Creekimp13

"Also what’s up with people who haven’t even had surgery just putting there opinions everywhere" It's a message board. That's what people do on message boards. The woman who did that to you recently wasn't being rude. She's 72 and she thought she was being helpful.

Winter here has been sucky, too. Spring can't come soon enough:)

Nope. Didn't read your book. Even after you plugged it multiple times in your "motivation" article. Have no interest in reading it because your whole article is condescending and makes me think your book will be too. If you want honest feedback, and that's what you seem to be asking for.... Here's a synopsis of how your article comes across (to me) Behaviors you should change: 1. Read my book. 2. Have you read my book yet? 3. Do yoga. (not everyone's cup of tea) 4. Take care of yourself. (cause none of us do) 5. Exercise. (cause we didn't know to do that and never thought of that) 6. Be grateful...use an app. (uh...no. Gratitude is great...packaging it for InstaGoogleTweetFace is tacky) 7. Write down why you want to change. (no one's ever thought of this) 8. Be glad you're not eating horribly anymore! (oye) PS...help me write my book! No, thanks.

People associate rapid weighloss with scary illness. Because...it happens. Also, we can get a little iron deficient and pale. We can suffer some hair loss. Meh...is what it is. In time, we'll look healthier and stronger than ever.

I make my own. I make it with pork tenderloin in the crock pot. Very lean and tender, and I have no issues with it. I cut it with a knife before I put it in my mouth and chew it really well. Works out great:)

Compared to the stretch marks and loose skin....the teenie little scars are a moot point. To me, anyway. Another thing to consider....single incision procedures are newer, and surgeons haven't done hundreds or even thousands of them in their careers....like multi incision procedures. I want my doctor to be VERY experienced with what s/he is doing when they're working next to my spleen. Food for thought.

it's hard to say anything about being disappointed by a lack of a 100 pound weight loss....when we don't know your stats. I think everyone has concerns about failing and everyone gets discouraged by stalls...and everyone has the occasional slip up. All I can say, I guess...is that you're not alone, and that every day is a choice. If you're choosing to do your best each day, and work as hard as you can...no one can ask more of you. Not even yourself. But make that choice:) Good luck to you.

I get my 60 grams of protein, but a huge part of my diet is carbs. Beans, Pumpernickel, Sourdough, lentils, protein pasta (made of lentils and chickpeas), protein wraps, whole wheat English muffins, oatmeal, sweet potatoes, white potatoes...mashed, baked, etc. (when I do mashed, I do half potatoes, half cauliflower, with fat free buttermilk) And fruits are all carbs, and I eat about four servings a day. Tons of veggies, too. I eat very little meat. One protein shake in my coffee over the course of the day=30g protein. One greek yogurt each day=10g protein. The other 20g I get from low glycemic carb protein (a whole wheat English muffin has 6g of protein), tofu, mushrooms, beans, nuts, seeds, etc. And a couple times a week, I eat some meat, too. I get my 60g of protein every day. Sometimes 80g. Losing 1-2 pounds a week pretty steadily. Loving it:) This week was a bonus week...3 pounds:) (last week I was stuck due to my period, so 3 pounds was welcome) I'm eating 6 little meals a day, am never hungry. The idea that this is forever...is ok with me. I like how this fits in my life.

I love eating out:) I bring my own tupperwear, now. Stuff 2/3 of the food in boxes as soon as the plate arrives, and eat and pick at the remaining 1/3. No one notices, no one cares. Also, my group gives us a medical card that alerts restaurants that we should be allowed to eat from the children's or senior's menus if they're available. Most restaurants are totally cool with this. Mostly, though, I just get a regular meal and take home leftovers.

Ask your group. I wasn't allowed anything with sugar for the whole two weeks of my pre-op diet. Then, the doc stunned us all and told us to carb load with like 32 ounces of white grape juice the night before surgery. If your info sounds weird....call and ask for clarification.

Wowsers! Nice work! Lookin...yeah, just wow! Would love to see ya smile, though...you got plenty to smile about:)

