My husband is totally against it as well. Despite this I decided to go ahead with it and am now waiting for the insurance to okay everything. He used every excuse as to why I shouldn't have the band done. He mainly said since I had failed so many times before, what made me think I could succeed in this. He actually told the Dr. at my visit that he had faith in the band, just not in me. The mind games just don't stop with him. I'm doing this for myself, and I'm trying to find the strength to succeed for myself. Remember this is all for you, not him. He should have an opinion and know when to stop giving it and start supporting you instead. I just don't get spouses that try to control, they wont admit it... but thats what it is. Good luck. You will succeed.