Bypass2Freedom

So unrelated but I love your make up!!

I just wanted to pop by and say hello, as I am also from the UK! I am pre-op, due to have my surgery on 14/05/24, and I am so nervous about the LRD. If you need someone to talk to, or vent to, I am always here!

I feel that I ask myself this at least twice a day! ?

Hey! I am in the UK and I am getting my surgery with Simon Monkhouse (he is on insta & TikTok) and genuinely he is usually more than happy to give advice if you reach out to him, especially if you struggle! It does sound like the advice you were given to return to liquids is worrying I can't imagine how hard it must be for you right now! Definitely reach out to a professional for a second opinion!

@Arabesque I agree with you on that - I do think my Granny has little filter left! Hence why I am trying not to take it too personally as I know she wouldn't have intended any harm. She didn't have any dessert! But she does often comment on how myself, my mum etc, don't leave any food on the plate. It can be frustrating at times for sure! It is hard to know how to manage it best sometimes isn't it? I do try to just let things go, but I firmly believe that there are people out there who just need to be told to f**k off haha!

I have to say, the second quote gets my vote ?

I quite like that reply, and I shall store that in my bank should I need it after my surgery! ?

It definitely does add some difficulty when it comes to it being your close family! Especially as I know my Granny probably meant nothing by it, it is just the way in which she talks. I completely get that haha! I feel that she is always talking about weight and the fact she struggles (mind you, she is probably like a size 10-12 which I'd kill for haha!), but I suppose everyone's struggles look different. But we always tend to have these conversations whilst we are eating! There really does need to be...

I definitely can foresee myself taking comments differently when I am smaller, I suppose a lot of it does have to do with our internal narrative too! It is sad though how comments that people make seem rather thoughtless, and people don't realise how much they have the potential to hurt and stay with a person. It is really good to hear that Sarah got an apology, because sometimes that means a lot and shows acknowledgement of potential wrongdoing.

I think it is probably a lot of trauma related to my weight specifically! People, especially family, should know better as you say. A thicker skin is needed at times, I agree. It is just a shame that we have to develop that, rather than people just being kinder. I need to adopt that haha, I am glad you confronted them! I currently have therapy and it is definitely something I need to talk about! Thank you for your reply

I just wanted to pop by and say congratulations. This is so uplifting to read, I am so happy for you!

Hey everyone, I was on here talking before about some comments that my partner's family member made, and how it kind of upset me. Yet again, now more comments are being made but this time from my own Grandma. I had a dessert with my sister whilst we were out and she proceeded to call us 'piggies'. I know this is just a phrase that a lot of people make, but for some reason it just got to me a bit. I struggle a lot with being perceived in public, always worrying that I am taking up too much space, or if someone is looking at me, thinking it is for a negative reason around my weight. It is a really destructive pattern of thinking, I am aware, and I am trying to change it. I just feel really heavy with it all at the moment. But I think I just needed to rant about it. I am just feeling quite low about a lot of things, and unfortunately, unless you have struggled with your weight, I think it is hard for people to understand the why. x

It is strange how we feel the need to explain, when really we owe them nothing at all! Thank you for the advice! x

I have to say, I agree with this and will be using that from now on!

I am still pre-surgery so I can't give any advice just yet, but I wanted to wish you good luck and to say congratulations! You got this! ❤️

Hey I think one of the best things you could do is just to contact your surgeon/Dr just to see what they would advise in this situation, especially with the pain you are in. I am still pre-surgery so I am not too sure on how it should be straight afterwards, but I know that most people on here would advise talking to a medical professional if you are struggling

I read about this the other day and it is so heart-breaking. Rest in peace Morgan x

I am so sorry to hear that your dietician said that to you. It is a shame that people we go to for help are often the same ones who talk down to us, frequently those in healthcare settings. I really wish you the best of luck with it all

If you don't mind me asking - who are you going with privately? I am going with Spire hospitals with Simon Monkhouse! I am so glad it was quick for you! I feel that the waiting times on the NHS are just awful as they really impact our health in every way. I know for a fact if I have to wait 4-5 years I just wouldn't be in a good place, both mentally and physically, by the time that comes around. Oh god...I do not envy you there! I wish you all the luck! I can't wait!

I just wanted to pop onto this thread to see that it is really good to read some experiences people are having in the UK! I am on the NHS waiting list, but I know that can take years, so I am hoping to have my surgery in May this year privately. I hope all goes well with you! ❤️

Congratulations! This is so amazing! ?

Exactly haha! They seem to see it as an easy way out, and I haven't even had the surgery yet and I know it is going to be one of the most difficult things I have ever done. Plus, I imagine those same people would probably get actual cosmetic surgery like a BBL and consider that okay, when in reality they could just 'work harder', and have the 'willpower' to do squats every day haha! Either way, I'd never judge anyone's choices as to what they do with their body, so I don't know why we are judged so harshly when it comes to giving ourselves a chance to live a better life and to greatly improve our health!

Ahh I am going with a Spire hospital too! Simon Monkhouse is doing mine

Yeah exactly what I was thinking! I think binge eating and snacking is one of my biggest downfalls, so I want to tackle that head-on. I am 3 days down without eating crisps and masses of chocolate and sweets! I'll definitely let it stabalise - I imagine although I am 27, I will definitely have loose skin. I have always been a bigger girl. Been at my heaviest weight for a year or two now I think, but I have always had a belly so that's gonna be the area for me! I will say though, with all the moisturising I have been doing, especially on my tummy, it has made me not hate it as much, but just to kind of accept it as part of me. I usually don't look at myself in the mirror, I won't even touch my tummy, so to have to be gentle and care for it in a way has been a bit cathartic. So, if anything, that is helping haha. That is amazing you have been so fortunate with your loose skin, I am so happy for you!

Ahh I don't mind a good hat haha! Thank you