For 20 years, I dieted, and lied to myself. Went back and forth between two extremes. You might be familiar with them. One was called....Screw it, you're fat, so what? I drank a two liter of Pepsi daily, loved bread, french fries, chicken tenders, and chocolate turtle ice cream pie. I also love food that was good for me. And food that had sprinkles. And grease. And sugar. And anything hot out of an oven. And....well, you get the picture. My husband laughed at me for putting excess bacon on my veggie burgers. The other me was....The Fitness Nazi. I was the autistic savant of calorie counting. Like Rain man, I could look at a deconstructed plate of stuff and guess calories with the accuracy of a food scientist. I was all about counting my grapes, going from one fad diet to the next. This time, I'm going to find the answer to fast weight loss. Must be thin. Not healthy. Not strong. Thin. And I'd like to be thin as fast as possible, please. Need to go to the gym. I hate the gym. Go anyway, you're fat, you must repent and be punished by the gym to be excused of your sin of fattness. Must never again eat anything white, or carb, or that casts a shadow. I'm a perfectionist, dammit. I can DO THIS! Speaking of Fatness. Remember The Hunger Games? I went to a costume party last year as the fat version of Katniss Everdeen: Fatness NeverLean. My flaming dress had porkchops on it. For 20 years...I went back and forth between two lies. I'm not either of these people. I'm not in denial about how bad obesity is for your health. I care. But I'm not a Fitness Nazi either. I don't care about being thin. For me...I needed to make peace with food, not fight a war against it. And man, sometimes if feels like that's all we do. Just endlessly battle. I'm tried, man. Just really tired of the war. What helped me the most...is escaping an extremist mindset. I'm tired of extremes. I don't want to binge on crap anymore. Screw that self destructive nonsense. I also don't want to starve anymore or eat "healthy" things I HATE. Screw that self destructive nonsense, too. I don't want to eat stuff I don't like..."because it's good for me." I want to eat stuff that I DO like that's good for me. Sometimes those things are hard to find! But they're out there. They're worth finding and taking the extra effort to make. I'm tired of lying to myself. 20 years of dieting lies...up, down, up down. What's the point? I don't want to be either of those two people, I just kept running from both of them. I had to find balance. I had to love my life, love my diet, love my self enough to stop the self abuse of both extremes. I HATE the fat binger. I HATE the thin fitness nazi. Finding the plan that works for the individual is tough. And it's gonna be different for everyone. It's not one size fits all. (nothing one size fits all works for me...lol) If I were doing low carb and crazy low calories, I'd probably shoot myself or others. I feel horrible on that plan...and I know from experience that I'll crash and burn on it eventually. It works great for some folks....but I'm not one of them. These days I'm working on being really really honest with myself. I'm picking things for my diet on a new criteria...Do I genuinely like eating this? Is it good nutrition? Can it fit in a balanced day of healthy eating? When I exercise, I don't think about how many calories it burns anymore, or how long I have to do it, or what gets me the most burn in the least time. I think....Do I enjoy doing this? Do I look forward to it, or dread it? Can I do this with a friend for support and have a good time? I want to love my new life. I want a Forever diet that I love. I want a Forever exercise plan that I love. I want balance. I'm done with immediacy and urgency and extremes. I'm losing weight slow and steady. If I lose 3-5 pounds a month, I am so happy with that. I didn't put all this weight on in a few months, I'm not gonna lose it in a few months. They say you'll lose weight for 18 months or so after surgery. I've got 16 months to go. If I lose 2-3 pounds a month, I'll make my goal. I'm in no hurry, because I'm working on my forever diet that I can love and live with.......not my "until I'm skinny" punishment diet. Sometimes I really think the key to this whole mess is finding a way to be honest with yourself...resolve the two extremes and find the middle ground. Just some thoughts. Take what ya like, and leave the rest:)

I think many many people can identify with what you're saying here. Because it's true...regardless of how you do it...you still have to watch your diet, and make lifelong lifestyle changes. For me....getting the sleeve made sense because it helps with with volume, and with encouraging better food choices. (I can have a bite or two of sugary stuff and enjoy it, but if I try to eat a full serving of refined sugar...yuck...I feel nauseated for a while and it's a good reminder) Not a huge bread fan anymore. I still love the stuff emotionally...but eating it isn't as satisfying. At the end of the day....I'd lost and gained hundreds of pounds. Over and over and over. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a new result. Will my sleeve work forever? There are no guarantees. But I'm feeling really really encouraged by how it's effected my food preferences. I LIKE my forever diet. I LIKE my exercise routine. And I'm not blowing smoke here...and pretending I do (which I have in the past). There is very honestly no other diet I'd rather be eating. I love how my new exercise routine makes me feel. Working a supervised program has been supportive, too. Seeing my health improve...has inspired me.

