Hey, just wanted to know if anyone has going through what I'm feeling. I finished everything...from the 6 month supervised diet, sleep study, psych eval and the nutritionist. The only thing I have left is to get approved and schedule the date but Im having second thoughts! Do I really want to do this? I am soo used to being the fat funny friend that I'm afraid I'll lose my identity! I dont know if I'm going to be me basically.......WHAT SHOULD I DO!

I can understand a little what you are going through, I have not gotten banded yet, but will in 17 days (:cool2: Yikes). Although I have never second guessed this (not yet anyways) I can understand the part about the fat funny friend. I have resolved to be the healthy funny friend. As the weight comes off, the confidence will come on. It is normal to second guess decisions, it is what you do with it. Put in for the approval, then see how you feel. You know, you can always step away from it, but I don't think you truly should. I think it's like any other big decision, and in the end, you will be truly thankful that you did it. :thumbup:

K

I certainly understand the fear. I've gotten so used to being overweight that I'm comfortable with it, sort of. I hate having my picture taken and I despise mirrors but I'm afraid to change. Yet here I am waiting on approval and scheduled for surgery. What I do is try to remember how I felt the times I weighed less. How confident I felt. And I try to think of my son who's 2. How he will feel when Mommy can keep up with him and be around for him. Fear is natural but we can't keep it from controlling us or we will never move forward.

Breath................ move forward, study, reaseach and reflect. It is more involved than choseing what purse to carry today. Its a REAL life style change. I have no regrets

I'm so glad you asked this question. I'm almost done with the pre-approval process (haven't done the sleep study yet) but every once in a while i get second thoughts. Do I really want this? Is this what's best for me?, etc. I'm trying to remain steadfast in my decision to do this, but sometimes the fear of the unknown takes over. What if something goes wrong? Is this TOO big a change for me and/or will it actually work for me? What if I go through all of this and not lose any weight or gain it all back within a couple years?

I have a million doubts swimming around in my brain, but at the end of the day, when i walk up a flight of stairs and am out of breath, or look in a full-body mirror, or see my doctor and she tells me my cholesterol is dangerously high, I know that I'm making the right decision. If something goes wrong after my surgery like slippage, it can always be fixed. If i gain some weight back, I can always lose it again. It's worth the leap if it means a much better quality of life for you. So that's what I hold onto - the hope that my life will be better and healthier after I do this.

Thanks guys, I've been round and round in my head. But I KNOW this is the best decision for my health! Just gotta keep believing in the choice that I made and move forward!