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OMG... hit the nail right on the head. Why can he not just embrace what's to come with a healthier, happier wife? Fear is getting to him but I can't change that. I asked him to educate himself on procedure with literature that I have and he is like I want no part of it so I'm like ok it's whatever then.

Thank you for encouragement. My bible tells me that my God will never leave me or forsake me. So as long as that is true, I'm alone physically yes but God has this all in his hands. I'm noticing strength that I didn't notice before in myself. It hurts but hay, I will be okay sooner than later.

Praying for you and happy for you as well.

Thank you. I have talked to him all that I can. I'm just done with the insults and all the arguments. He can deal with it or he can leave.

I am so disgruntled. I had a recent post about how my husband is not supportive but he has reached a new low. He just told me that I am using drastic measures to become skinny and " he doesn't like skinny women". When I first got with my husband I weighed 145 lbs. I'm 5'6. So I I was pretty small then. Well fast forward twenty one years and 3 kids later ...my highest weight was 242 lbs. I am insulted by this so badly. I told him if you don't like the size I become then you have the option of leaving then. I'm so tired of this ish. Everyday he is putting me down about this surgery and I know I may have some tough patches post op and I know he is going to lavish in that so that he can say I told you so. My 20 year old son is going with me to have my surgery due to I'm going to Texas and I'm from Alabama. I don't think he quite gets it but he said mom I'm going with you and not letting you be alone. That means the world to me. I just feel like this is probly gonna be the end of my marriage. My husband then said I'm probly trying to be skinny for other men and I'm like really. I would go thru my stomach being sliced just for attention... get the heck Out of here. Just so disgusted with having to defend this decision to him. I have researched this for 4-5 years. I'm making a change for a better healthier me. I guess everyone doesn't want a better, healthier me. He has been thin all his life and doesn't understand this weight struggle. So he doesn't want a skinny wife but you want an overweight wife who is prediabetic, has sleep apnea, high cholesterol, and heart problems huh? But she is good n thick,, yeah right. I'm just over it!!!!

I'm dec 5 as well. Wishing you the best on Monday. We will be in wonderland before we know it.

Yes stay on them. I called everyday until my approval came which was 5 days. So stay on them. They usually denie everyone. Cigna is known for that but usually when you appeal they overturn miraculously. Stay optimistic .

I am so excited and nervous....I ordered all these Soups and Protein mixed to take with me and fed ex lost my darn package... I'm so ticked off but trying to remain positive and not have neg vibes. I'm ready to do it and get it over with. Sorry, just now reading this. Are you excited? I'm feeling excited and nervous. I just can't wait for it to be over. The anticipation is making me anxious. Sent from my SM-G930V using the BariatricPal App

So happy for you beach girl... I am due dec 5. How are you doing with fluids right now?

Thank you for the encouragement. I truly appreciate

I think I have just resolved in my head that he is very insecure and figured I'm doing this for vain reasons . I don't think he feels like men are interested in me right now and that will change after surgery. I'm tired of reassuring him about how things are not gonna change. He doesn't want to hear it. At this point I'm tired of fussing about it. I'm putting it in Gods hands and letting it go. I told him insurance companies do not want to pay for this surgery so if for medical reasons I did not qualify they would not have approved me. But, again this is like talking to a wall. I will do what I have planned to do and will continue to pray for strength throughout this process for myself as well as my marriage. I'm just really hurt because I feel so alone.

that's a good one

Thank you for the advice. I am moving forward because this is going to help me. I wish he would show a little more compassion and support but it is what it is. I can not change his views on why I am having this surgery so I have to just move forward. If this is something that you want, don't turn away from it! At this point, you are probably not going to change his mind. Honestly, I would probably just quit engaging in the discussion. I would probably say something like, "I love you and I respect and value your opinion, but we've already discussed the reasons I believe this is best for me, and I am moving forward with it. I hope you will support me....now let's talk about something else."

Try the premier protein strawberries and cream or their banana n cream. I enjoy both and you can get it at Walmart. Hope it gets better. My surgery is Monday. Excited and nervous at the same time.

Just so bombed out today. My surgery is Monday and my husband asked me if I was going thru with it. I told him yes. He said I'm being lazy I can exercise and do this. I argued my point about all my health issues heart prob, joint pain in my knees, sleep apnea, 3/10 of a point of being diagnosed as a full blown diabetic per my AIC but am prediabetic now,.... trying to handle this before I can't handle it and he just doesn't get it. I told him yes I have lost weight before but it has come back n he is like you are not 300 lbs I said hell I started at 242-244 lbs I was knocking at the door of 300 lbs. he was like you lost weight just now but that due to my 4 month nutrition visits with dietician. I want it to go and have a tool to help me keep it gone. I'm so hurt and feel so alone and my soul just aches. He is not showing any compassion and he says if my husband disagrees I should not have it. I'm like I have to do what I need to do to take care of me . He has been thin all his life so he doesn't understand weight struggles and think it can all be solved with gym. But it's more than just that, I been fighting this battle for 4 years and I'm doing it now. I refuse to not do it. I will just have to walk alone physically but God is an ever present factor in my life so he will be with me.

I am going through very similar situation minus the cooking...my husband is not supportive of this surgery and nothing about it. I feel very alone but I look to the God who in his name gives me strength to do all things. I was blessed to find this site and I plan to use it til I can't use it no more. I get sad n it hurts but I'm looking at the long term effects of this decision. That's what you should focus on too. Don't be broken and defeated ... we will all get through this and I will Keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Rainbow my surgery is Monday as well. Sending prayers and positivity up for us both. My surgeon has got me ubwr prepared for nausea with anti emetics ...also a scopolamine patch for prior to surgery to prevent nausea. He is awesome. That's relieving to hear!! My surgery is on Monday. Sent from my SM-G930V using the BariatricPal App

Well said . I totally agree.

Yay for you.... that's awesome news!!!

All prayers and positive energy ... sending your way. I'm excited for you.

Hi haylee93... are you as anxious as I am due to your date is coming up? My date is dec 5 and I'm just ready to have it done with and over.

Mexico was my second voice if Cigna did not approve me but to my surprise , Cigna approved me in 5 days and since it's end of year and I have been to doc plenty, 'my remaining balance on deductible was $17 for my hospital stay. Thank you God. I was elated ????????

I can't wait.... my date is dec 5 Monday with Dr Frenzel in Plano..????????????... I'm ready though.

Well I don't know if I am to say thank you for information or be insulted because you darn near called me stupid for calling squats non strenuous. But thanks, I guess ???????????? I almost snorted my Water when I read that, LOL. I beg to differ a bit if I may -- squats are a compound exercise, they use several major muscle groups at once. And even if you do just body weight squats without a barbell, they can still be strenuous depending on your weight and fitness level. For example, a 300-lbs woman doing squats is like a 150-lbs woman doing squats with a 150-lbs barbell. And since every pound of weight is 4 pounds of pressure on your joints...that can be a lot of strain on your knees (again: depending on your current weight). Personally, I was injured really badly a few months ago by a personal trainer who. A Sent from my iPad using the BariatricPal App

I can't wait to ask my doc. He's probly gonna think I'm crazy but it is what it is ????????