RestlessMonkey

I say you know your husband and situation best, but sometimes things cloud our better judgement. If he really doesn't care about you, why would he FREAK at the knowledge that you are having the surgery? You need to clarify that in your mind. What I suggest; flip it. How would you feel if he took such a step and didn't tell you? Would you feel betrayed? shoved to the side? ticked that he spent the money, risked his life and didn't tell you? Would you give a rat's ass one way or the other? You need to treat him the way YOU would like to be treated. Take the high road. You may or may not end up with him; I don't know your relationship/situation/life status. I just know that if you wouldn't mind or care if the tables were turned, then proceed. Otherwise, bite the bullet and tell him. You want respect and to be noticed; you need to give that out.

Unless you have a medical condition (can't think of one off the top of my head) that puts you in danger without Vitamins for a few days, I think that may be it. Make sure you get some plain old Water in too. It will keep you hydrated and shouldn't irritate your stomach. But you will have some gas over this time; your digestive tract is getting used to the change, and you are healing. Walking helps, and trying to not swallow air (ie no straws) when you get your fluids in. If you are worried about getting though the weekend; call and ask your doc though. However, if you feel "ok" (you are just a few days post op) when you DONT take the vitamins, let them wait until you start mushies. Right now hydration (64 ounces of water/fluids) is most important! And not being miserable! :scared2:

Don't weigh. You are healing, your body/metabolism/digestive system are all freaked out. Plus you're pumped full of liquids during surgery. Give it until your first fill and THEN you can start weighing and fretting. But now, your body is focused on repair and recovery, not weight loss. What's happening to you is normal; you'll get through it!

First...are you sure you are supposed to take the Vitamins yet? Can you call your doc and ask? I was told not to chew anything...including vitamins...until mushies. Please confirm that; going a few weeks without a Vitamin won't hurt you as much as chewing something before your stomach is healed. Ok? If you'll check with your doc about that and then post back I will try to help you; but I think that may be the culprit.

My doc is adamant about NO SNACKS! Its taken a while but I'm compliant! How long I can go depends on what I eat. If I eat something that is likely to take longer to go through my pouch, like steak (well done!) or white meat chicken, I can easily go 6 hours. If I eat something softer (baked fish) or more "mushie-esque" (like a bean burrito or a taco) then I get hungry earlier...around 4 hours. Carbs and blood sugar/insulin may play a role (although I'm not diabetic) but generally the foods that stick around in the pouch longer=longer time between meals.

I think he's thinking of bypass actually. During the first months they drop the most...malabsorption is at it's height (over time the body, to a point, compensates for that) and the new stomach is at it's smallest. That's also when they are most likely to have dumping syndrome, if they do have it. (some have it early on but then "lose" if after a period of time) The band, however, is different. Since it is essentially only restrictive, and because it takes some that long (or in my case LONGER) to obtain good restriction, some don't lose any during that time frame or even gain. The NP at my surgeon's office said "Many of our patients don't even start to lose until 6 months out so don't get impatient". So, I think your surgeon was confused...mixing his surgeries. The band, with it's restriction, is supposed to provide slower weight loss but long term...with patients still losing 3 years out (or more). This, at least, is what my surgeon, the 2 books I bought from Amazon and read, and my internet meanderings bears out.

A girl's got needs.

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HH Dude you need to put the banana daiquiris down! :wink: Save them for me, the monkey and Richard.

I'm SO GLAD! Love my surgeon and his patience at answering ALL My questions! I know it doesn't do the trick for everyone but it helps a LOT of people! I know my band is the same AM and PM. I am sure that's partly a benefit of my age (post menopause thank goodness so no hormone fluctuations LOL) but also because I start the day with 16 oz of Water (before my coffee usually!) and keep it up! :wink: It's wonderful that helped you too!

Mine was 1 month. Many are longer. Some are shorter.

it depends totally on your insurance and the surgeon you choose The surgeon will have tests he feels he needs, and the insurance will have prerequisites.

misty there are 2 important "take home" messages: 1. Do your research before you decide which WLS, if any, is right for you, because all have their pros and cons and 2. Never ever agree to a "secret" cabo weekend with Headhunter, unless you want to end up in a hot tub in Tucson with Richard Simmons and a monkey (VERY important lesson here)

OK my potassium pills are 4/5 of an inch LONG 1/4 of an inch thick and 7/16 of an inch wide. See, they ARE big! But I am sure they dissolve in my pouch before going through the band...which is ok, as far as my surgeon is concerned.

This is just so odd! :wink: MY PCP (who prescribed the darn potassium pills)...told me when I asked him about taking them (this before I got the band) "Most of my patients with the lap band don't seem to have any trouble taking pills". I am beginning to think it's partly whether or not we think we can. :crying:

He's got a hot date with me, BethinVA, 2 monkeys, Richard Simmons and a spa tub in Tucson. You're just going to have to wait your turn. :wink:

Call your doc.

I have 7 cc in my 14 cc band and feel marvy.

Good grief go get a small unfill. You may be getting dehydrated. Get the unfill; keep the appt on the 20th. You can get MORE put back then if you want.

You're young. I don't know what you weigh now...but can tell you you may or may not have loose skin. HOWEVER...at your age, if you are otherwise healthy, odds are that it will tighten up. I CAN tell you that for every year you stay fat, the odds of having loose skin get better! In other words girl, you are at your peak of elasticity! :wink: A good surgeon will address this with you. Other issues will come into play but your young age is a BIG old plus in your favor.

Honestly for some reason, younger women seem to feel more pain than older ones. I have no idea why...maybe your nerves are younger or something! LOL But you are more likely to be nauseated, in pain, and miserable. IT STOPS! And I don't mean when you're 80, either. I mean the nausea, vomiting and pain will go away. You took a HUGE step to being trim, fit, healthy, HOT, gorgeous. Your stomach is pissed off at you...you aren't feeding it like it's used to AND AND AND you put a BELT around it! It will get over it. Give it time. Trust yourself...the you that wasn't hungry and drugged and unhappy, but the you who thought this over and wanted the benefits. The nausea will pass; eventually you'll be able to eat, your stomach will get on board with the new situation, and all will be "copacetic".

Bottom line, do what your surgeon says to do. Obviously mine isn't as reticent, especially since he gave me a prescription for a pill pain killer post op. But do what your surgeon says, especially initially. As you go on, you'll find what works for you. Since I CAN take anything (and have no problem foods either) then I obviously am not risking anything...I'd risk dying of boredom if I had to crush or open and mix in with food all the pills I take! LOL .... but we all have different constitutions, swallow strength, and surgeons. So do what your doc says. If he says you can take pills, odds are you can. and vice versa.

Some people swell when their band is "messed with"...so it's possible you have that. Just stick with your liquids, make sure you get your 64 oz Water for today (very important) and see how you feel tomorrow, is what I'd advise. I don't know what time your doc closes on Fridays but I'd give it until about 1-2 pm (providing he's open friday afternoons) and see how I felt...If you still are uncomfy, call. Of course you can call earlier, but if it is just that you are swollen, it will go down and you'll feel better.

Next you'll be telling me you have a Steel Drum Band from Jamaica and a soccer team from Brazil joining in. Sigh. You better bring 2 monkeys.

My big postassium pills aren't supposed to be crushed either. I found crushing to just be a pain in the posterior....and why bother if you can take them whole?