I am only 3 weeks post op but at what point do you stop thinking about ways to cheat the band, realize that last 3 bites is going to make you really uncomfortable and you choose not to take them anyway. Remembering not to drink for 2 hours following meals..

I realize the band is just a tool and it's up to me to work it. Now that the physical appetite is under control how do I get the mental one under control? I am seriously wondering if I need to consider counsling, OA something. I know it's early, heck I havn't even had a fill yet but I'm already starting to think I can't do this..

If you decide you can't then you won't. You have to make the choice. If you force yourself to stop eating on time for a few days, it will get easier. If you force yourself to stop eating on time for a few weeks, you will find it much easier. Hang in there. If you decide to do what it takes, it will get better.

I did therapy before the band to prepare myself and I will do a few sessions when I feel I need a little boost. I thought I would have a hard time trying to explain my feelings to someone that had never even had a weight problem but it is really more of a mental issue anyway so it was a good thing. I am an emotional eater and that is what therapy is all about, the emotions. Keep your head up and I am sure it gets better. I am only 2 weeks out from surgery and this site helps A LOT.

It's a process. You have a lifetime of bad habits to correct, and that won't happen overnight. If you make a point of focusing on the habits you wish to adopt, and extend yourself some grace and patience, it will begin to fall into place as you approach restriction.

Every day of "practice" takes you closer to well-established, healthy new habits.

Will you slip up? Sure. Especially during the early weeks/months, when you don't really have the restriction you need. But it really gets so much easier with time (and adjustment).

Kas - I know your doubts, I've had them too but I think once you see more weight coming off and clothes fitting better it will click in your head that this is the best thing you could have done for yourself.

I also think your mind will change when you've had a fill. I get my first in a few days and I can't wait because right now I could eat ANYTHING. I am going on sheer willpower to not.

I think each office offers a support group and you should look into it and get some help face to face with others that are in your shoes.

Best wishes to you and your band!

Edited October 15, 201015 yr by MrsFitand42
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