I was very open about my surgery and I found it beneficial. Yes, there were some naysayers & some who were jealous. But at the same time, my story encouraged quite a number of others to seek help, and they, in turn, encouraged others. As for your husband, if he treats you well and loves you deeply. And you love him deeply, all you can do is reassure him that you're still the same person, no matter what you weigh.