KittyV

I have been overweight since I was 9. I have been told that a lot my eating issues is derived from my father who was a "clean your plate, meat and potato man" that put the food on my plate as a child. I am sure that has something to do with the way I am, but I am now 33 years old. I can use that as an excuse anymore. I have got through a lot in my life, sexual abuse, my father's death, bad relationships, and lots of good things as well which make me the person I am today. I could find a lot of excuses as to why I am as heavy as I am, but that is not going to help me any. About 8 years ago, I started this process, but failed the psych evaluation due to depression and the psychologist said I would eat through it. I had continued to see him for about a month, but never really got any help from him.
 
A little over 5 years ago, I met a wonderful man who had a previous girlfriend that actually been sleeved. That relationship turned our bad as she "went crazy" as my now husband says. Needless to say, He has not been a real fan of me contemplating this surgery. I have been thinking about having the surgery for about a year now, but told him I would not start anything without his okay. After a lot of discussion, and some counseling sessions, he had given me the okay, and I am now scheduled for surgery on December 27th.
 
Emotionally, I have been okay until the last few weeks. I have not really told anyone of the surgery, but it seems the more I start telling people about the surgery I am getting more negative then positive. That is when I decided to join this site. I am 99% positive that my marriage will be okay, but there is the pesky 1% that is making me doubt.