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Muffin tops, hail-damaged thighs, badonkadonk butts, and chicken wings: we have 'em; we hate 'em. So how do we get rid of them? We diet! We make plans to lose weight. We pick a surgeon, join a gym, and visualize the day we can zip back into those size 6 jeans. Or so we think. Weight loss isn’t about diet and exercise. It's not a plan. It's a battle. A battle in the mind. And without the right ammunition you're doomed to lose the Battle of the Bulge. It is mental just as much as it is physical. Why? Because until you are honest with yourself that you can't just diet, lose weight, and live happily ever after, then you won't be successful at losing weight. Dieting is so much more than eating less and exercising. It's about recognizing your motives for over-eating. It's about accepting the fact that in order to get to and stay at your ideal weight, you need to eat in moderation and consume the right types of foods. And to do that you have to make a lifestyle change - permanently. If you tell yourself that for a certain period of time you'll eat a high-protein diet, or drink only diet shakes and one meal per day, or eat ready-made foods from a weight loss center, or count points, or eat like a cave man - or any number of other fads which are out there - and then go back to eating how you prefer once you've shed the pounds, then you efforts will be in vain. You simply cannot go back to eating like you have been eating. We've all seen celebrities whose weight yo-yos with every passing year (hello, Ophrah?). Why? Because they stop exercising and eating right – or stop following a fad - and go back to business as usual. I'm betting they didn't internalize the lifestyle change which they appeared to embrace. "Lifestyle change?" you echo. Yes, lifestyle change. That means your life must change. For life. Period. As in, there's no going back. Now I know most of you just cringed at the thought of chomping on carrots for breakfast and forsaking your daily soda in favor of asparagus smoothies, doomed to a life of butterless, bland meals with no cheesecake in sight, but hear me out. Before you can successful change the things which go into your mouth, you must successfully change the thoughts which go into your head. There are three "weapons" you must think to win the weight loss war. They are: 1. I am worthy. It's not about what you should do for yourself to slim down and be healthier; it's what you can do for yourself. And you can lose this because you are worth it. Even if you are the only person on the planet and have no one to impress, you are still worth it to lose weight. You've got to love yourself to the extent that you want to feed yourself properly and do good things for your body. It's a process, but you'll reach that point of loving yourself. I promise. 2. I am not a fat person. Okay, so you're tipping the scales and wear a size XXXL, but you are still not a fat person. You are you living inside a prison of your own making and you will be released. You must release yourself in your mind to be slim. Visualization is a powerful tool. Consult any positive thinking self-help book, Zen monk, or successful business person, and they will tell you the same thing: you've got to visualize the success in order to get there. Picture yourself not stopping at the fast food joint. Picture yourself working out – and then go do it. Picture yourself eating salads and drinking plenty of water and enjoying it. See yourself reacting in horror to preservative-laden, highly processed junk food. See yourself taking the stairs instead of the elevator. See yourself in that slinky little black dress. The more you change your thoughts and think rightly, the more your actions will follow. "I am not a fat person" – think it, believe it, and become it. 3. I am not a failure. Newsflash: the world isn't going to end if you slip up and eat something that you shouldn't eat. You made a mistake – so what? Forgive yourself and move on. You have the next minute, hour, day, year, decade, life to keeping moving forward, to be a winner. Learn this valuable lesson from your mistake: I don't have to make the same mistake again because I am worth it! Now you have the ammunition; you know the location of the battlefield. It's time for war. Victory is yours! About Becky Siame Becky Siame is the author of The Lighter Side of Large, her debut novel, currently released as a kindle digital download on Amazon and Smashwords. She lives in Nelson with her two children.

