I went to my seminar the other night and I have made my appointments with my PCP, the nutritionist, and to have my psychology eval. I've also started rounding up medical records they'll need for documentation. And last, but not least, I've called the insurance company.

My husband was vehemently opposed to this when I first mentioned it to him. There were a few fights that ended up in me crying hysterically. I pretty much wrote him an email and said that this was something I had to do for myself and it would mean a lot to me for him to be supportive. He seems a little more on board than before, although that seems to be just not talking about it when I tell him I've made certain appointments. He just seems to ingore what I tell him rather than actually arguing with me.

Has anybody else gone through this with a spouse who was not supportive and they felt they had to to go through it alone. My kids are very supportive (even though they're teenagers) and the few friends that I've told are supportive.:biggrin:

My boyfriend was not supportive at first and he told me why. He figures ill die from the anaestesia or leave him because im skinny. Ive tried to get him to diet with me many times without success. It is very hard having him eat and eat and eat and i cant. I explained to him that for my age i am almost morbidly obese and repeated myself many times haha. Tell him its for yourself and if hes supportive he'll have nothing to worry about!

As for the ladies whos boyfriends compete and/or eat as much as possible. Tell yourself how much better you can be and more mature you are than them.

personally if it was me, id say pack your bags. but thats just how i roll

Mine is off and on. He doesn't like skinny women even though when we got married I was very petite. I explained the difference between the Lapband and the Gastic Bypass which he thought was the same and I would look sick. I assure him that I will not get too skinny and will keep my curves so he has calmed down. I hope things get better and you can get the support you deserve and need.