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feel like a failure

I had my surgery July 07. I only lost 40lbs out of the 100lbs I need to be a healthy weight. Now it feels like I am putting some of it back on. I can barrely eat without vomiting but still gaining weight:mad:. I feel like a big failure. it feel like I can never get a break. I'm embarrassed to go back to see my surgeon. help I am beside myself right now.:confused:

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Go back to your surgeon...... just do it ! You will be much better off if you do. They can offer you the help you need to make this work better for you.

I had my surgery July 07. I only lost 40lbs out of the 100lbs I need to be a healthy weight. Now it feels like I am putting some of it back on. I can barrely eat without vomiting but still gaining weight:mad:. I feel like a big failure. it feel like I can never get a break. I'm embarrassed to go back to see my surgeon. help I am beside myself right now.:confused:

If you can barely eat without vomiting, then you are either eating way too fast or too much OR you are too tight. I would think maybe too tight. Stop and think what you eat that makes you sick. Were you eating bites that were too big or too fast? If not, you should probably get back to your surgeon to check with him/her. You probably need a small unfill. When you are too tight, you tend to eat slider foods which are higher in calories but are easily eaten when your band is tight. Try journaling your foods AND drinks for one week to see where your calories are coming from. Be honest. You are either eating more calories than you need or possibly eating way too little and your metabolism needs to be jump-started. You won't know until you take an honest look at what you are puting in your system each day. What you don't want to do is continue to beat yourself up over it. Take positive steps to move forward and don't look back. You can do this!

I had my surgery in July 07. I could have written the paragraph you wrote. I have been trying to lose weight so I could go back to my doc., but I just can't and I was too embarrassed to go. I finally went last Fri. I told the nurse, "This does not work for me." I diet and am losing nothing. The weight is slowly coming back instead of going down. The band tightened recently too. I am never full. I either can't eat and puke, or I can eat and I feel like I'm choking. She took out 2cc. I had 8 in a 10cc band. She sent me for a flouro. I went on Mon. I have the film, and I have an appt. with my doc. next Thurs.

Go to the doc. Tell them you are not happy. This is not working.

i totally agree, consult your surgeon, he knows it's hard and he can help you get back on track.....you can do it!!! goodluck:thumbup:

From all that I've read about the lapband, your band could have slipped, I believe that can cause weight gain and vommitting. You should definately go back to the doctor, you will feel so much better:redface:

What are you eating? If you're having difficulty eating without vomiting, I wonder whether you're too tight, and compensating with (higher calorie) sliders.

Look, you've lost forty percent of your excess weight. That is a HUGE accomplishment that you need to recognize. Yes, you can build on it. But you MUST see your doctor to ensure that your band is properly adjusted.

You're not a failure; you're simply in need of the medical attention you signed on for when you agreed to be banded. GO GET IT.

In my pre-op talk with my surgeon, he said that there would most likely come a time that I would struggle and become too embarrassed / ashamed to come to the office for my regular appointment--but no matter how bad I was doing there were always people doing so much worse!!!

We started this journey because we needed help, I don't think that will ever go away....go see your surgeon. :sad:

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thanks everyone for all the good sugestions. I started a food journal yesterdays trying to keep track of what I eat, my calorie intake for the day and also which food I cant eat without vomitting. I will call the surgeon tomorrow and schedule an appt. you guys are the best.

I had a very similar experience. I called the office and told them my problem. The nurse suggested taking a prilosec morning and night and not to eat or drink anything for at least 2 hours before bedtime. I drank only liquid and soft foods for a few days and after about 10 days I was cured and went back to regular foods. She gave me a great advice and it was just that simple to fix the problem I thought I would have to have an unfill and imagined all kind of problems but it was fixed with that 1 phone call. Good luck to you.

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