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Definitely. People who have OCD - there's no doubt about it, because their lives are interrupted. Rituals, practices, etc. But, you can also be obsessive about things without having OCD. Obsessive tendencies.

My husband has leather recliners (nice ones, not the big 80s ones that you can barely get in and out of) in his home theater room, and he brought one up to the great room for me post-op. Other than to use the bathroom, I barely got out of it the first two days. Slept in it, waked in it... loved it.

Oh yes, I do need the inetllectual stimulation as well. :scared:

Hmm. I can't honestly say that I hated shopping pre-op, but I hated trying to find clothes that fit and complimented my blob of a figure. And I hated trying clothes on because I pretty much knew they either wouldn't fit, wouldn't look good on, or were what I was buying because they fit vs. buying because I really liked them. But even then, I loved the process of shopping. They say that the right clohes will flatter any body size, but I say bull ponkies. At nearly 400lbs, nothing looks great on you unless the lights are turned off and someone poked out your eyes. Now add to that I'm just shy of 6', hourglass build, long legs but proprtionately longer torso & upper body. In other words, it was not possible for me two find a two piece outfit unless it was mix & match. And since we're on the subject of talls... talls seem to be taller now. Even just since last season. I've actually found some average length jeans that fall long enough to wear with flats, and that NEVER happens. And I've found talls that are too long, even with heels. That NEVER NEVER happens. Until now. It's very hard to buy a pair of men's jeans without going for a specific by the inch inseam. So WTF do we only have 2 choices, when we're MUCH more picky as a whole about pant length than guys are??? Never understood that one.

Umm - just re-read my post and I think I make myself sound like a shoplifter. :scared: By "never willing to pay for them" I mean - if they're otuside of my seasonal basics, and much more than $100 or so, I will pass unless they're perfect. I like several from Brahmin but not the croco look ones. I'm always partial to most things Coach puts out in brown leather. I don't care for fabric bags.

I like handbags, and I have a few, but I've never been willing to pay for them. I stay very practical. A brown purse and black purse for summer, a brown purse and black purse for winter. Right now I'm using a Benetton cheapy because I really liked the looks of it. I'm ultra picky about looks, I am not ultra picky abotu brand or price. That doesn't matter, what matters is do I like it, does it have the compartments I need, etc. Of course, if all of that comes along with a higher price tag, that's fine. :scared:

I see support in different ways. There is the support that I would receive from "real people" (those I know in real life), and support I would receive from "virtual people" (those I know online). In the virtual world, support to me is getting information or answers to my questions. I'm not an emotionally needy person, and what little I do need I prefer to get from "real people." Most of the things I need support with are significant changes, such as getting banded, for which I don't feel adequately prepared or informed. So, when I come to a support-based message board, I'm looking for information. I would not be the type to ask "virtual people" to "cheer me up, kick me into gear, help me through hard times, etc. To me, "virtual people" are words on a screen, and I just don't see support coming from that. (Nothing wrong with those who do, just different people types is all.) So when you come to ANY virtual setting for support, what is that support to you?

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You know - wow, I owe you an apology. I never even saw this thread. Until now, of course. I noticed my inbox was overflowing, cleared it out, and soon came your message.

Unless you follow the threads, it's really easy to be completely disconnected and have no idea who likes who, who's a fan of whom, etc. 95% of the time I don't know who's referring to whom or why. So I always just assume they're talking about me.

I've had some interesting conversations with people about why whites and blacks are referred to as colors (when whites aren't really white and blacks aren't really back), while others are referred to as ethnicities. I don't really have a good theory for that one. I don't know a single black person who objects to being called black. Quite possibly they're out there, but I personally don't know them. I do know black people who object to being called African American. I don't mind "white" (I'm so pale that "clear" is more accurate than white for me!), but I would think it stupid if someone tried to call me a Greek Welsh Indian American.

I have very, very few women friends, like 1 or 2. This is part of why. I guess the anonymous posts are the virtual world's equivalent to saying something just loud enough for the target to overhear. You know? It gives you just enough slack that you can still claim you weren't talking about them, whomever them is.

