laurenella82

...at the end of the tunnel. So yesterday I finally got fed up with this whole psychologist mess and sent an email to the patient navigator for some advice. Thank God she doesn't mind my ranting! So she wanted to speak with the psych doc and asked for his number. An hour or so later she emails me back asking me to call her. And just like I said....she found him just as weird as I did! Lol!! She said the whole situation was very strange but she helped him understand what was needed from him. What she found more strange was that he wanted to talk to my nutritionist....okaaaayyy... So prayerfully he will have his part in by Friday so they can submit me for approval.

I'm having the surgery, not my dad. He's afraid for me going under the knife.

Congratulations!!!

You all give great advice. Thanks!

Lol! What is it about old men and young girls lol! I used to be really attracted to older men (not 60 though). My son's donor is 18 years older than me. He killed the older man thing for me because mentally he's 15 and I couldn't deal Smh. So I get what you mean wanting someone closer to your age....with all of his teeth!! Lol

Just curious to know if I'm alone in this. I'm 32 and I've not, in my adult life, had a boyfriend. I had this conversation with my psych doc and with a close girlfriend who knows I'm on the path to surgery. (PS, she's a phenomenal chef and is super considerate and supportive!) Anywho, the last time I called a guy my bf I was 12-13... I think this mostly stems from me not wanting.to be judged for my size and from me being afraid of rejection. But, I really want to be in a relationship headed toward marraige. I would like at least one more child...... Am I alone in that?

I've not had surgery yet but I know more than a few who have had WLS and what disturbs me most is how people sag they have changed and want to dismiss them. What I notice is that there is a change.but its only a negative change if it doesn't fit someone's ideal perception of that person. It's hard to get used to change for some but the most sincere friend or lover will be pleased with whatever you decide to do for yourself. It's sad to hear/see that someone is mistreated for being kind to themselves or taking themselves seriously and making themselves first. Especially because we can't take care of someone else if we can't take care of ourselves.

What an awesome kid you have!!!

Smoothe move is great!! Some of those teas (a s laxatives in general) make my stomach cramp really bad but this is mild but effective.

What are some brother you like other than chicken, beef, and veggie?

Thai ginger infused broth sounds amazing! I will have to look for that.

My family notices! You fix your plate with a little bit of food and they look you have three heads! SMH! I guess that's why most of us are overweight! I will not fall victim to their shenanigans anymore! lol

I thought about calling my insurance company to inquire about that but I'm hopeful that the last appointment will be the last appointment. When I call the doc tomorrow I will see where he is with his part. If he says I need to come in again I'm going to have to see about changing providers. I'm just ready to get this done!! And he can ask me out if that's really what he wants to do. I won't go but he can ask lol! This guy is easily old enough to be my grandfather!

Muffin tin cooking/freezing is the best thing ever. I use them often to control portion sizes now so I don't gain weight while I'm waiting on my date.

Lol!!! I'm glad you're feeling better!!

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I'm still pre-op as well and I have told some people. Most if my family is supportive. My mom says my dad is scared for me. But then he cried about me going to college in Florida and with me when I was told I had to have a c section. But my grandmother seems to think it is a bad idea. Her exact words to me were "you're gonna f@*k it up like you always do." And to make it seem like less of an insult she says "that's what we do. We f$*k s#%t up." Meanwhile, she's about to have another knee replacement. Also 2 others who have never been morbidly obese or even overweight had sone things to say. But when I asked them to put themselves in my shoes and then asked them to research the surgery and the process post-op, they changed their minds. Not grandma tho smh. It's a good thing I'm not doing this for anyone but me...and my 3 year old son who just wants his mommy around! I think that people fear the unknown. I think people try to discourage us because they don't want us to feel better about ourselves. They like us fat abd unhappy and dependant on them ( not saying that's your situation). At the end of the day, this is about you. Do this for you! And let them know that the reward is greater than the risk. There are way more success stories than not. You're you.g to be a success! They should ride that train with you! God bless!

Congratulations!!

Awesome! Yeah that epidural didn't work for me. I felt her cut me and had to be put to sleep for my son's birth. Smh. They will know!!!

What an awesome idea! I have a 32 oz container right in front of me as we speak!

I am beyond irritated! I can say that I've become more aware about some of my habits but at this point what else do you need to know?? My surgeon's office gave me a consult with a list of questions they needed answered for this. We went over that the first appointment on 1 December. WHAT THE HELL ELSE DO YOU WANT!!!!??? I get that makes his money psychoanalysing everybody. I get that maybe I could have benefitted from some couch time in the past. Maybe even now. But again I don't get is why he says to me (that in these appointments and on these "tests" he gave me) that I have demonstrated and proven that I understand what I'm getting myself into, that I have a great support system, and all that jazz, why am I still no closer to getting that last piece, HIS piece, sent to my surgeon's office? I reminded him again today that HE IS THE HOLD UP! They are ready to send my chart off for insurance approval abd have been ready since last week! IDK what to do!!!

Three people to make sure you stay asleep....I wan that!!! lol!!!! I've had trouble with local anesthesia in the past and I'm afraid something crazy will happen and I'll wake up from the general! lol

Thanks! I am done with everything except the psych eval. I've been to see him twice already and he just seems to wan to draw this out. He petty much told me what his write up would be but he wanted me to do some tests. I did those Tuesday and I am going back tomorrow to discuss results.....It's really irritating me. I'm not against seeing a therapist but he makes me see why some people are. I may need therapy from seeing this guy! lol! I really think he just wants to get money from my insurance company.

With so many things going on in my life, the stress of being unemployed and ALL that comes with that, I am sooooooo ready to get this done! It's really one of the only things I'm looking forward to and still excited about. I have strong faith and today it was tested so much so that I almost lost it! I need some good news like ASAP!!!!! JESUS TAKE THE WHEEL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh noo! Well I pray this works and you can move forward! How are you feeling? It sucks that you would have to wait an additional 4 weeks!