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Feeling like a complete failure!

I had my band placed June 6, 2 weeks after he took my gall bladder out .My first fill was July 21st and when I weighed in I had lost 26.6 lbs since pre-op. I was so excited. My clothes are getting large for me and I can certainly see and feel a differance. But, when I got in to see the Dr. for my first fill I was questioned like never before. He wanted to know why I had only lost 10 lbs since surgery and that I was not loosing like his other patients. That this was not going to work for me if I did not eat right and exercise. All this was said before I answered any questions. I got that hot feeling that comes across your back and neck and was totally mortified (like as if I were a kid) As far as I was concerned I had been doing what I was told to do. All I could do was fight back the tears. He then said a fill would not help me at all if I was not going to follow the rules. WOW! after yes siring him many times he decided to give me my first fill (can't feel any difference) wondering if he just wanted to stick me again. I left his office feeling like a failure and literally spend the next 2 days crying and depressed. It took my husband to finally shake me of this and telling me I am doing wonderful. (I thought I was doing great until this office visit)

Has anyone else been through this as well?

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It's only 1-2 lbs. a week weight loss for the Norm ! This person think he is a Miracle Worker??? or what??

Also,, just a thought ! Have you ever had your Thyroid checked out? It's only a tube of blood drawn by your PCP. If it's not up to snuff, it can make losing weight take longer.

Also,,, they know what to do for that too..

So,,, you are very far from loser stats. In fact your just really starting out.. That's not losing at all....

Give yourself a chance, see how it goes, remind him it's 1-2Lbs. a week in case he doesn't know !

He'll know for sure that you know !!!!

Next time you go to your PCP, ask him/her to check your Thyroid Levels. Then you will know if that's good to go too.

Shirley.

I am so sorry you had such an awful visit. My first reaction is you need a new doctor. I followed the rules and my weight did not always come off fast and that is not a bad thing. My doctor would help me look at what I was doing to make sure I did not need to change anything but she has always been supportive. You keep doing what you are doing 10 lbs is something to be proud of.

I had my band placed June 6, 2 weeks after he took my gall bladder out .My first fill was July 21st and when I weighed in I had lost 26.6 lbs since pre-op. I was so excited. My clothes are getting large for me and I can certainly see and feel a differance. But, when I got in to see the Dr. for my first fill I was questioned like never before. He wanted to know why I had only lost 10 lbs since surgery and that I was not loosing like his other patients. That this was not going to work for me if I did not eat right and exercise. All this was said before I answered any questions. I got that hot feeling that comes across your back and neck and was totally mortified (like as if I were a kid) As far as I was concerned I had been doing what I was told to do. All I could do was fight back the tears. He then said a fill would not help me at all if I was not going to follow the rules. WOW! after yes siring him many times he decided to give me my first fill (can't feel any difference) wondering if he just wanted to stick me again. I left his office feeling like a failure and literally spend the next 2 days crying and depressed. It took my husband to finally shake me of this and telling me I am doing wonderful. (I thought I was doing great until this office visit)

Has anyone else been through this as well?

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It's only 1-2 lbs. a week weight loss for the Norm ! This person think he is a Miracle Worker??? or what??

Also,, just a thought ! Have you ever had your Thyroid checked out? It's only a tube of blood drawn by your PCP. If it's not up to snuff, it can make losing weight take longer.

Also,,, they know what to do for that too..

So,,, you are very far from loser stats. In fact your just really starting out.. That's not losing at all....

Give yourself a chance, see how it goes, remind him it's 1-2Lbs. a week in case he doesn't know !

He'll know for sure that you know !!!!

Next time you go to your PCP, ask him/her to check your Thyroid Levels. Then you will know if that's good to go too.

Shirley.

Hey Shirley,

I am Hypothyroid and Insulin Resistant with Hoshimotto Disease- If that isn't enough. I have tried every diet and pill to loose, just wont stay off so when I decided to do this I was at my witts end. I am happy with my results so far. That is why I was so upset with how he was talking with me or to me. Thank you for sharing with me and taking the time out to reply.

Hey Shirley,

I am Hypothyroid and Insulin Resistant with Hoshimotto Disease- If that isn't enough. I have tried every diet and pill to loose, just wont stay off so when I decided to do this I was at my witts end. I am happy with my results so far. That is why I was so upset with how he was talking with me or to me. Thank you for sharing with me and taking the time out to reply.

I to am Hypothyroid. There is a site on here for people like us, because we know it's a harder for the weight to come off. I am on Armour Thyroid for my Medical condition, and it's helping.

Does he know all these problems exists with you? Because if he does, anytime that he sees you, and you have weight loss, he should be HAPPY ! If he is a beotch about it, then I would find another Dr......

I found a new Bariatric Surgeon, and the weight is starting to come of..., I went to a good ! Endocrinologist, was diagnosed, and my meds are watched. The two together, with me watching my calorie intake, is letting me lose weight at 1 1/2-2 Lbs a week.

Do you have a Endocrinologist? I hope you do. Let him know whats what with your Health and Care. If he is just a pain in the A$$. Then for sure move on....

I will try ti find our site, and send it your way.

Good Health to you, Shirley.

Hey Shirley,

I am Hypothyroid and Insulin Resistant with Hoshimotto Disease- If that isn't enough. I have tried every diet and pill to loose, just wont stay off so when I decided to do this I was at my witts end. I am happy with my results so far. That is why I was so upset with how he was talking with me or to me. Thank you for sharing with me and taking the time out to reply.

I Put the thread up for Hyperthyroid Bandsters. You might want to check it out

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I to am Hypothyroid. There is a site on here for people like us, because we know it's a harder for the weight to come off. I am on Armour Thyroid for my Medical condition, and it's helping.

Does he know all these problems exists with you? Because if he does, anytime that he sees you, and you have weight loss, he should be HAPPY ! If he is a beotch about it, then I would find another Dr......

I found a new Bariatric Surgeon, and the weight is starting to come of..., I went to a good ! Endocrinologist, was diagnosed, and my meds are watched. The two together, with me watching my calorie intake, is letting me lose weight at 1 1/2-2 Lbs a week.

Do you have a Endocrinologist? I hope you do. Let him know whats what with your Health and Care. If he is just a pain in the A$$. Then for sure move on....

I will try ti find our site, and send it your way.

Good Health to you, Shirley.

Thank you very much, I will be watching for the site. I do have a wonderful Endo. Dr. I go and see him 2x a year as well blood work 2x a year. My meds are at 200 synthroid. My lap band Dr. knows all of this but says a pill takes care of that problem. Oh Well, I will prob. have to move on.

Great talking with you, Michelle

Thank you very much, I will be watching for the site. I do have a wonderful Endo. Dr. I go and see him 2x a year as well blood work 2x a year. My meds are at 200 synthroid. My lap band Dr. knows all of this but says a pill takes care of that problem. Oh Well, I will prob. have to move on.

Great talking with you, Michelle

That site is up under Post op Bandsters. Hypothyroid Bandsters.

Check it out, and good luck.

Shirley.

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