BigViffer

Umm.... how about no? panty hose compress the incision points and the newly stapled stomach. I was hoping for some tummy support, but it is a disaster of painful squashiness. Ah, I would have thought the compression would have felt good for that exact reason. But I guess it makes sense, they aren't designed for tummy support. And while you are at it, @@BigViffer, stuff your moobs into some underwire. lol, now you ladies are going off the reservation!

OK, dumb male here; why are they a bad mistake?

The saliva thickening may be a sign of dumping. Sent from my phone, please forgive brevity and misspelling

@@BLERDgirl - thanks Blerd, I knew you would understand and I assumed that was the case.

@@BLERDgirl - no offence, but this is the Guy's Room. We are really trying to build up more male participation with the illusion that we can talk here without the eyes of the women on our words. That being said, I know you and know you have never caused any issues in any of the threads I have seen. Also I know that unless you are on a desktop, the Guy's Room and The powder Room are not easily discerned on "Recent Topics" @@on the fence 2 - I don't want to be presumptuous, it's of course up to you if you want women to reply to your thread. Now on to your question! It's going to depend on the individual. Me personally, I went to the gym at 6 weeks. It was pretty comical too. I used to be a weightlifter, but the lack of strength I had was appalling. Of course, I was maybe getting 600 calories a day. All I wanted to do at that time was start building up my stamina. Lots of walking and only 10lb weights to keep the atrophy to a minimum. Talk to your surgeon as much as possible at this stage. They will appreciate your desire to do the right things.

That is usually a sign of eating too much or too fast.Too much and it feels like your stomach is trying to settle things or compact them. Too fast and you have an air bubble stuck in there and it needs to work its way out. Also, if you have air trapped, you stomach will start making hilarious noises!

I would have dreams that were like food promo's. I would see pizza where the slice is being slowly, almost seductively, away from the rest of the pizza. The cheese would stretch and steam would be slithering up in the background. Or meats would be sizzling on a grill, with the juices bubbling on the char lines and the smell of charcoal would be heavy in my nose. There were also dreams of me biting down into an enormous burger, one so large that it took two hands to hold. Toppings would slide out the side and catsup would be on both my cheeks. I swear, I would wake up with that weird sense of excitement and feverish desire like I was a 13 year old boy who just had a sex dream. Thankfully, that stage has passed!

It's really going to depend on the person. When I had my surgery I was dizzy as shit and just fatigued as hell. Blood pressure meds can complicate things as well. Oh, and there is also the chance for complications. I came home with a pain ball and I also had a partially collapsed lung. Neither of those are uncommon for surgery. I would recommend someone ride it home for you. Just for safety sake.

@@heather5565 - lol, well now... you are my new best friend! I think I'll just invite you along with me everywhere I go to make me feel good about myself. I must say, you are looking pretty damned healthy yourself! And I mean that in the least stalker/creeper way possible.

Nah, here is my impressive pic: I actually just took that one today. I was looking for a new compression shirt and these new cold weather ones were out. Very comfortable, but over $50!

OK, I finally uploaded a couple pictures at the request of a friend. I still don't think I am to the "After" stage, but I am pretty damn close. Here is a picture from me that has to be at my highest weight. I didn't weigh myself back then so I am guessing that I was over 330 lbs: It's funny, sometimes when I look in the mirror I don't recognize myself. But when I saw this picture, I literally asked who it was! I guess I am getting used to being this guy:

OK, I finally uploaded a couple pictures. I still don't think I am to the "After" stage, but I am pretty damn close. Here is a picture from me that has to be at my highest weight. I didn't weigh myself back then so I am guessing that I was over 330 lbs: It's funny, sometimes when I look in the mirror I don't recognize myself. But when I saw this picture, I literally asked who it was! I guess I am getting used to being this guy:

Bag of bones?! He must be looking at some damn sexy bones then, because I don't see that at all. Now that I know he has been negative, it just sounds like insecurities and pettiness on his side. He knows the insults hurt, but if he knows you have a more active libido than him, he most likely thinks that withholding sex and affection will hurt you more. I am betting that when you got together and were thin, he had to work at gaining control of you. As the years went by and you gained weight, he was able to control more of what you did and perhaps thought. Constant belittling slowly erodes confidence when it comes from people you love and trust. Now that you are measuring yourself by something other than his gauge, your confidence is returning and he is losing influence. Someone who doesn't have your best interest in mind and isn't supportive of your personal betterment is not someone you should keep around. If it were me, I'd be considering separation if you have already laid the cards on the table and he hasn't shown any signs of changing. That being said, I am a very black/white person. I don't have a middle ground. I have written off family for much less than what you have endured. I am generally not the empathic type, I prefer dispassionate decision making. Whatever you end up doing, I wish you the best of luck.