I really don't know what the Slim-Fast diet is, but if you need a milk substitute, soy milk is lactose & cholesterol free. You can find it in plain, vanilla, and chocolate at most stores.

The poll doesn't apply to me. I had my gallbladder out August of this year, which is about a year and a half after banding. But I first started having issues with it when I was on Atkins. They went away for a long time, but then came back about 2 mos before I had it removed. Never consistent.

GadgetLady, I don't know how strong your daughter's compulsions are, but have you tried a reward approach? Is she girly? Maybe you could tell her that if she'll let her finger & toe nails grow out long enough that they can do anything with them, you will take her to the salon for a mani & pedi, she can pick the colors and accents, etc?

That's when I say (from your end): Look, here's $40. Take it and go away. It's worth it to not have to deal with you. That lady could definitely benefit from a professional communications course. You don't start an email that way unless you're trying to cut.

Teresita - just reading through your posts again. You might enjoy this thread. It seems several of us have hit the bandster's version of a 7 year itch. This, too, shall pass. (ok, I think that's just my post on the thread, but it's the whole thread that's worthwhile)

Tommy, I know we've disagreed on some things, but I think I love you.

I'm going to give you a slightly different answer. IF you're someone who has the exact same amount of restriction all the time, then MAYBE you can go off a set measurement. I know VERY few people for whom this is the case. In my case, I am almost super restricted during the day, but I tend to loosen up at night. I used to loosen up more than I do now. 45 minutes ago I had two spoons of Soup and I'm still feeling it. It doesn't hurt, I just have no doubt that it's still there. Tonight, I plan to eat turkey chili. This is very, very typical for me. I may have early days where a Protein drink wants to take its time, and then I will have chicken breast for dinner. So for me, I could never go by a measured quantity. Sometimes I can eat Breakfast, most of the time I can't, so there goes the 1/2 cup idea. Hope that makes sense. I also wouldn't necessarily look only at what you're eating in terms of weightloss. Very often it's posted that if you eat X, and you're losing weight, then your restriction is good. That has never made much sense to me. I mean - maybe your restriction is poor, but your concept of a meal has changed. Maybe you have awesome restriction and eat a cup of food, but aren't losing weight because you're eating a cup of the wrong foods and laying on your ass watching tv all day. Who knows? The best answer I can give is to give it some time, and you WILL be able to answer this for yourself. No one can answer it for you, because as different as we are personally, we're also different with our bands. (Just saw the last question) When I'm heavily restricted, it can take 45mins to... around 2 hours for food to move through. When I'm moderately restricted, 20 mins or so. Light restriction, it either goes right through, or takes maybe 15 - 20 seconds.

Can you eat popcorn, The one time I've tried it, it was not a problem nuts Yes, but need to go slow. , beef that not's ground up I don't eat red meat, but I can eat other meats that aren't ground, licorice? Don't like it, haven't tried. Any other foods that you just can't tolerate? So far no foods I can't tolerate. chips seem to cause me some problems, and it only takes 1, but there are times that I can eat them. Other foods cause more discomfort and take longer to clear (eggs, bananas, slimey foods, etc.) but I can eat them. I just normally don't because who wants to feel crappy...

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Economic left, strong social libertarian.

Oh yes good distinction! The shopping - impulsive. The chapped lips thing - compulsive. I guess that makes me obsessive impuslive compulsive (and to some, repulsive!)

Oprah was born in Mississippi. She's not African anything. I'm white, and if someone else does something - whether I agree with it or not - I'm not going to support them just because they're white and that's who we are. (I personally am a LOT more than the color of my skin).

"Has this ever happened" - I'm sure it has, but it would take way too much research to actually answer that question. I personally have not experienced that. If you're concerned enough about it to post here asking, then I'd wager you're concerned enough about it to call your doc. If you're EVER in doubt, call your doc. Whether or not an anonymous bunch o' people on the internet thinks you should call is 110% irrelevant.