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Never had a girl show any intreast in going there on me, and for the most part I dont have any intreast. Now turn the table and its a new ball game both my wife and I like me doing things to her in and on the back side.

What he said!!!!

Just an FYI I work in the Computer Industry and you are just as likely get a virus from myspace as you are a pron site there are 1000s of harmless looking sites out there you can get them from not to mention via Email so please dont use this as fule to add to the fire.

I think your issues with this run much much deeper then it being download on to the computer that you both use! If this was the case you guys would buy him a cheap little computer and it would be the end of story, but thats not the case others have mentioned you get him a computer and if that was the real issue you would have done that a long time ago. I do hope you get it figured out in a way that you both are happy, time for some Pro help in my view.

Wow!!! Many of ya just need to chill out; it’s not a big deal. I find it funny but most of my wife’s friends who have issues with porn are the same woman who read 4 trashy romance novels a week , why do they do this hmm could it be all the fucking going on in those books, please excuse my French. Oh and don’t tell me you all don’t fantasize while reading those novels. Oh and if it is a big deal you just might want to take a serious look at yourself and figure out why? Don’t get all caught up with a guy checking out a little porn and stab him with the “YOU HAVE AN ADICTION” sword due to your own little insecurities that’s just wrong. I have found in my 41 years that most woman get off reading some type of erotica be it the romance novel or hardcore stuff but it seems to me they do this for the same reasons guys watch porn for a little fantasy time the thing is most guys are very visual so the pics/movies do it for us more so then the books. So what your husband told you he would stop and you found out he didn’t, well you put him in a very tuff position I’m sure all hell would of broken loose if he had told you “NO I won’t stop” so he did what most guys would of done and said “Ok I will stop” Some person early in this thread said “we all do things in private that we don’t want anyone to know about”, that statement speaks volumes!!! I see nothing wrong with the trashy romance novel or some porn unless they become destructive to any parts of the rest of their life! Everything in moderation. I do find it somewhat strange that the original poster said she had no issue with him looking every so often but downloading it was going too far, how is that going too far??? He is looking at naked women the end result is the same weather it’s on your hard drive or on the internet. In the end if we all knew what are wife’s or husbands did in their personal time Im sure we woudl laugh, freak out and all types crazy thought we woudl have, lol let them have their OWN time. I will say it again CHILL OUT and let each other enjoy a little personal fantasy time we all deserve it so don’t take it away from the one you love. I have walked in on my wife reading one of those romance novels and she had here magic wand out and was going to town on herself, I thought it was great and in no way felt threatened by it, shoot I think it’s healthy and would be worried if she didn’t do things like that. Oh and by the way I have been known to “rub one out” while checking out some pics/movies myself J It doesn’t mean I love my wife any less but out of respect I don’t do it in front of her, unless she asks me to J. Life is short enjoy it!!!

Well I dont look at as a "kicking my butt" sort of thing, its not a race and we all will get there in our own time. I have always been lucky in that the pounds come off fast, lol but I can put them on way faster and thats what brought me to the BAND!!! Im sure I will start slowing down, I have noticed this week having less restriction looks like I might need to get a fill soon.

I dont think having the Powder Room on the home page is an issue, I think the bigger issue is why is the site so DANG slow there are tons of paid adds that Im sure could pay for a little more bandwidth to speed up the site. I love these forums but hate coming here with the speed being so slow. It's a joke how slow the site runs, I think Alex needs to address this way before anything else.

OMG that hot! lol Its funny how you came in here saying this is not the place for this kind of subject then you go on to give your view on the said subject. Good stuff!!!

Well sorry to hear that the bastard cheated on ya! I sure hope you have dumped him and moved on, but it sounds like you have not. Just remember not all of us are cheaters. So I ask you does any of this matter? Why do you want to know, it does not matter. Just end it and move on. Life is too short to worry about these types of things, go find a good man and life. For me it’s very clear, if that sort of thing happened to me it would have been over the moment I found out. I would never think of putting myself through the years of second guessing myself and the never being able to trust my wife without question! I’m not a fan of seeing a pro as couple to try to work these types of things out, I am a big fan of cutting my lose and moving on. I would learn from it and find someone new.

Wow all I can say is this band thing is the best, 40 lbs down and 80 to go! The Good: 1) that crazy hunger switch that has been on for 41 years is now turned off. 2) no longer crave carbs, not even a little. 3) down 3 holes in my belt 4) all my tight stuff is no longer tight. 5) I was lucky I always felt good about my self but now Im feeling GREAT 6) My wife is no longer worried about me putting on more and more weight. 7) Its been VERY easy I just walk 5 times a week for a few miles 8) I know this will add years to my life, I lucked out and had no weight related health problems or any health problems at all. 9) lol its saving me money, not spending lots of cash at the fat food joints. 10) lots of good support here 11) have zero fill in my band so its easy for me to drink tons of Water and if I do slip up and not chew enough I dont always have a PB, I did have one 6 weeks ago and wow that was no fun. I will not have a fill untill the weight loss stops. 12) Have TONS of skinny cloths ready to go 13) no longer think/lust after food 24-7 14) eating is just something I do 3 times a day now, no longer a big deal. 15) another 20lbs and I will no longer have to shop at the Big and Tall stores! The Bad: 1) I will be having to buy tons of new threads.

I hate to say it but this is your doing!!! You need to tell your doc to give you a fill like NOW or find a new doc to give ya a fill. The band is only a tool, its a big tool but we are in charge of using this tool, you need to take charge of your health/band find a new doc. Good luck and just think when you have real restriction the pounds will fall off.

After my first week of Clear liquids I was nelting cheese into all my Soups :wink2: I just hit 8 weeks and still eat cheese everyday and it has not been an issue. I have almost lost 40lbs in those 8 weeks. Enjoy your cheese!!!

I had some good loving I think it was the thrid day, and dam with guys we have to do most the work lol and it was no problem shoot when for round two like within 15 min :biggrin:

Seems to me you are not eating enough! You need to contact a nutritionist or research yourself what and how much you should be eating at this time. Not trying to pass any blame here but the band is only a tool, yes its a very big tool but it has to be used in the right way and you do not seem to be using it right. Im sure when you get your diet a worked out you will start loosing weight. I sure wish you lots of luck

Im sure he does!!! :tt1:

Great reply!!! :wub:

I have found that if I put my vegies in my steamer and over steam then till they are very soft I have NO problems with any vegies.

Zero fills, Im about 2 months out and have not needed a fill, Im down 35lbs as of today and have good restriction.

Corn is not an issue for me, but I stay away from it being its so high in sugar! Now being two weeks out I would not worry much about sugar you are in the healing stage. I was a big fan of Grits at 2 weeks, tons of carbs but like I said it more of a healing stage then a losing weight stage. Try some canned turkey chili with no beens so so good tasting and I just blended it a bit and it was not a problem.

If I were you I would call my Doc ASAP. This does not sound to normal, did the Doc give you drugs to help keep you from getting nauseous I think most do.

Gratz Paula!!! Oh and I was banded on Aug 14th too

A few weeks for me and even then I was hurting a little, strange I felt great doing everything but laying on my side to sleep, you will get there!!!

Well I was good to go 4 days after getting banded and the little lady and I are very active

Im just curious why would you eat this much? Remember the band is only a tool we have to do most of the footwork and that includes not overeating. Good luck in trying to curb your overeating.

Way to lump people into a group just based on age lol, when age has nothing to do with it!!! Now I’m not defending her statement, Im just pointing out that yours is as narrow minded as hers!!! Remeber the "life is short" can work both ways in that its very very easy to screw it up.