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I am a Christian and I believe that every life is here for a reason and if I was raped I would definatley have the baby. I know it would be hard but that baby would be part of me! It's an innocent life that your now in charge of. Millions of women aren't even able to have kids..adoption would be the best plan of action for those who couldn't bear to keep him/her. Its a touchy subject but those children didn't do anything to deserve death! But I am not gonna be judged for the sins of others they have their judgement in death and if they can live with themselves more power to them.

You know how I told ya'll he was in Iowa and he left Thursday. Well I haven't heard a peep until about an hour ago he TEXT me and said "didn't forget was okay trip will call first chance I get" lol I haven't called him, text him, or anything before the text and I will continue not to now! I am actually surprised he text already. I was waiting to see how long it would take for him to communicate in any form...he exceeded my expectations tho...surprise surprise.

thank you!

The reason you don't see it is because you see yourself everyday and as you lost the weight you didnt notice...I am that way too but EVERYONE has noticed the difference in me!

Yeh I know...I had one before whom was the same way! I think I am gonna hold out with him for my birthday present..is that wrong of me??

I'm Ashley. I am 19 years old. Single. Lol I was banded on Dec 21, 2007! I am from Northeast Alabama. I've never had low self-esteem due to my weight however I did have issues with high blood pressure and with a slue of heart diease in my family I made the choice to better my life!! You can't deal with non supportive people that's why if people don't accept the fact that I have done this I can't associate myself with them.

Yeh...your all right but its harder than it should be!! I'm just gonna leave it alone and focus on school! lol

How do you feel about being single and waiting to lose the weight and find someone special? Do you ever wonder if you'll find someone who is banded and have a relationship with them? How does all this effect the way your interpret relationships?

Well.....I have the mind set that I can have fun with it and not think twice about it...but I do feel guilty that she doesn't know that he comes to see me. But in my defense she knew we were together when they started dating..So...I guess its a back at cha kinda thing. I don't want to be the "other" woman because that just sounds bad! but I know that is what it is boiling down to and I just don't want that. I've got to tell him to back off but I think instead I am just going to ignore all calls and other forms of communication! I think it'd be easier cause if I talk to him...I'll change my mind. And no it's not cause I think I can't do better. There's a guy whom has been wanting to date me. He owns his own business, he's FINE, owns his home, has an awesome vehicle, awesome family, awesome personality, But I have always been scared to date him for some reason. It's like I don't feel I deserve him so I use this jerkoff as an excuse to not let myself feel anything for the GOD SEND. lol

mine was december 21st

I lost and gained through my six months......so I was exactly the weight the day I got my surgery as the day I started my 6 months NO WORRIES I promise!

I was banded Dec 21, 2007 by John Groves in Albertville!! I recommend him to ANYONE!! He's truly amazing!!

I have told him a million times that I can't do this anymore that we can't talk to each other and then we start yelling and screaming and somehow he turns it back around and I forget that I am mad at him EVERYTIME and I know I could hang up the phone but I am one of those girls whom you say something outta the way too and I am not backing down at ALL and he makes a smart ass remark and I blow a fuse...problem I know, I am working on it! lol but he's quite the charmer which makes it all worse and how I know that everything he says to me he's obviously saying or has already said to her....but somehow it feels geuine and I don't want to see the bad in him..that's another problem I have I am tooo forgiving and optimistic about things to ever let it go!! He's asked me a million times if I want him to leave her but it's like seriously if you really wanted to leave her for me you would have already!! I can tell myself that but I don't even believe it so I am so not convincing when I tell him either..he just kinda laughs and says your so cute when you mad....GRR!! it's never ending!!

yeh he went to Iowa with her for a week to visit his mom and he usually calls me everyday and I haven't heard from him since he left....I am not really caring much at this point! lol

I was approved online in 10 mintues. I have BCBS of Alabama

you will do fine!! I was nervous and anxious up until the morning I got there..then I was fine!! So calm and relaxed and ready for the new life that I was embarking on!! I haven't had my band long but I assure it's the best decision I have ever made!!! Good Luck and you will do fine and yes it will work on you!! I don't know of anyone that it didn't!! You just have to eat the right kinds of foods and excerise! It's all worth it!!

aww honey! maybe she needs to talk to a doctor or something cause that's very abnormal!! and you seem like such a great guy! I don't know many men who would continue to stand by a woman who isn't intimate with them. You're amazing and she should be ectastic to have you!!

My doctor was also a Christian he prayed with me and my family before he wheeled me back into the holding room and then before he put me to sleep!! I knew he was great from the moment that I first met him!! God was so involved in this decision I made and it's been truly amazing!

Thanks you guys! lol I appreciate your support and encouragement. I'll let ya know how it goes!! :eek:

See my thing is that I have always been overweight and I was ALWAYS confident and comfortable with myself. I know that I was beautiful then and I will always be. My health was an issue..I have family members with heart disease and hypertension and I myself had hypertension at 19. I have come off my blood pressure pills now and I am so glad!! And the comment about the prom pic...in mine I am big blonde and beautiful...lol as long as you have confidence in yourself everyone else will too!! I love me and I would never change myself had it not been for health reasons!! But I am glad I did it and I feel better and its great!!

This is such a blessing to see a group of fellow Christians!

Wow! This is awesome!! I was hoping to find a Christian group!! Truly a blessing!!

OH I totally get cha...half of my close friends are pregnant and getting married in the next 6 months...I think I have one or two a month to attend!! It's crazy I am definatley staying away from the water!! It's like another baby boom!! People are not using their heads anymore! It's not the end of the world but it's gonna be a long road ahead for them

Thanks...I didn't figure anyone would mind...

<p>Okay!! I want to get outsider opinions on this!! About a year ago I met a guy whom I totally hit it off with....well we started dating and then out of the blue he called and said we needed to take it slow first. I was okay with this seeing as it was probably a good idea. It was around Christmas and he rode up with my friend to surprise me with my Christmas gift which was a beautiful necklace. A week or two later I was at the store in which he works and purchased the necklace and I was looking for it being nosey as usual and I was talking to the later at the counter. She asked me who had purchased my necklace and I told her. Well obviously he had told her that the only person he was dating was Kimberly..keep in mind my name is ASHLEY lol so I freak out I was heading out the door as he was walking in...I could barely speak I was ill because he had not mentioned seeing anyone else..she we went our seperate ways...well recently he has been calling and coming back around. He's still with her but say that he loves me and wants to be with me he made a mistake but doesn't want to hurt her...WHAT SHOULD I DO? Do you think he's playing me or genuine?<img src="http://www.LapBandTalk.com/images/smilies/help.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Help" smilieid="256" class="inlineimg" /></p>