For those of you that missed A Current Affair News Program last night, I was interviewed about my weight loss journey and about SizeXchange-an online clothes swap community for dieters and families transitioning through dress sizes. It was so nerve wracking and exciting watching myself on Australian TV I cant believe how far I have come...thanks to my lapband. Check it out A Current Affair - SizeXchange story Hopefully everyone will be doing the 'SizeXchange Jiggle' before too long...hahaha :thumbup: Please let me know what you think. :eek: Flabuless

hi guys its been awhile since i posted here but i just wanted to let you all know that i have FINALLY launched SIZEXCHANGE an online clothes exchange website for dieters. We just launched today in Australia and NZ. I am so excited as its been a vision of mine for over 3years since I first became a member on lapbandtalk.com. I hope this new service helps all navigating through dress sizes whilst they are on their way to their goal size. So check out SizeXchange - Welcome to the Frontpage and let me know what you think. i would love to hear your feedback. :laugh:

Hi guys, I am having a competition on my blog Finding Flabuless to give away a Fuji Crosstown 2.0 bike. So far there are only 2 entrants haha so the odds are really good! Its my first competition so it will be great to give my friends the chance to get involved. The funny thing is that I rode on a bike last week and I DIDN'T burst the tires! Yay! Its so nice to be able to exercise again! I am loving it. Thank God for my lap-band!:welldoneclap: xx Flabuless

A Picture says it all!!!! This is just one in a series of many embarassing moments that I have turned into a cartoon strip based on my 'fat' life called 'The Lighter Side of Large' there are more on my blog but I thought I would share this one as it was probably THE most singularly embarassing moment of my life... :eek: Becky

haha lol green! :eek: Becky

Hi guys...I know I know its been awhile...Hey...Guess What? I just got interviewed on 'Back at Skinny Jeans', a very popular health and fitness blog, about my weight-loss journey and decision to get lap-band surgery. Visit my Blog for more info if your interested. If you can stand my Aussie/New Zealand accent the Two Part Podcast interview gives a good background into what lap-band is and what it did for me personally...I also tell a couple of huge secrets...oops!!!! I have been a bad girl! I am looking forward to hearing your comments. :eek: flabuless:kiss

HaHa...you have to stand on a scale TWICE in front of everyone...I think I conquered two terrifying fears...lol becky

Always one to create a stir...I just wanted to let everyone know that I am 239lbs and I jumped head first off a bridge with only a tiny elastic rope around my ankles...It was the most terrifying thing I have ever done in my whole life...Standing on the edge of the bridge...looking down at the swirling water way, way, way below...and thinking I am going to jump down into that. Here is a Picture: I have more pictures on my blog...but I guess I just wanted to brag...If I can do that...then we can do anything...losing the remaining 63lbs that I have to loose should be a breeze for me after that. We shall see. Flabuless

Ooops I just realised that some people who were trying to view my weight loss photo album through Internet Explorer haven't been able to. I have totally re-done the Photo Album page so I hope you can all view now...please drop me an email if you can't.

wow...it is so cool finding out everyone's names. you guys rock!

Yay...I am going to go to the libary tomorro and see if its there..sounds great thanks.

I am so bored...yea right! with two kids, 3 websites on the go and a house to upkeep! but am an avid reader and whenever I find the time... Can anyone recommend a fictional books about weightloss? I have come across some really funny books like "Good in bed" by jennifer weiner as well as touching ones. I am trying to track down "diary of a fat housewife" as I have heard that is pretty good. But I was wondering if anyone else knew of any good reads ie not self help hehehe!. Reading AND inspiration for entertainment if you get my drift? Please pass on your 'flabuless' finds. Becky

I must admit...loosing the weight has CERTAINLY changed my outlook on life...2 years ago there is NO WAY I would be taking pictures of myself...let alone plastering them all over the web! hehehe! but If I can inspire some people then it makes it all worth while...I have had such a good responce to my own blog site that I am working on an another idea at present... to have a free site, totally dedicated to weightloss motivation...we all need our daily motivation 'fix' so my inspiration is to set up a community based website where members can submit/share any matter of motivational material ie video streaming (youtube etc), podcasts, success stories, inspirational reading material, pictures, songs etc...All content would be focussed on inspiring and motivating other dieters. with rss feeds etc so that you could get your daily 'dose' easily. It could be fun...what do y'all think? Do my poll should I set this up?