Jerr_Bear

For me it's definitely sweetened iced tea. I love that stuff. But unsweetened isn't so bad now, as long as it's brewed strong enough.

push ups are good for pectoral muscles(chest). Even if you aren't ready to do full on pushups, lean yourself up against a wall and push off it several times.

Ya know...Maybe you should confront that person (not in a threatening way, just casual conversation) and ask what exactly he/she knows about the type of surgery you had, and when they start mumbling and stammering, just say "Yeah, that's what I thought... so don't judge me or what I've done until you have educated yourself about it or walked in my shoes." Most people cannot even have an intelligent conversation about it because they don't know anything about it. They don't know that there are several different surgeries done to help aid weight loss and most importantly if someone has a high risk of morbidity and / or they can't exercise, this is the only option. If people want to say we took the easy way out, then they are uneducated as to what we have to go through or what our lives were before surgery. I'm sorry but I would have to say something to that ____wad. Can't stand people that act like they know everything but they are really stupid. I say..."Educate them!!!" LOL I see what you are saying. If a family member or close friend had taken a similar position, then I might feel compelled to educate them. But this is just some j@ck@$$ who works in the same office as me. Not worth my time. Like I said, this is now a matter of life and death. I'd rather not spend my time trying to inform the ignorant. I guess I've learned to let stuff like that roll off my back.

Over the many years of being overweight, I've managed to develop a thick skin. Some guy like that could never discourage me. Had we been anywhere else, and not the office, I'd have told him to eff off. Thanks for all the stories, guys. Just wanted to share mine

I don't know how he found out, I really hadn't told many people at work, but I guess people talk. Anyway, it came up in conversation, and he started questioning my motivation, saying that didn't I worry that I was taking that easy way out. That if I just worked hard and stayed disciplined, I could do it all on my own. He made it sound so simple. I could tell he thought he was being positive, but he was being condescending, something he has a reputation for doing. First of all, it's not so simple. I am well over 200+ lbs over. I have gone past the point of no return. And while I make no excuses for how I got this way, I know it's all on me, and I haven't made the best choices in my past. But I'm at the point where medical intervention is required, and my doctor wholeheartedly agrees (I love her by the way!). And I'm going to do this like I do everything in my life. To the best of my abilities. Despite his opinion, I know this will most certainly not be easy. In fact, I want to it to be hard. It will make it that much more worth it once I reach my goal. And second. This is life and death, I'm in my mid 30s now, and the clock is ticking. If I keep going on this path, I will not have much time left on this planet. I am not concerned with preserving my honor in his eyes. I have family and friends who are all united in their support of me on this. And he's just some guy we hired last year to do . . .I really don't know what he does. So for those that say, we're cheating, or taking the easy way out. Kindly direct them to engage in intercourse with themselves. Rant over.

San Antonio here. Just beginning my process. Looking forward to a change.

I feel this might be the case. It's hard for me to imagine a doctor pushing to lose weight that fast. I don't think that's very responsible. If that truly is the doctor's opinion, maybe go see another doctor.

WTH. Does the surgeon get a bonus if you lose a certain amount if you reach your goal weight within 6 months? You are down 61 lbs in 3 months. That's pretty damned impressive, surgery or not. I'm not a doctor, but it doesn't seem reasonable or safe to push any harder than that. You're losing weight, that's what's important. With every pound you shed, your risk factors for a whole host of health problems decrease dramatically. Wellness is the goal here, not who can lose the most, the fastest. Maybe a second opinion would be something to consider here.

Don't be discouraged. Just my perspective here, but you've already lost ~30% of your expected weight loss in 2 months! That looks like progress to me. In 6 or 7 months you'll be where you want to be. I'm sure it gets tough, but stick with it, and you'll do great.

Once you are recovered from your surgery. Make this part of your routine. Do 10-15 pushups every night right before you go to bed.

If you can afford it, and it will make you feel better, I say go for it. Sorry I don't have anything more to offer on this topic

I know BP sends a lot of patients to TJ, and I hear the doctors there are great. But has anyone had any experiences with some of the doctors in other citys in Mexico? I'm leaning more and more to the self-pay route and going way down Mexico way. I live in south Texas, and as it is, I'm only several hours from the border. It seems silly for me to travel all the way to San Diego just to go across the border there. I'd like to keep my travel expenses to a minimum. Has anyone been to any surgeons in Monterrey or along the Rio Grande Valley? I would also consider cancun. I'd appreciate any feedback. Thanks.

Here's a new one. I want to go kayaking. I love fishing and am too poor to own a boat, I figure a kayak is a good middle ground. I want to start flying more places. I simply refuse to fly anywhere at my current size. I want to ride a zip line. I want to sit at a restaurant booth. I want to see my wang again.

I would told her to f**k off. And no wonder her kids don't call her. But then again, my defense mechanisms have been honed to a razor sharp edge over the years.

Hi, that is definitely an option I am ready to consider if the insurance company is less than cooperative, especially if I decide to have it done Mexico. Thanks for the reply.

Hi everyone, My name is Jerry, I am 36 years old living in San Antonio, Texas. I have been overweight pretty much my entire life. Throughout high school and college, I was heavy. Yet I still managed to maintain somewhat of an active lifestyle. The college I went to had a huge campus, and I walked everywhere. I probably averaged several miles a day walking from class to class. That activity seemed to be enough to keep my weight in check. However as I've gotten older, I've begun to experience more and more health issues due to my weight. It has also affected my lifestyle. Just doing simple things now are more difficult than they should be. Riding on the roller coaster at six flags, going to theaters, and stuff like that. I know I'm on borrowed time, and it's time to make a change. Frankly, I'm excited about it. I've always been a spirited person who welcomes change and tackles it head on. The only thing about this that makes me nervous is paying for it. I'm still dealing with my insurance, and it's still not clear whether or not we can get them to help pay for it. I guess time will tell. But I am determined to get this done some how. I'm looking forward to meeting everyone going through the same experiences.