Healthy_life2

I get how you feel about weight gain after surgery. It messes with your head and negative thoughts and feelings about your weight/yourself creep back into your life. What do you do now? Take care of yourself and start again. Choose the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. I hate the term fail. This is an opportunity to start over in the new year.Don't beat yourself down. Talk to yourself more positively. We are all a work in progress. None of us are perfect. Focus on each 24 hours. What are going to do today to eat healthy and boost your activity. The sum of small efforts repeated day in day out will get you to your goal. Don't be afraid to ask for help. A consult with your dietician. Might be getting your mind set with weight loss or other issues straightened out. Counseling may help. We are here for the struggle. Be strong and press on!

Hummm helpful? for me no. I'm my own food police..lol People have their own opinions on what foods are correct.. I also noticed people get emotional/passionate about their way to eat to lose weight. It's a political topic..lol

Just wanted to make sure she got the notification of your post. @lindabalsca

No judgment from me. Stalls and gains are absolutely frustrating. Its hard when you see other people losing weight. Step back from the challenge. Come back if you still want support. Wish you the best, Jenn

1/3/18 Happy new year! We made it through together. todays weight 136

read embrace the stall below https://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/351046-embrace-the-stall/#comment-3952027

You are in real food stage ...right? You will feel hunger at times. there are some thing to try to manage it. Are you eating three small meals and two snacks throughout the day? Are you able to eat veggies with your protein yet? What does a day of food look like for you?

Ok here is my ranty two cents... Deep Breath~ I agree, right after of surgery, you cannot consume enough calories to support a high level workout. .no gym. At low calories you can support walking for exercise. After surgery, walking is instructed by surgeons for the healing process. After you heal from surgery, You will be released to goto the gym.. His points on when can you goto the gym I don't agree with. (1) is your head straight? according to his credentials off his website (link below). He has no educational background in psychology. http://www.lovelace.com/duc-vuong-md I disagree with his statement that the gym is a distraction from dealing with your mental headspace, It is where I processed my moms death..And yes, I lost weight. The gym is a great place to process life's issues as you listen to music or self help books. It's replacement for that stress emotional eating. I question why he doesn't promote making the gym a healthy habit and counseling/therapy at the same time? He says the gym is a distraction from working on your issues....Is therapy a distaction on working on your health? Both can be done concurrently. therapist/counselors want you to exercise to help with depression/mental issues. He contradicts this..I'm not sure why? (2) Don't go to the gym if your head is not seeing your weight loss correctly? According to him I should have never stepped in a gym for a year. My weight loss was rapid. There is no way to look at myself correctly when I changed physically month to month,... I had to wait until goal to see myself correctly. My mind needed to catch up with the weight loss. (3) he says don't go to the gym expecting weight loss. The statement should have been: dont go to the gym expecting weight loss if you eat a crappy diet. Weight Loss is 70% kitchen 30% gym. Again, just my opinion..I'm no expert

Happy new year! I hope this is the year you heal and move past all the surgeries. Are you working with the Boise St Luke's bariatric surgeons? I'm also in Idaho.

I logged your food in MyfitnessPAL (free food log app) Download food log here I hope you choose to log. It is the best tool ever. Logging helps to see if you are fueling your body correctly. It's also a motivator. At the end of the day it will tell you....If every day was like today you will weigh X amount in 5 weeks. this is an estimate i don't have your exact amounts of food, what you ate for supper or food brands. 1 breakfast sausage link winco 95 calories .5g carbs 1 large egg fried 120 calories .4g carbs 1 oz cheddar cheese 110 calories 0. carbs 1 pop tart toaster pastry 200 calories 37g carbs 1/2 white bread . 70 calories 14.g carbs 1 tablespoon olive oil mayo kraft 35 calories 2g carb3 4 oz winco deli turkey 90 calories 1.5 carbs 10 potato chips 150 calories 14 carbs SUPPER GUESSTIMATE: 2 0z grilled chicken breast 120 calories 0 carbs 2 oz french green beans 13 calories 2 g carbs 1 dinner roll 176 calories 29.5 carbs 1 jello sugar free pudding cup 60 calories 10g carb total of 795 calories 61g protein 58g carbohydrates 34 fats 21 sugars I'm saying this because I care and I want to see you successful long term. (If you don't change over to healthy foods you are going to feel regret when you don't see the results you want) I'm not sure what your bariatric diet instructions are. You might want to check with your dietician. This is what I see that is making you hungry: Carbohydrates and sugar will slow or stop your weight loss. Once you eat carbs and sugar you crave them more. Time to detox off them. My dieticians instructions that may help with your hunger and to fuel your body for weight loss. Exercise, water, protein 60 to 100 grams. Plant based carbs. Keep carbs low (no potato bread, baked goods, crackers, chips, fries ) 3 meals with 2 snacks for the day. Spreading your food out 6 meals a day will help with hunger. 4 oz Lean meats, (protein shakes, bars, quest chips) sugar substitute (no sugar) Vegetables are your carb source eat as much as you want with your protein. the fiber will help you feel full longer.cheese and sugar free yogurt. fruit in small amounts (avoid apples and bananas for now they are high in carbs) Getting your water in will help with weight loss. Drink 30 mins after your meal. This will help with hunger. After you lose 75% of your weight you will add healthy low glycemic carbs to slow /stop weight loss for maintaining your weight. healthy low glycemic carbs: two tablespoons brown rice, sweet potato, whole wheat pasta and bread If I have left out anything I hope others will add more suggestions.