I use the Torani sugar free flavorings all the time. I use it for Protein drinks as well as my coffee and yogurt. I buy the plain greek yogurt and add a splash of Torani. Freeze that mixture and you basically have ice cream. Oh, my favorites are the salted caramel and coffee liqueur.

Not at all! ... ... ... Go on... First off, I am truly sorry you have this to deal with. I don't say that lightly, as a matter of fact I don't believe I have said that to anyone on this forum yet. But this is a situation that is truly perplexing and deeply wounding. The one person (a spouse/partner) that should be building us up is ignoring you. At least if he were insulting you it could be rationalized as envy or jealousy. I wish I had some sort of insight for you, but this behavior is outside my experience and beyond my comprehension. I have become pretty adept at reading signs from my wife that she is interested in intimacy and acting upon it. Having her actually initiate intimacy is difficult to her for some reason. I don't know if it is Catholic guilt or just old insecurities and fear of rejection. All she has to say to me is, "You know the kids are gone...". Then it is game on! Whatever the reason for this behavior from your husband, I hope you find a solution whether it be communication, counselling, or separation.

Not trying to be funny here, but is he gay? Another member here just recently had his wife come out after several years I believe. I just looked at your gallery; even if your husband didn't like your personality, physically you would be difficult to ignore much less turn down an offer of sexual intimacy. Sent from my phone, please forgive brevity and misspelling

I married a hispanic woman, so we have a lot of Latin dishes. Even now. A lot of them are very high in Protein if you just skip the tortilla and anything with masa. In fact, if we go out to eat, mexican restaurants are top of the list because I can get huevos (eggs), Beans, or fajita's and be guilt free. As for Pasta, man I thought giving up pasta and potatoes post surgery would be the hardest thing to do. Turns out, it is the easiest thing I have had to deal with. I have taken a bite of pasta twice since surgery. Both time were awful. First time I puked because of the clumping and the second time was just uncomfortable for about an hour. I felt like something was stuck in my throat the entire time. Potatoes don't taste anywhere near as good as I remember them. I'd much rather have just about anything else really.

We had a full blown Thanksgiving lunch at my office. Turkey, ham, pies, cakes, sweet potatoes, collard greens... the works. Most of the people in my office know I had the surgery, so no one batted an eye when I only got small portions and didn't indulge in dessert. I had a Protein packed meal and splurged on a quarter of a sweet potato. Like you, I felt pretty good afterwards while everyone else was walking around in a stupor or sleeping in their cubes from a turkey induced coma!

Hey I tried that, It was actually pretty good too!

I find this is true as well. My surgeon backed it my suspicion saying that you have to evacuate the waste (fat). So come on men, let us poop our selves thin!

I am using the stool every time, and it is literally tuning into stop, drop, plop. I use about 1/4 of the TP that I used to use as well. At this point I don't care how ridiculous the name is nor how I look on the pot, the thing works. I hope that it works for anyone on here who decides to buy one!

While browsing my threads, I saw that I never wrapped this one up. I mentioned my surgeons words in another thread, but not here. Allow me to quote myself: So to conclude the original question of this thread; according to my surgeon, someone with my situation/circumstances should be eating anywhere between 1200 - 2000 calories. Still mostly Protein, but a far more casual attitude about carbs and fat than what I was thinking.

And that is exactly the reason I posted this in the Guy's Room. I know the women can read it, but the illusion that we are a bunch of guys talking amongst ourselves really helps getting the information out there for the rest of us. Man, that is the perfect metaphor for the sensation!

@@dlappjr dude, that is me to a tee. I was a 10 o'clock RR break almost like clockwork. Maybe miss a day here and there. I am not back to that, but at least I am not stopped up for 4 days. There were days very recently that I felt like I was trying to pass a boulder. I can confidently say that for a week now I have been pretty comfortable doing my business. Here is a listing on ebay that is the same as I bought: http://www.ebay.com/itm/Squatty-Potty-Ecco-7-9-2-Pack-Natural-Aid-For-Constipation-Hemorrhoids-/141840955780?hash=item2106613984:g:bNEAAOSwlV9WScxS For that price, you get to decide if the 7" or the 9" is right for you. Or put on in each bathroom if you have two.

@@OneDollarBill Good job man. That's what it's all about isn't it? Being around for your children and being able to be active with them?