Michelle920

I agree with everyone except there's one thing I had at home and wish I'd brought. Dry shampoo!! I was in the hospital three nights and by the third day I could have used it. I didn't bring much else, just clothes to wear home and my own slippers, which I didn't even wear. Had I known my first roommate was going to snore I would have brought headphones. My hospital offered toothbrushes and toothpaste but I'd brought my own. I didn't expect to be there so long, in fact I originally thought I'd be the one who stayed one night when they said 1-2 nights.

I would suggest, stop watching tv!! It sounds like head hunger, not real hunger. Do you actually have hunger pangs? That hasn't happened to me, but sometimes I just feel like eating. And I hated my lunch today so I couldn't wait til dinner.

I'm going to try not to weigh before my follow up on 7/16. I miss drinking a lot of water too, I could easily drink a gallon a day.

I guess each doctor makes the recommendations based on what's worked for his patients. I think my doctor airs on the side of caution in some ways, despite the coffee allowance, which was actually my NUT. I noticed all the differences too. I decided to just do what MY doctor says. Even though I'm dying for mashed potatoes in stage 3!!

One popular theory on water is drink half of your body weight in ounces, so that would be 115ish. I did it pre surgery easily but I struggle to get in 64!! I'm going to skip the caffeine for now. I'm not addicted but it was always my go to solution to poop.

My NUT said the same thing. In fact we talked about that too, at support group. She said add ANOTHER glass of Water to counteract but I can have one cup a day. My doc has everyone take Prilosec for six months post surgery, so my stomach feels ok. I hate Miralax!! I got benefiber and a stool softener. Plus I can go back to taking magnesium at night. I'm having trouble taking pills but I can suck it up. I might have to hide it!!!

I hadn't read this whole thread, just the original post, but I went back and I can't believe everyone is so up in arms. This is a RANT thread so you'd expect some silly complaints. I guess I just don't sweat the small stuff. And I saw a couple people so offended they wanted to leave. I'm not sure this group is for ME if you attack someone for having an opinion you don't like.

Which is why I said if it were me I'd put the jacket back on. She could do that very easily. I'm sorry if she was uncomfortable but I'm no longer friends with them because they'd rather snicker behind everyone's back. If I hadn't said anything her sister would have told me how bad she looked in the bathroom.

It doesn't sound weird to me! Lately I have to really sip my water. It's not easy because I've always been a chugger. I'm from Jersey, we rush everything!!! And I'm so over protein shakes. I'm trying to eat more protein. But I still need to supplement.

Years ago, I was out with two sisters. One took off her denim jacket, and she had a bustier on underneath. She's not a heavy girl, but it was not a good look for her. She asked her sister how it looked and she said great. She asked me, and I said if it were me I'd put the jacket back on. They both were mad at me the rest of the night. Don't ask questions if you're not ready for the truth. And Facebook is full of people lying about how people look. I'm 48 years old, and I'm sorry but not every woman I went to high school hasn't aged a bit, or looks 25. And not everyone's daughter is absolutely stunning!!

I'll be three weeks post op on Monday and my weight is all over the place. I weighed 246 at my consultation and 243 at my nutrition appointment. My surgery was less than eight weeks after my consult, and I wasn't given a diet to follow, other than clear liquids the day before. I was encouraged to practice behaviors like tiny bites, chewing and not drinking with meals. I also tried to avoid sugar and alcohol. But during the last two weeks before surgery, my mind played tricks on me, and I told myself I would never, ever eat sweets or drink again (my diet mentality rearing its ugly head.) So I indulged. No bingeing or anything, but I ate what I wanted. So I was 248 on my own scale on surgery day. I've weighed myself at home every day since and the lowest I've been is 231 (233 after I moved the scale.) I've been getting in 60-64 ounces of water, but at my support group on Thursday our NUT said we have to drink more than 64 ounces. She said an extra cup for every 25lbs you're over your ideal weight. That made sense so I drank over 90 ounces yesterday, and this morning I was 236.5, then 238 (I have to stop moving my scale.) I didn't go the bathroom that often yesterday and feel water bloated and my weight has always fluctuated due to water. But man, I'm discouraged! I'm also somewhat constipated. It doesn't hurt, I just don't go every day. I walk briskly every other day, although I walk the dog every day. I'm definitely getting in plenty of protein and have no problem eating. I'm starting to think I'm not having drastic losses because I finish everything I eat. I don't stuff myself, I just mean I'm not only taking two or three bites. I've been drinking coffee almost daily to help move things along, which is dehydrating, so maybe that's it. I can stop the coffee. Thanks for listening!!

