I just found out a friend of mine who had gastric bypass done a year ago was found dead at home. He had the gastric bypass and lost over 150 lbs. , he did not live by the doctors rules. He was constantly drinking alcohol even after being hospitalized a week ago because he was not eating and drinking to much alcohol. I spoke to him last week after being discharged from the hospital and he was once again drinking. What a tragic loss, I think people must really weigh their options and examine their life style when choosing weight loss surgery. Gastric bypass patients are told that they could never never again eat sweets or drink alcohol, one must be ready to give these up for life it they choose gastric bypass.

I am very sorry to hear of the loss of your friend.

That is heartbreaking news. I'm very sorry for your loss.

Do not stand at my grave and weep;

I am not there. I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.

I am the diamond glints on snow.

I am the sunlight on ripened grain.

I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you awaken in the morning's hush

I am the swift uplifting rush

Of quiet birds in circled flight.

I am the soft stars that shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry;

I am not there. I did not die.

This poem has been attributed to more than one author, but whoever wrote it caught the gist.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

What a terrible tragedy.

It's frightening, but experts estimate that up to 30 percent of weight loss surgery patients (and this can include us) develop transfer addictions. In other words, when they are no longer able to abuse food, they shift to other substances (or behaviors).

I don't know if the stats are accurate, but it definitely is something to be on the lookout for.

We all need to get healthier---and it's so sad that your friend, despite losing weight, developed such a tragically destructive addiction. (Not that it's his doctor's fault or responsibility, but it's a shame that he could not have been successfully urged into rehab.)

What a sad and unnecessary waste of a life. I'm really, really sorry for your loss.

I thank you all for your loving words of support. Lets continue to get healthier.