The goal should be healthy at whatever that weight might be for you. Here is my issue with statistics. Per my surgeon's office : St Luke's for the state Idaho follow patients for five years at each check up. The problem is that many bariatric patients stop coming to follow up appointments. Surgeons offices see a drop off of participants in the first to second year. St. Luke's is still required to send in the statistic even when they know for fact they are not accurate. These are factored into the national average. St lukes also says its normal to gain around fifteen after goal. Your body naturally wants to settle at a certain weight. I don't judge people that have lost 100% of weight, Lost below the norm or have weight gain. I also don't judge " if your body does not want to put up with a diet and calorie restriction" Things that I see when I talk to local patient in my area: (not saying all these issues will cause weight gain either) Gains can be small or a major for many reasons...Healthy issues, wrong type of surgery for the individual, not properly screened by the mental health process, muscle mass gain, eating/exercise disorders, mobility issues, hormone issues, Pregnancies, complications from surgery and going back to poor choices/behaviors (I'm sure I missed more examples) Personally, I never wanted to be considered a statist in this process. Each of us have different goals. it's a choice of what weight makes you comfortable for goal and maintenance. I hate the word failure. It might be you cannot lose weight due to the examples listed above. Could be a set back gain. What my life looks like at 3.7 years out for life I live on protein, sugar substitute, dairy,vegetables, healthy carbs and fruit.( I eat all food groups) At goal I indulge once in a while. When I have a weight gain. I go back to basics and get back down to where I am comfortable. Maintaining for me is chasing the same 10 to 15 pounds.Weight loss is slow.

What does a day of food look like for you? It will give us a better idea of suggestions to give.

never had one. Did fine without it

You will get the information from your surgeons team on what your eating plan will look like. My plan for weight loss phase: high protein 60 to 100 grams. Low carbs. Carbs will be from vegetables. No potato, rice, breads pasta. When I lost 75% of my weight I could have two tablespoons of healthy carbs...Nothing white or processed. Whole wheat, brown rice and sweet potato. Adding carbs was to slow down and stop weight loss.

At three years out. I can eat 5 to 6oz of protien with a cup of salad. First stages, Took me forever to eat 4oz of meat for a meal. Sent from my SM-G920T using BariatricPal mobile app

What foods have you tried? Beef, turkey, pork, fish, dairy, eggs, vegetables, fruits? It's all trial and error to see what you can tolerate.

My restriction is still there. As you get further out from surgery you will be able to hold more food volume. I maintained pretty effortlessly for my first two years. Even when I indulged, I could go to the gym and work it off quickly. My third year and the weight loss has changed. I can gain 5 pounds if I eat off plan for a few days. That same 5 pounds will take me months to lose. The weight loss is slow. Yes, it is the food choices for me. I also think this is my reality for maintaining. I will be gaining and working off 10 to 15 pounds for life..lol

Sip chew..And GO HAWKS!

My friend and I are three years out. Love him to death! Know that you can't make anyone stick to things. They have to do the work. You can't make everything better for other people. Just be there for the good, bad and ugly..lol Good that you have her going to group and getting the information she needs to be successful.

Exercise..Most of us were given instructions to walk for the healing process. I could not imagine trying to weight lift or do zumba after a surgery. What kind of exercise did your Dr have in mind? Hope you feel better as your diet progresses. Hang in there!

Glad to see you back, I also came back due to a gain in my third year. The important thing is we are working on getting the weight back off. It's a new year and a new start. Tip's The weight loss is definitely slower at three years out. I miss the days when it came off rapidly. Get back to basics. Starting all over again having the same discipline. Log your food drink plenty of water exercise hit your calories and protein goals. If the basics are not working ..Get back to me about the TDEE calculator...

I waited for the real food stage for bacon. the debate on pork or turkey bacon. (don't forget sausage) Nummmmm The leaner the meat - lower in calories and usually higher protein grams. 2 slices Walmart turkey bacon 5g protein 70 calories - 80 calories and 5g protein. I use 1 slice of real bacon because the macos are pretty comparable. I love it on cobb salad and crumble it in scrambled eggs. Two jimmy dean turkey sausage links 67 calories 8g protein - pork sausage link 113 calories - 6 g protein I tolerate turkey sausage better it has less grease/fat.

I love that you are open to the loving slap upside the head from us. Makes me giggle inside. You are not failing, You slipped ..Get back on the horse. (or your waggon) Beating yourself down is not productive. Start building yourself up. You will overcome this. Much of this process is the mental side of wight loss. Just because my tummy can handle/tolerate anything doesn't mean it's the correct choice. Giving myself permission to eat bad choices/graze was something I had to work on. Might want to try getting rid of the temptation foods in your home...Or ask family to hide them from you..lol Yes, I have to do this when my willpower is weak.

Walking is going to help your body heal from surgery. If you have any health concerns...Call your team. I like the advice from @Creekimp13 three set of ten. Make this your first surgery small goal to obtain. Reward yourself when you hit that small goal. Best of luck to you! Jenn

It's ok for people around you to be concerned about any major surgery. Reassure them you are going to be ok and health is your priority. Yep, the easy way out is a common comment when people think bariatric surgery. Just rise above any negativity and press on with your decisions in life. Any major change in life takes work. I weighed and log my food, learn how to properly fuel my body, got serious about exercise, Most of the work I have done is the mental/ behavioral side of weight loss. I had overcome my negative self talk. deal with poor body image about my weight and stress/emotional eating. All of the work was absolutely worth getting my health and my life back.