I attended OA many years ago, after being in an inpatient treatment center for bulimia. I've considered going back but am discouraged by how few meetings there are now. If I walk in and see three people after driving half an hour, I won't be happy!! I guess OA doesn't offer the quick fix that people are looking for, and the idea of being happy, joyous and free isn't as tempting as getting into your skinny jeans. While obesity is medical issue, unless you have NEVER eaten to avoid your feelings, it's also an emotional one, and mental. My biggest problem of late was a diet mentality that twisted my thinking to the point if I wasn't ON a diet I talked myself into eating whatever I wanted. I tried to banish those thoughts and just make a lifestyle change. It didn't work, even with therapy. I realized if I went on another diet I would eventually go OFF it and gain the weight back. Thirty five years of yo yo dieting finally taught me that. I decided to have RNY to "solve" my problem and even though I knew it was a tool, deep down I thought it was still going to fix me all by itself. I'm seeing that no one who has WLS is successful if they don't change their thinking, and find other ways to deal with feelings. I'm only three weeks out and while I'm never hungry and don't crave a thing, if I'm not busy, my head says, "let's eat!" I knew many people in OA who struggled with things like turning their lives over to a higher power, or making a list of their defects. There were also a lot of people who refused to believe they did anything wrong, or harmed anyone. They said everyone else had hurt them. The successful ones realized no one is perfect and we've all made mistakes. I think the harshness and severity of the steps or "rules" seem more appropriate for hard core drinkers and drug addicts. They clearly hurt a lot of people, and are willing to find God because their other options are insanity, death or jail. As people dealing with obesity and eating disorders maybe we don't see the urgency. Death is slow, and no one goes to jail for driving under the influence of donuts. Although I've swerved many times while driving to grab food that fell on the floor. Just my two cents :-)

I'm almost three weeks post op and lost about 15 pounds. In fact in the first two weeks I lost only 9. I was frustrated too but thought, I didn't do this because I can't LOSE weight, I did it because I can't keep it off. So it was still worth it. And the last few times I lost weight by dieting, it took a while for it to kick in and then it started coming off regularly. I'm hoping that'll happen again!!

I just found this group. I had bypass on June 8th also! It's been a lot of ups and downs with my moods and emotions, and my energy. I'm already sick of protein shakes. I've been good most days with water. I can really tell the next morning when I'm not. I wish I could walk more but today I'm not in the mood! What kind of exercise is everyone doing?

Good luck!!

I must have the most lax insurance ever. I was able to schedule my surgery within 8 weeks of my consultation. I didn't have to lose any weight first, or provide a whole lot of history.

I do that with coffee too. I've had two cups in the two weeks since surgery. It helps. I drink it AFTER breakfast. I just picked up a box of dulcolax stool softener though. I almost got some kind of fiber too but I'm going to wait a bit. I'm not super constipated but I miss going every day.

How often does everyone see their NUT? Do you have regular appointments? And what would prompt you to make an appointment to see him/her? I'm two weeks out today and am doing very well. I wasn't losing much weight until I got on track with my water, and walked, more than just my dog. I like my NUT a lot but I feel like she has a one size fits all approach (I could be wrong; I only saw her at my pre-op appointment with her, and the pre-op class.) It seems like a lot of you have a more personalized relationship with yours. Maybe once I'm farther along I'll need to see her more? I only pay a $20 office visit copay to see her, so finding a new one would be expensive. TIA for your help.

I've been lurking for the last couple days and this is my first post. So glad I found this thread!! My surgery was on June 8th. I started at around 245, give or take, and haven't gotten a goal weight from my doctor but I'd like to weigh 170. I'm 5'10. My first post-op appointment is on Friday. I never had a pre-op diet and probably gained five pounds in the two weeks before surgery. I didn't go on last meal binges but I ate what I wanted most of the time. My surgery was scheduled fast. My consultation was on April 15th. I feel pretty good but I'm still learning how much I can eat and drink at a time, and how fast. Anyway, I need to stick close to these groups because my head was always a much bigger enemy than my stomach!!