JeepGal

If I were you, I'd just ignore it. You told her once that you didn't want her to say anything and she apparently doesn't care. If the people that do care about you hear about it, they will come to you and talk to you about it. If you go talk to her about it again, it's only going to let her know it's bothering you. Let's be honest, she seems like a bitch anyway, it might only make things worse. Who cares if you got the surgery or not. Everyone that knows what the band is like KNOWS it's not the easy way out. It just makes losing weight possible. Everyone has an addiction of some sort, this girl's just isn't food. No big deal, but I KNOW there is something she's dealing with. That's how I try and look at it. Once I told my dad that I didn't want anyone to know I got this surgery and he asked why. I told him that I felt stupid for being so weak as to not be able to lose the weight myself. And he said, if the surgery works for you then there is nothing to be ashamed of. You made the correct choice. If you don't lose any weight, then you made the wrong choice and I can see how you don't want people to know. From then on out, I tell everyone and it helps motivate me to keep working the band to help me stay skinny! I love my band and would tell anyone that it might help about it. There's no need to be embarassed by it!! Good luck!

I HATE dating with the band!! When ever I'm nervous about ANYTHING I get so tight I can't eat. And what do you do on first dates? GET NERVOUS!! And what do you do when you meet someone's family for the first time? GET NERVOUS!! I mean really anything big that comes up, I stress about it and get stuck. I haven't actually told anyone that I've been out with that I've had the band. I don't think it's any of their business, but it sure is awkward having a full plate infront of you and you only pushed your food around for 45 minutes!!! HAHAHAH This stuff happens on a regular basis to me. It sucks a lot. :tt2: Oh well, I wouldn't be on the date if it weren't for the band...I guess it's a toss up! LoL

Yeah, it's hard waiting for the surgery and to be honest it's hard while the weight comes off as well. You will ALWAYS want it to be faster and it seems it comes off SooOooO slowly. The best thing you can do is just tell yourself not to worry about it. Know that you are making all the right choices and try not to obsess about things you can't control. This is easier said than done, but it helps! :drool: Then awhile after you are banded, you will begin to hardly recognize yourself in pictures. When you get a glimps of yourself in windows, you kinda think "who's that?" It's a lot of fun! It really is an amazing trip, but you need to slow down or it will make it a much LONGER trip than it needs to be. :w00t: That's my advice for you. Best of luck!

Here's what I would do. I would make a new goal to not eat anything while with friends. If they go out to eat, just get a Water and drink it and enjoy their company. Sneaking food in is so easily done, so just quitting the snacking, I find is the easiest way to address it. Also be sure to stick to the band rules! I called my Dr Office and got a list for ya (your Dr's list might be different) 1.Eat only 3 small meals a day 2.Eat slowly and chew throughly (15-20 times a bite) 3.Stope eating as soon as you feel full. 4.Do not drink while eating 5.Do not eat between meals 6.Eat only good quality food. solid food is more important than liquid foods. Infact, the band will have no effect if you only consume liquids 7.Avoid fibrous foods. 8.Drink at least 6-8 glasses of water per day 9.Drink only low cal liquids 10. Exercise Daily Next, GIRL, you need to get your ass off the couch! LoL Think about when you do start losing the weight. Do you want your body to look all nasty and hangy? NO! you wanna look freakin hot and exercise is a MUST for that. Thinking about that usually helps me. Another thing I do is when a freind is telling me about their weight issues (which happens often) I say to them, "Hey let's work out once or twice a week together. Nothing hard, just walking for 20-30 minutes." I have three work out partners I meet up with once a week. It provides me motivation, that I don't have to come up with myself, and I get to enjoy some one on one time with my friends. :thumbup: In fact, one of the gals I work with is losing weight and we have decided to run a marathon in April and three other co-workers have joined in. We work out indivudually during the week then on Sat we run together. I strongly encourage you to find work out buddies. (I even found a gal in my area from this site to work out with) You can also journal what you are eating on a few websites. Here are a few that I like and my trainer gave me. sparkpeople.com myfitnesspal.com and MyPyramid.gov - United States Department of Agriculture - Home If you start looking at exactly what you are putting in your mouth it will be come apparent that you either need a fill or you are slacking. Not to be harsh, but I'm trying to be honest with you. It sounds like you are slacking in a major way. (also you do NOT have enough restriction) I think if you could find some ways to motivate yourself you'll have more sucess. This band is not an "easy button" it's just to help you. Look at what you think would motivate you and try it out. You are learning a new lifestyle with this band! You should work hard to make sure it's full of the right choices. Anyway, best of luck! God knows I still have a lot to work on with my diet, I really didn't mean to get on a soap box! I'm just trying to help with some ideas for you. Keep us posted on how it works out for ya.

My doctor's office recommended the Viactiv chews. I love them. They are yummy and my nails have never grown so well! haha Plus, I only take one a day. I have become stuck on them a few times if I eat them too early in the morning, but honestly I've been stuck on Water in the morning a few times. LoL Best of luck! :thumbup: