Well Velvet, I only told positive people. I had to go to true results for 12 months before my insurance would pay. It was worth it in the end. My husband says he didn't mind but his actions were different. So I do feel alone sometimes on this journey. I got banded on October 24 so this is all new to me too. I found great support in this site and linked on this site with someone I met at preop appointment. If you are in Houston, The True Results on main is so helpful. I looked forward to my visits because they motivated me.