My daughter has the pendent version of Fitbit because she's a field research biologist and is always in water....so neither the wrist or ankle work for her. There's also a bra clip you can get. Lots of options:)

All of your concerns are valid. You said that you "feel at her age this is a fast cure all". It's not. If your niece doesn't adjust her lifestyle, it won't work...and that will be explained to her if her surgeon is reputable. This is not a fast or easy cure. If she goes through the process...that will be made abundantly clear. You make a terrific point about aftercare and emergencies with no insurance. Not a good situation to be in, and hopefully your niece realizes that and takes it as seriously as she should. My personal feeling is that your niece's priority should be to get insurance, and get her other health concerns resolved first. Thyroid is important. But as the mom of a 22 year old...I've gotta tell ya.....they're adults now. They're going to make their own decisions, wise or unwise. All part of growing up. Best you can do is to be there, and offer solid nonjudemental advice when you're asked for it. Also, she might have thought this through more than you realize...and you might be making assumptions. Best wishes to you both.

I put my fitbit on my ankle when I shop for exactly that reason. LOL:) The problem is that putting your hand on the cart keeps it from registering steps. The ankle measurment isn't as accurarate as the wrist, but I've worn both at the same time...and it's close enough:) They sell ankle straps on Amazon.

I observed it in my dryer. I cleaned the filter. Oh, wait, that's different..... LOL:)

I live in the country, too. The YMCA is about 25 miles away for me:) But combined with other trips to town, I can still make it there a couple times a week. I strongly suggest getting a pedometer of some sort. There are free fitness apps with pedometers for most smartphones...might be a fun place to start. Track your steps...even while cleaning and organizing....it adds up! Challenge yourself to do a little more each day. Just tracking what you normally do will give you so much information about your habits. Gardening, pool care, snow shoveling, lawn mowing....all of that stuff counts:)

Elise, I can't see what you're saying cause I blocked you yesterday (it still shows you're posting a response...and as curious as I am, I'm not gonna unblock ya, sorry) I hope you get all your angst out and feel better:) Enjoy your rant! It's a good place for it:) Oh, and thanks for the bump! LOL:)

Start SLOW! Worst thing you can do is hurt yourself. When I started this crazy process in June, I was super out of shape...270, and really really sedentary. My best friend got me a Fitbit for my birthday. She's gotten herself one and wanted to support my weight loss effort....which was awesome! I started off really really slow. 5000 steps a day. I could get those steps anywhere. Just walking around my house and yard, doing errands...I could get those 5000 pretty easily most days. I just started bumping it up a little each week. Pretty soon I was doing 8,000 steps, then 10,000... Today, I walk about 16,000-20,000 steps per day. My energy is amazing, I feel better, my endurance is so much better. Recently, I've been at the YMCA doing a stretching class for artritis (I'm one of the younger people, but it's a terrific class) and water aerobics....both of these classes are done in a heated therapy pool...which feels amazing! Hubby and I hit the free-swims in the therapy pool on the weekends, too. Go slow...you don't have to be a triathelete over night. Do stuff you ENJOY:) Exercise shouldn't be a bitter pill. It should be something you kinda look forward to. Walk your dog, go horse riding with a girlfriend, take a walk with your partner. I'm a nature girl, but I have a friend who goes walking at the casino every day. For every lap around the place, she spins a couple of times and leaves after she spends five bucks. Some people like to shop. Some like gym workouts. Whatever you pick...start slow and pick something you look forward to. Best wishes:)

What we have is a failure to understand each other. No one wants to make fun of specific posters. No one would tolerate that. Even if it was a poster who habitual moans about their lack of progress...if someone was pissing on them, personally, I would personally be there in a flash to defend them. Everyone would. And I think that's what most of the resistance to this thread is about. And that's awesome. It is really cool that people would step up and defend each other. But here's the flip side. Some of us really want a place to speak a little more freely, and laugh, and blow some steam about this whole hellish process....because its stressful. Some of us find it useful to laugh at ourselves and not take **** so fecking seriously. We should be allowed to do that. And thankfully....there's a special place for that kinda talk...away from the main forum....where we can:) But no, rest assured...no one is going to tolerate personal attacks on individual posters. Ever.

Now, that....is a sexy healthy dinner:) Happy VD to you, too!

Sounds like you have a little post-surgery depression. A lot of people feel like that, a little disillusioned and freaked out after surgery. All the changes can be scary. OMG, what have I done? OMG, what if I fail? I think everyone's been there a little. The good news is that the hard part is behind you, and it just gets better from here! Just work your program. Do your best, and believe in your success. It takes time, but you'll get there. Rome wasn't built in a day...we didn't get fat in a day...we won't lose it all in a day. Just gotta be patient. Baby steps. You'll get there!

I eat 1200 calories a day. 6 little meals of 200 calories each. 60+ grams of protien, low glycemic carbs, fruits and veggies. I walk 5-7 miles a day. I have terrific energy, and I'm never hungry. Weight loss has been slow and steady. Stalls happen. Everyone experiences them. Just stay the course...you're doing fine.