involved in the conversation and asking questions he seemed pretty gun hoe with everything as I was, till we got in the car. It was extremely quiet for a while. Then he broke out talking about What he and the kids are going to eat since I can no long eat he figures that I won't be cooking .I was like for real dude??? do you really prefer to be pushing me around in a wheel chair once my feet, legs hands, and arms start getting cut off because of diabetes and I can no longer work. I'm just saying if he can't stand by me then he might just have to stand alone. Because I will finish on top of all this excess weight and diabetes with him or without him. I WILL BE A SUCCESSFUL BANDER FOR LIFE. Did I mention I have been by his side during his illness and now disability for the past 11 year and his 9 surgeries over the past 3 year I feel after running with him to his Dr visits he would be more supportive. I guess NOT. Sorry for my venting but on a brighter note I had my upper GI X-ray today and I loss my 1st 3 lbs and and im on my 2nd wk of chantix so its been 6 days without no cigarette ugghhh. It ok and my Dr wants me to CUT ALL CARBS ASAP !!!! And start a liquid diet for 5 days just to try it out to lower my sugar levels. But I'm 2 months down and 2 more months to go till my banding birthday.

Sometimes I don't understand how men think my husband said to me what happens when you get skinny are you going to leave me for someone better. I was actually insulted for a few reasons one I married because I love home not because I was fat . Two he made me feel like he wants me to stay fat and just do nothing with my life and lastly I thought he would of been excited for me. He is better now after I snapped on him lol. But as fair as your situation he might be feeling like my hubby and don't want to admit it. Sometimes they say one thing and mean another. I'm glad you are staying positive , keep up the great work

Thank you honey I do hope this Is a phase he is going throught rigt now because I have to loss 80-100 lbs and after 20 years I'm ok with losing an extra 155 lbs LoL

Wow! I thought I was the only one...my long time BF of 8 years has never said or complained about my weight I was always on the bigger side but the last few years have just gotten out of controll & about 2-3 times once he gets a few beers in him and if i bring it up he'll say that I need to do something because he's noticed I'm getting bigger that's it's not about how I look but about my health. Then I'll bring it up at a different time and he'll totally change the subject which makes me think once it comes down to my WLS he won't be supportive but I'm doing this for ME!!! and not anyone else so it really dosent matter what he says, does or thinks because we all have each other love this place <3

Me too my husband has not ever said anything about my weight but I now as I get bigger my self image is bad and it reflects on us and I know that's a turn off.

Slim&sexi according to my bmi I need to get down to 120-140 and I'm around 275

Yes yes yes Mss M!ch! My husband never complained about my weight either only when I have loss in the past but now I'm tired of this yoyo weight and my bad health. It's all about us BANDSTERS now if our men won't support us then we will support each other online. And by the way my husband has been the same for the past 20 years. So he's ok with himself. Now is the time I become ok with myself.

@ toad I'm 236 with a 39 bmi and 5' 3" and diabetes type 2. So I really need to loss 80-100 lbs and maybe his 155 lbs I he keeps it up... LOL

Ya I'm 5'3 275 I have a long path to take but I'm so glad I found this app so I don't feel alone.

Me too cuz I often do feel alone husband an ass and I haven't told any one else about my new journey

I have told a few but I'm waiting untel everything gets approved to tell more people ... I don't want to talk the talk until I can walk the walk