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I really don't care if they give me a reply. It's more the fact that no one likes me and then I hear all these stories from women about not finding nice guys. Now I did get an email from a woman. Her only picture is a plate of food. I feel like she knows I lost weight and is playing tricks with me.

This picture was taken one year ago today so I figured I would take a new one. It does look like my feet are smaller. It seems like they don't swell up as much. You'll notice the scale is smaller as I don't need the extra wide scale. My surgery was June 22nd, one month after this picture and 11 months ago today.

I have social anxiety but I only have an issue in person. Online it's a much easier endeavor. I big part of it was when I showed interest in a girl in high school. She wasn't interested in me but made it a point to mock and point out how ridiculous it was for someone like me to be interested in her. Since then I have always tried to hide my interest when around women I'm attracted to. It's easier to express it online. I just get tired of women claiming they can always meet jerks but then constantly ignoring me.

I've talked to professionals before. It never gets me anywhere. I've been researching what to write in emails and that doesn't work either. I started an email today with a good match but then quit because I figured it would be pointless.

To me getting a response isn't exactly necessary. On Match, I can tell when they read my message. If they don't respond within 24 hours of reading the message, I just write them off. No need for a thanks but no thanks. My biggest issue is that none of them like me.

It was one of my weaker moments. I was desperate.

I'm currently courting a dog behind his back. The pet adoption place is the only place that returns my emails.

I got a cat so I'm good. Ironically my dates with the cat revolve around food. He only seems to come out of the woodwork when I have food.

In that case, I received a like from a woman, so I emailed her even though she is a Packers fan, and she just ignored me. Is this some sort of game? A lot of guys send "Hey beautiful" messages because they get ignored so much. I'm past the point of thoroughly reading profiles and coming up with thoughtful messages just to be ignored.

Not necessary. I got all the information I need. I will ask an admin to remove my post and subsequent quotes. It appears I can no longer edit my posts or I would do it myself.

What does courting entail? I was never taught these things. What is my end of the deal? If I court a woman, what should I expect in return? Men aren't very complicated. Either you like me or you don't.

I may try Tinder. At this point it can't hurt.

I play mostly original Nintendo. Still living out my childhood.

That's my problem. I have social anxiety disorder. I was just recently prescribed Paxil. Going to places and meeting strange people in person just doesn't work for me. I've been discovering it's been a combination of how I was raised and being overweight my entire adult life. I have no problem communicating online. I need to build up a rapport online and then meet one on one. I try approaching strangers in a public setting and I get heart palpitations and sometimes struggle to speak.

I made sure to mention something in their profile. I was spending 30-45 minutes trying to craft a nice email message. I always asked something specific they mentioned in their profile and then mentioned how we relate through whatever it is. I also didn't want to come out and just compliment them on their looks right away either. After about 100 of these with no response, I felt it wasn't worth the time and effort so they got more generic and I read less of their profile.

I found the free dating sites to be low quality. On POF I got solicited by a dominatrix. I almost contacted her back just so I could at least be with a woman. I'm employed and fully clothed and yet still can't get any woman to respond. I keep hearing how low quality the guys are on these sites and yet 150 women chose to ignore me.

I would say high quality women are rare too. The ratio of men to women in my area is pretty even. I don't see it as an overwhelming advantage. I would imagine women out number men due to women living longer than men so it's likely more 70 and 80 year old women. I am really 6 foot. My surgeon measured my height and I was 6'1 so I did lie about my height and made myself shorter.

So what is my advantage and how do I use it? You've shown here that women are more likely to be victims of sexual assault. I guess if you view me as a rapist because I'm a man, that isn't an advantage to getting a date.

If it were that easy, I would.

I started a fake Match account as a woman seeking a man just so I could compare other guy's profiles to mine. No picture and I even wrote in the description this is not a real account (somehow that got by the staff at Match but I digress) and I have gotten a lot more attention with that account. A woman can walk outside with no top on and have plenty of male suitors lining up. I go outside with no pants on and I get arrested. Men are expected to make the move and approach women so all women have to do are sit back and pick their suitor. Not sure where my advantage comes in.

I feel the same way. I notice more if people are overweight. I got the surgery after I had been working from home so I don't see my coworkers often. I topped out at 470 pounds and 99% of the time, I was the largest person in the room. All those coworkers looked to be at sizes I would have loved to be at. Now I go back and see the coworkers at 212 pounds, and suddenly they look bigger. I'm noticing some are bigger than I thought and actually bigger than I am.

What is my advantage?

That's cool you want to judge me as bitter, but I'm trying to understand what women want because apparently what I'm doing isn't working.

I keep my profile up to date but I don't really message anymore. I hear women today are strong and independent so I don't know why I have to conform to gender roles and be the one who initiates contact. I'll let women contact me. So far it isn't working.

Men can also make a date with their friends so why do men have to do all the work of courting you and scheduling dates? Seems like a lot of effort when I can just hang out with the guys.